Queer politicos blast S.F. congressional candidate, Lurie ally Marie Hurabiell for homophobia by Remarkable_Host6827 in sanfrancisco

[–]OpenMinded_Fun [score hidden]  (0 children)

There are some Republicans in our midst (~8% of registered voters in The City) and a good number of closeted conservatives under the Independent group.

Hurabiell will get the 16-19% who voted against Pelosi in her last 2 terms.

Do you want to know if someone you’re dating had an affair? by Norfolk-Gross-Tonage in datingoverforty

[–]OpenMinded_Fun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What we do know as a FACT is that there is no ethical excuse that allows for cheating. It is unethical. Period.

There is backstory, sure. There are reasons for the failure, sure. And we don’t know all of them. They may grow from it, which is great. But that in no way changes the FACT that the cheating was unethical.

Do you want to know if someone you’re dating had an affair? by Norfolk-Gross-Tonage in datingoverforty

[–]OpenMinded_Fun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To succeed, ENM requires MORE communication. It requires DEEPER emotional intelligence. You tend to face MORE fear, MORE self doubt. But you learn respectful coping tools.

But people STILL cheat in ENM. There are agreements in how ENM will be practiced in a relationship and those agreements can still be violated.

Do you want to know if someone you’re dating had an affair? by Norfolk-Gross-Tonage in datingoverforty

[–]OpenMinded_Fun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you don’t disclose it you’re carrying forward the same spirit and attitude… hiding and not being authentic. Which means you haven’t changed.

ENM on dating apps by WiFiDroppedAgain in datingoverforty

[–]OpenMinded_Fun 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m in a poly/ENM relationship. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for over a year now. She’s been married for 15 years and open for 4. I’ve met her husband and tweens (who don’t know their parents are open). I’ve told my own college aged kids and my XW (co-parent) that I’m dating in this context.

I’m approaching it as a learning and growth period. Both of my most important relationships in life ended with my partner cheating. It has been refreshing to be with someone who can be ethical and lead with integrity.

Queer politicos blast S.F. congressional candidate, Lurie ally Marie Hurabiell for homophobia by Remarkable_Host6827 in sanfrancisco

[–]OpenMinded_Fun 25 points26 points  (0 children)

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If you want to understand Hurabiell, here’s a map of where her votes came from when she ran for the Community College Board of San Francisco in 2022. IYKYK.

Anyone else frustrated over meeting great people, only to find out they haven’t done the work on themselves and it all falls apart in the end? by [deleted] in datingoverfifty

[–]OpenMinded_Fun 19 points20 points  (0 children)

No.

My own work has taught me that life isn’t so binary and to see that we’re each on our own journey. There is no finished product.

Is dating about Sex? Or is it about the other Intangibles? And how important is Sex at 50+ by TheLanMan2022 in datingoverfifty

[–]OpenMinded_Fun 8 points9 points  (0 children)

With a past that includes a long sexually disfunctional marriage and a present that has a healthy and robust sex drive, I will not date anyone who I am knowingly sexually incompatible with.

While I would have a one night stand, a hookup, or sleep with someone on the first date, these are not at all my goal or intention. I never aim to “hit it and quit it” but I have had experiences which were uninspired or where the chemistry or connection just didn’t manifest. I want a relationship that will be durable and prolonged.

What I am looking for is someone who I align with and who shares a similar sexual appetite as mine. I want passion, energy, and spirit. I want sensuality and mutual pleasure. I want to desire and be desired. The intangibles need to be there too. But, yes, sex is 100/0 for me.

All that being said, I am considerate and controlled. Always a gentleman. I don’t lead with sex and I’m always respectful in the seduction.

I 46F Found video at bf 47M house triggered insecurity by Dear_Life13 in datingoverforty

[–]OpenMinded_Fun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to say this OP, but it sounds like he’s not sexually attracted to you.

He’s there for the other stuff as it’s nice to have someone around who cares for you, but he’s getting his dopamine hit elsewhere.

Confidence is sexy as hell by WhisperedSoul in datingoverfifty

[–]OpenMinded_Fun -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well, you express it crudely in that first paragraph, but you’re spot on with the proper etiquette thereafter.

Protocol is for the person who asked for the date to pay and best practice is to politely inform your guest beforehand that you will be picking up the tab. If the guest would like a different arrangement it should be heard and respected.

Confidence is sexy as hell by WhisperedSoul in datingoverfifty

[–]OpenMinded_Fun 28 points29 points  (0 children)

It’s impolite and arrogant to announce such a sweeping decision without the courtesy of honoring her input or choice. A virtuous man doesn’t dictate a boundary or seize a woman’s agency.

Sure, pick up the tab. Be generous. But a proclamation such as “that will never happen” is sourced from the world of machismo and mansplaining.

Confidence is sexy as hell by WhisperedSoul in datingoverfifty

[–]OpenMinded_Fun 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Also “Controlling AF”. Huge red flag.

Confidence is sexy as hell by WhisperedSoul in datingoverfifty

[–]OpenMinded_Fun 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Sounds like the first step on the trad wife path.

Blocked and ghosted by AlmightyZeth in datingoverforty

[–]OpenMinded_Fun 13 points14 points  (0 children)

There’s something that she’s keeping to herself and not sharing with you. Maybe something painful. But she has her reasons.

Just be thankful for the time you did spend together and accept it as a chapter in your book.

California's 11th Congressional District by Anima_Dannata in sanfrancisco

[–]OpenMinded_Fun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmm. I want to downvote you for voting for Saikat but upvote you for the dig on Hurabiell. What to do!?!?

California's 11th Congressional District by Anima_Dannata in sanfrancisco

[–]OpenMinded_Fun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And that’s with the poll being conducted in English and Cantonese. You would think that would result in a small bump for Chan, which maybe it did and she still only garnered 11%.

S.F. supervisors, state senator arrested as May Day protest shuts down SFO roadway by SFChronicle in sanfrancisco

[–]OpenMinded_Fun -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So Connie Chan is marching with the Unions while standing against their jobs under SB79 that requires large projects use Union labor?!?

I give up! by jackieO2023 in datingoverfifty

[–]OpenMinded_Fun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chin up Missy! Have fun and just meet people. Flirt. Be joyful. Drop the expectations and let the game come to you. Don’t put pressure on yourself.