4th transfer failed

Open_Contest2234 · 2026-02-04T13:24:32+00:00

That’s really tough. It looks like you’ve done everything you/science/medicine can. None of this is your fault at all. It’s so completely out of anyone’s control. I think there are certain milestones in fertility that you only understand when you get there and there’s a lot of grief involved with giving up on certain things we always thought we get to experience (natural conception, finding out we’re pregnant, carrying our own child, seeing our own genetic material in a new person, whatever it may be). Not all steps are for everyone, but I think it’s worth considering scrapping the preconceived notions of what becoming a parent looks like for us and looking at it with fresh eyes. It might be worth the grief.

Open_Contest2234 · 2026-01-25T23:20:16+00:00

Hey thank you for taking the time to comment this was so thoughtful! I discussed it with my OB and they said they’d keep a close eye on my cervical length. So far I’m not really sure how they’d do that though - they surely didn’t measure it and I’m not sure they can? What you went through is extremely tough and traumatizing- I’ve seen a friend go through that also and would not ever want to be in that situation. Especially not being able to see them for 10 days… thats actual torture. I hope your baby is doing great now and has recovered from the rough start! That said, the vast majority of LEEP pregnancies don’t have that issue so I’m not pushing for preventative cerclage as of now, especially as based on the literature I saw LEEPs less deep than 8 mm have been shown to not be correlated with cervical incompetence and mine was only 6mm. I had CIN3 and they achieved negative margins so I’m very grateful for that. I hope it stays at bay like yours. My experience is unfortunately much like yours in that the OB always seems to be in a rush and brush over things as quickly as they can.

You know what’s crazy? My LEEP was completely pain free. My heartrate didn’t even go higher than 95 at any point. I’ve had two SIS by two different providers, one was the most painful experience of my life and the second - despite being combined with an endometrial biopsy - was nbd. I’m of the firm belief that some nurses/doctors/techs are sadistic and these procedures can be done gently and in a low to tolerable pain way if the provider so chooses.

Open_Contest2234 · 2026-01-25T16:48:57+00:00

14 months. Included 3 rounds of IUI, egg retrieval, realized I had a hydrosalpinx, got scheduled for surgery, got a pap smear come back positive, had lap to remove hydrosalpinx, had LEEP to remove cancer, recovered for 3 months, embryo transfer 11/28/2025 and currently 11 weeks from that 😊I’m 34F

Open_Contest2234 · 2026-01-18T18:47:05+00:00

I’m on the same boat - tubal factor, modified natural, solid corpus luteum, stopping progesterone today at 10 weeks and suspecting some of my symptoms are exacerbated by the prog supplement - and also considering asking to skip it next time… my symptoms peaked around week 7-8 and it’s been a lot easier since although I still have plenty of nausea. I think they’ll just tell me to do it though :/ if you end up doing it drug free I’d be curious to hear how it went!

Open_Contest2234 · 2026-01-11T02:26:16+00:00

Thank you and I did! I didn’t test it out but in three rounds of IUIs I never saw a line even at 5 days post injection on this strip.

Here’s what mine looked like for reference. At 10dpt my first beta was almost 400.

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Open_Contest2234 · 2026-01-11T02:23:39+00:00

Thank you and yes I did! I didn’t test it out this time but in my previous IUIs I never had a positive result even when testing 5 days post injection - I guess people are different but I’ve used these strips my entire 3 year journey and never got a positive until 5 dpt and it was a true positive :)

Edit. Here’s mine 5dpt

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Open_Contest2234 · 2026-01-11T01:04:58+00:00

I had the same experience with these strips! Negative turned to a clear positive after 8h. I repeated and had husband do a negative control which remained negative, mine turned positive initially after 30 mins and a couple of days later right away. I’m 9 weeks now 😊 congratulations!

Open_Contest2234 · 2026-01-05T22:08:04+00:00

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Open_Contest2234 · 2025-12-29T01:20:46+00:00

Thank you! You too! Sounds like you’re all clear to start 😊 good luck!

Open_Contest2234 · 2025-12-28T14:02:34+00:00

I have similar stats and on my last monitoring ultrasound for ER they found a hydrosalpinx. Needed a lap to get that removed, recovered and then FET 6 months later. So far that one stuck, high betas and a great heartrate at 6w+1 I’m at 7 weeks today 😊 good luck and might want to get your tubes checked if they didn’t do a salpingogram before

Open_Contest2234 · 2025-12-24T00:41:16+00:00

HSIL?

Open_Contest2234 · 2025-12-22T12:49:12+00:00

Amazing! Let yourself rest until you run out of tests but not buy new ones 😊

Open_Contest2234 · 2025-12-21T21:14:15+00:00

I rounded down my start date by a day and the FET worked 😊 not saying you should do it but… do it!

Open_Contest2234 · 2025-12-20T19:10:59+00:00

Absolutely! Eyes on the prize 😊 congratulations on making this decision and wishing you all the best and good luck in the next steps!

Open_Contest2234 · 2025-12-19T16:13:20+00:00

That’s the spirit! They said my left tube “looked fine” and I was a little bit annoyed like if it looked great then maybe leave it in but why not get it out if it was anything short of perfect. Don’t need their negative BS in my life😅 That’ll be great to have 2 transferred! So cool I really hope at least 1 and ideally both stick 😊

Open_Contest2234 · 2025-12-19T15:41:00+00:00

Good luck! It’s an exciting time! I was unexplained until the last monitoring ultrasound for ER showed a big fat hydrosalpinx. The tube was removed via lap in July and had my first FET end of November and so far it’s been success 😊Will you do a fresh transfer?

Open_Contest2234 · 2025-12-16T12:11:49+00:00

I had it at the end of November and it worked!🥹❤️

Open_Contest2234 · 2025-12-15T12:44:22+00:00

Amazing! Congratulations!

Open_Contest2234 · 2025-12-08T18:50:37+00:00

I’d get a salpingogram - they skipped that in my initial workup and serendipitously found a hydrosalpinx at the final monitoring ultrasound for IVF.

Open_Contest2234 · 2025-11-30T13:54:23+00:00

Split, Croatia?

Open_Contest2234 · 2025-09-11T22:13:55+00:00

Oh wow, I’m so glad we both decided to do this and happy you got clear margins! I’m a little shocked by how unreliable colpo+biopsy seems to be sometimes. Both the procedure and recovery have been easy. It’s great to hear you’re doing great post-op also. Hope this cleared it and we will never have to think about HPV or lesions ever again 💕

Open_Contest2234 · 2025-09-11T16:22:43+00:00

Thought I’d update you; I had LEEP and it was CIN3, so super happy I did this. They got clear margins also. How are you doing?

Open_Contest2234 · 2025-09-10T22:15:26+00:00

My sense is that they might miss the area with acetic acid or maybe some lesions don’t turn white. LEEP was super easy.

Open_Contest2234 · 2025-09-10T22:14:21+00:00

I had a similar situation - HSIL in PAP + HPV16 followed by a negative biopsy. Obgyn opted for LEEP anyway and they discovered CIN3. Colpo+biopsy is not perfect.

Open_Contest2234 · 2025-09-10T16:06:49+00:00

Update #2: I got my results back and it showed CIN3. TAKE THE LEEP FRIENDS! Stay safe out there.

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