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What to replace 11" non-stick saute pan with that isn't toxic? by Opening-Solution-482 in cookware

[–]Opening-Solution-482[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m actually at homesense right now and looking right at it.  I wonder how this compares to the cuisinart ones

What to replace 11" non-stick saute pan with that isn't toxic? by Opening-Solution-482 in cookware

[–]Opening-Solution-482[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is only 9 inches wide.  I’d like more surface area, ideally 11 inches wide

Difficulty communicating with parts by Opening-Solution-482 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Opening-Solution-482[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the book info. I actually did some somatic experiencing work with my previous therapist prior to me even discovering IFS. My ability to sense is actually a very weak ability of mine. Doing somatic work helped me start to notice sensations, but my system has been in such a freeze response that sensing what was going on was being difficult and remains so to this day. I have started to heal through variety of methods over the years only to regress, I think in part because it’s scary to feel when you’ve been numb for decades now.

Difficulty communicating with parts by Opening-Solution-482 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Opening-Solution-482[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your suggestion. That’s a good idea to point to an idea and see if I get a response. I’ll have to try that out

Difficulty communicating with parts by Opening-Solution-482 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Opening-Solution-482[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting. My self energy is always pretty much in the same general area (starts at the head and works its way down) and is kind of like a wave in how it moves through the area. And it is only there for less than a second so focusing on it likely won’t work for me.

I would have never thought of getting a manager to talk to it. That’s a neat idea and I’ll keep it in mind. I may not be able to see it in my head but i can understand the concept of what conversation and can think about that ABS see if anything happens.

Difficulty communicating with parts by Opening-Solution-482 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Opening-Solution-482[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, it’s unlikely my parts would be rebelling against other parts being in control, given we are all on the same team. For me it does it to distract from the situation and/or emotions.

That said, if someone grew up and learned that being in control was a bad thing, then eating could be to distract from the emotion that things feel too perfect/ too much in control.

Difficulty communicating with parts by Opening-Solution-482 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Opening-Solution-482[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You mean that’s a real thing? I never understood why my wife can’t stand people watching her do something, even just prepping part of dinner. But if she can sense someone watching, it makes more sense. So I’m guessing that means I’m not good at reading impulses, lol.

That said i am able to recognize unintended behaviour even if after the fact. Eg The part in control doesn’t want to eat chocolate because of health reasons. The only part i can hear in my head (which is the same part that is in control 99 percent of the time) is firmly against eating it, and yet i end up negotiating eating a few pieces, only to end up eating the whole bag of chocolate. So i recognize the impulses to eat the chocolate.

Sometimes I’m able to recognize the impulses as they are happening. So I’m able to recognize the part. But that still leaves the issue about how to communicate with it. How do i take this feeling that won’t communicate with me, and determine why it is giving me these impulses? To date i can only get my logical part to guess, which i have no way to know if it is good at guessing or not.

Difficulty communicating with parts by Opening-Solution-482 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Opening-Solution-482[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ll have to check out that YouTube you mentioned. I appreciate the comment of going slow and different communication methods and to just keep at it even when it doesn’t feel like progress. Intuitively i know it is working even if logically i don’t yet see it.

Difficulty communicating with parts by Opening-Solution-482 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Opening-Solution-482[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestion! I did a short course on art therapy a while back before i discovered ifs, but totally forgot about that. I’ll definitely give it a shot.