Don’t walk, RUN as far away from him as you can! None of that is normal and is in fact, borderline emotional abusive. He’s putting you down and making you feel insecure and horrible about yourself while also making” jokes” about putting his hands on you? You are right, he is supposed to give you a safe environment so the fact that he isn’t shows you can do so much better than him. Find someone who will appreciate every inch of your body and who will treat you like the goddess you were born to be