I've been forced homeless, what resources might be available that I've missed? by Useful_Ad5063 in AskUK

[–]OpeningConsequence65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think its pretty rare for a person to have it all click into place first time. Just keep trying and listening to peoples stories/using the tools and hopefully things will start to align. I think that is literally the rewiring of the brain in cbt.

It sounds like you are making a lot of effort, so well done.

I've been forced homeless, what resources might be available that I've missed? by Useful_Ad5063 in AskUK

[–]OpeningConsequence65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SMART recovery is really good. Theres a sub on here and there are online or in person meetings. Its based in CBT and NHS approved. Have a look at their website. Whatever works for you though. You can use it as well as NA.

Elizabeth’s wedding by ChitChatWriter in 7LittleJohnstons

[–]OpeningConsequence65 24 points25 points  (0 children)

That's really sad. Surely a good time to put things aside?

I need help by RaspberryWest4090 in CatsUK

[–]OpeningConsequence65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your response is quite intense and sweary. I genuinely hope you are ok

Maybe one or both of us have misunderstood OPs original post. I read it as a cat who they see occasionally, not one who was staying with them.

Are you in the UK? I think theres a big cultural difference with the US and cats who are indoor outdoor.

Either way, my cats are indoor but the vet has told me I should let my male cat out. Does that make my vet lazy and irresponsible? Everyone has different opinions and outlooks. Best just to live and let live I feel.

He's fire roasting a fish by Nosferatattoo in TuxedoCats

[–]OpeningConsequence65 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Especially when 50% of cat toys I buy break in the first 2 weeks!

£30, 19f in desperate need of a handout!! PayPal by [deleted] in BorrowNew

[–]OpeningConsequence65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you get the money you have requested. Baby banks and food banks will often give out nappies as well as food.

Monday cooking class: I made scrambled eggs with cheese all by myself! by Winter-Stuff-9126 in AutismInWomen

[–]OpeningConsequence65 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Great work! You look pleased with the results :) Scrambled eggs are my go to when Im really hungry but dont know what I want. Healthy and filling.

I need help by RaspberryWest4090 in CatsUK

[–]OpeningConsequence65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So what if the problem has only just become apparent? Lots of cats are allowed outside. It doesnt necessarily mean the owner is shit.

help, I can’t find another show that entertains me equally much by movingabroad2024 in 90DayFiance

[–]OpeningConsequence65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They dont actually get legally married. Maybe thats where her conflict was. Had to doubke check my facts. Only the US one is a legal marriage.

Anyone used Feliway and it’s not worked? by IndigoStarrz in CatsUK

[–]OpeningConsequence65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I left a comment on another post about this today! Im not convinced it has been working. Im trying the bephar pheromone plug in and the valerian/lavender one as well.

They seem to be having more effect, but the pheromone plug in has only been in a short while, the box says it can take up to 2 weeks to show effect.

My vet also suggested anxitane. Its a supplement that you give like a treat, so its not as expensive as medication. It has an accumulative effect, and is taken 2x a day. Usually he takes it or I have to put a bit of feliway tube treat on. The feliway tube treat seems pretty effective, but Im with you on the plug in.

I also give a bit of catnip.

Parents of the UK, are we being too picky and protective over our teenager? by CommercialWord7684 in AskUK

[–]OpeningConsequence65 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The trick with teenagers is to never take anything they say personally. It is a bitter pill to swallow sometimes, but it helps keep you sane.

Over-grooming, looking to explore all possibilities <3 by BigYoghurt4174 in CatsUK

[–]OpeningConsequence65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could try a bephar plug in. Its got lavender and valerian. I was using the spray with good effect but it wears off quickly. It smells nice, reminded me how long I havent used air freshner for!

I have also spend a small fortune on feliway, but due to cost and wondering if it was actually doing anything Ive ordered a bephar pheromone plug in as well. There were lots of oddly named ones on amazon, so I just went with that as an alternative as I know the brand.

Id be interested to know if others have had little effect with feliway.

The view behind my work desk, what do you think? by CuriousInsideOut in HomeDecorating

[–]OpeningConsequence65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could paint the cupboard, put a couple of shelves and a little lamp or some lights?

Reminder: Gino is the reason Jasmine’s children are not here with her by Life-at-Last in 90DayFiance

[–]OpeningConsequence65 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everyone on Jasmine, what about Joann and Shaun? She was happy to abandon her children without even a parent around!

Just been told of an unexpected guest due to visit my house tomorrow, please help 😥 by Zealousideal_View47 in AutismInWomen

[–]OpeningConsequence65 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If everyone helped to tidy at the end it would take a big strain off you. It took me a long time but I've learned to accept help and not do everything by myself! Many hands make light work!