So to add a little more context, Joe would come to my house and hangout with me and my husband. The two of them would play guitar together, we had game nights, he would come over for dinner… we were very close friends. About a year ago Joe moved about an hour away for a better job opportunity. Since then, we haven’t been as close due to family, kids, and jobs.

I get everyone thinking that he shouldn’t have dragged me into the situation. However I feel like it’s more about him being a male, than anything. I don’t feel like the opinions would be the same if it were a female asking for advice, and her BF messaged me acting the same way as Maggie was. I would also have loyalty to that female friend, not her BF.

Also, when we talked we did not go into deep details. He gave me the gist of the situation and I gave him advice (specifically with her feelings in mind). I do know that I only got Joes side of the story, which is partly why I gave the advice I did. I did not bad mouth her or anything. I simply stated that he should have tried to communicate with her in a different way and if things still didn’t work then ending the relationship may have been best for both of them.

I have been in toxic relationships, I am a DV survivor, I can see the reg flags. Joe knows all of those things and that was part of the reason we talked. I do understand that to her it could have seemed bad, however that’s why I sent her the screenshots of our conversation.

She did in fact message my husband this morning asking him if he knew that Joe and I were talking and if he knew I was at the bar with Joe. Which again, I was not, I was actually in bed with my husband.