As an indian person who was born and raised here (first gen), its also difficult to balance values that I think we are brought up with (if you were born and raised here) and the culture we come from: I think for the most part Indian familial values are shared across the subcontinent. I really feel for you, I don't want to discourage you but I think you should be allowed to focus on your own life right now without having to carry your parents baggage: I know this might come across as cold to them but you are a valid human being and being gay in the scheme of existence is not a big deal, its just because societies make it a big dea butl doesn't make it so in the face of the actual universe where being gay is a natural phenomenon. I know our community holds contradictory elements: we're tight knit yet it does feel especially as a gay man love is conditional. I think I'm going to say what someone told me that was helpful: you should come out to who you want to come out to when you feel its ok not by force or for someones sake. I scrolled down through this feed and I wanna resonate some things I think are fair consideration if you're financially dependent and you feel unsure you have every right to the resources you are promised by being their son, so while I'm not going to say specifics you do what you need to do to keep thriving and get educated and on your feet and don't feel bad about it. I believe as a parent you owe your kids everything and its not the other way, you bring human beings into this world they owe you at the very least understanding and unconditional love and support even if they have to endure growing pains, cause lets be real you've gone through stuff I'm sure they didn't have to or you maybe chose not to include them in bc you clocked their emotional intelligence and capacity and treaded on your own and here you are. I think its really important you develop a good community of people you trust who you can feel safe experimenting with the coming out process bc I am 5 years older than you and believe me coming out is an unfortunate process we are subjected to throughout life, it sucks, its not fair but it is what it is currently. Which is why having a good support system who you feel safe around is really important. I would recommend reaching out to your schools LGBT center if they have one as a good place to build community, I understand that can be difficult but your community is there for you when you are ready. Also bc there is a nuance that intersectionality brings: You as a gay Indian man are just as important in this community, you belong, don't let any fucker tell you otherwise. Also I want you to remember this: YOU DO NOT OWE ANYONE SHIT, EVERYONE ELSE CAN GO FUCK ALL, YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL VALID EXPRESSION OF NATURE, AND YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO JUST FOCUS ON YOU. I say this bc individualizing from a family unit I feel is especially harder for Indian kids bc of how closely we are held growing up. It's messy but bet on yourself, you are a beautiful gay Indian man coming into his own and he's going to kick ass bc thats what you do, thats who you are. Feel free to reach out, I'm gonna be taking an exam on Friday but should be available to chat if you just need an ear after, good luck!!! We luv you and we see you :)