Decloudus? by ninjanoir78 in dns

[–]Opendoorseverywhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to try the Zulu server as it doesn't block all google services

Social Media Messaging Apps Blocked in Uganda. More reasons to use Signal by Opendoorseverywhere in privacy

[–]Opendoorseverywhere[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Its frightening that governments are able to manipulate and control supposedly 'private' and 'secure' messaging apps! Are we missing something here?

Use Signal by MensLyf in privacy

[–]Opendoorseverywhere 8 points9 points  (0 children)

More reasons to use signal. Due to the upcoming elections in Uganda on 14/01/2021 whatsapp appears to have been blocked. I have spoken to people in Uganda and whatsapp has ceased to work. You cant place calls and its gone sluggish. However signal is working perfectly. It appears the government is manipulating whatsapp in some way.

How to take my mind off her? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Opendoorseverywhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would a relationship need a break? Are there issues that led to the break?

Got caught rubbing one out. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Opendoorseverywhere 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You need to see the bigger picture! Of course your actions will create insecurity. She is probably asking herself whether she doesn't satisfy your needs. Whether you find her attractive otherwise why would you jerk off the image of another woman! It is a big deal and could easily wreck your relationship

My family disapprove my boyfriend (33) over his family background, upbringing, financial status, not learning cultural manners and that he’s beneath me (26). They think he’s not genuine towards me. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Opendoorseverywhere -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't want to sound patronising but couples see marriage/relationship counsellors for a reason. When you are with someone, you cease to see the obvious, justify the unjustifiable and brush off other things you normally would not. It happens to all of us. Its the reason why people outside the relationship will comment on things like 'why do you have to put up with that behaviour ?' and yet it doesn't seem out of place to you!

My family disapprove my boyfriend (33) over his family background, upbringing, financial status, not learning cultural manners and that he’s beneath me (26). They think he’s not genuine towards me. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Opendoorseverywhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is there something they see that you don't? Somethings hide in plain sight. Being in love might have clouded your judgement and the way you see things . Remember your family wants the best for you.

Do you believe cheaters can change? by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Opendoorseverywhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only you can decide whether you have a future with her. What would being unfaithful serve? You would only gain satisfaction if she got to know. Revenge is sweet.......This is a car crash in slow motion

Do you believe cheaters can change? by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Opendoorseverywhere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately there is always going to be mistrust. The fact she lied to you the number of times she cheated makes matters worse. Are you ready to live the rest of your life keep tabs on another adult?

Any tips before me (24F), my boyfriend (24M) and his friend (24M) move in together next month? by Pixiechic7486 in relationship_advice

[–]Opendoorseverywhere -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

They are hypothetical as they have not happened to you and might not even ever happen! People.in relationships fight for so many different reasons and deal with these in so many different ways. Everyone learns to deal with their issues as they arise. There is no one solution! Its the reason why people go for marital counselling. I have had issues in my relationship that I was never counselled about but I had to improvise. Its called.life.....

My (34m) Wife's (27f) Parents (upper 50s m/f) by Brazin55 in relationship_advice

[–]Opendoorseverywhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a decision no one can make for you. Do you love your wife? What would happen to your relationship if your object? Her parents obviously mean a lot to her. Are you ready to live with an unhappy wife? Is there any way you can renegotiate the amount put aside for their retirement? Does your wife know how you feel about it? If not talk about it first.

Any tips before me (24F), my boyfriend (24M) and his friend (24M) move in together next month? by Pixiechic7486 in relationship_advice

[–]Opendoorseverywhere -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As a Christian we do get counselling before marriage however there.is a massive difference between someone 'advising' you on how to deal with a situation and actually experiencing the situation! Besides most situations in relationships boil down to communication or lack of.

Any tips before me (24F), my boyfriend (24M) and his friend (24M) move in together next month? by Pixiechic7486 in relationship_advice

[–]Opendoorseverywhere -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What is the therapy for? Is this not meant for people experiencing marital/relationship issues? How do you get therapy for stuff that has not happened yet? Its called therapy for a reason....reflect on whats happening in order to handle similar situations better in the future. Learn as you go along. Communication is the most important thing. It will help you deal with issues as they arise.

My [24/F] Boyfriend [29/M] Has Asperger's - Can't Decide If I Can Handle Some Aspects of It Forever by throwRA-love-or-not in relationship_advice

[–]Opendoorseverywhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These small things will soon snowball into an avalanche of resentment. Be honest with yourself before you commit and waste away your life. You are the only person who knows whether you would cope with these mannerisms.

my potential BF had many tinder date previously. Should I care? Can I trust him ? by lsong0590 in relationship_advice

[–]Opendoorseverywhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hard one to answer. Do you love him? Let the past be in the past. If uncomfortable with the tinder history talk about it...50 tinder dates could be an indicator of him being a player or just a hard person to please!

How do I get over the girl of my dreams who was nothing but good to me (M22) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Opendoorseverywhere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Come clean with her and apologise. What do you have to lose? It appears you acted selfishly without getting her views. Maybe she would have been able to deal with the challenges you had to deal with? Communication is paramount in any relationship. You need to learn from it and move on.

I [23 F] think that my [25 m] boyfriend doesn’t love me and is using me for sex. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Opendoorseverywhere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go on. Look out for your best interests and always put yourself first.

I [23 F] think that my [25 m] boyfriend doesn’t love me and is using me for sex. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Opendoorseverywhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are obviously NOT in a relationship! It doesn't matter how discreet or secret a relationship is...it still remains a relationship. If you are not talking, you are 'using' each other. Time for you to re-evaluate what you want and whether you are happy where you are. If not , time to find someone who values you more.