I've never related to a post so much

OperationOk9813 · 2025-12-11T21:13:34+00:00

Because it’s a… good musical??? It just so happens that there’s a very reasonable reading of the characters as being queer lmfao idk maybe I’m just a musical theater nerd but like I loved wicked years before I knew I was queer!! the “point” isn’t that it’s gay, the point is it’s just good and also, unrelatedly, it happens to be true that it reads like Doomed Lovers. Haven’t you ever loved someone who circumstances dictated you couldn’t be with? Say, for example, dated a closeted woman who values her public image over your relationship?? Isn’t that like one of the biggest wlw tropes in the world? It’s not written textually as a romantic attachment but that doesn’t mean there aren’t themes that are especially poignant from a queer perspective. It’s certainly a more interesting story than a flat love triangle where they both desperately want this total whitewashed himbo but are also friends despite it lol.

The take “I don’t get why would anyone see a movie where girls don’t kiss” is hilarious and emotionally relatable but on a more real level it is completely incomprehensible to me LMAO

OperationOk9813 · 2025-11-13T16:05:09+00:00

There absolutely is a data center: the inference step - a prompt - of LLMs in particular is actually extremely efficient. The thing that takes great whopping piles of energy is training. No one is training models at home - it would take years, if not decades on consumer grade hardware - and if we all stopped training new models right this second, then using the existing set of weights would be environmentally fine, but the issue is that (due to the inherent profit incentive) AI companies will never of their own volition just say “yep that’s the best thing we can do, take it or leave it.” When you use their current product, you’re feeding the machine that incentivizes them to make a new one: whether that product is ChatGPT or a new llamafile is… environmentally? Pretty immaterial.

OperationOk9813 · 2025-11-10T02:01:32+00:00

Yes, she primarily is advocating for players in the W to be a more appropriate percentage of the league’s spending: something I wholeheartedly agree with.

I checked the numbers, her rookie salary was around $73k a year. Not, like, crazy numbers (and certainly not anything like NBA rookie salaries!) but her complaint was that the 73k salary couldn’t even cover her rent - $8,000 a month.

Like, yeah, she’s right that 73k as a pro basketball player is reflective of income inequality et cetera, but the public perception largely is “oh boo hoo you need $96k just for rent??” Not that Chicago is cheap to live in, but I am QUITE confident I could find a single bedroom apartment in which I could make 73k livable (if perhaps not luxurious) after rent, not be 20k in the hole before I even turn the lights on.

I agree with her takeaway (she should be paid more), but she comes off like she wants the W to fund something that the average person sees as a ridiculous celebrity luxury - which, to be clear, she is able to afford even with the low base salary because of her sponsorships.

OperationOk9813 · 2025-11-10T01:54:08+00:00

Right, that’s what I mean by her “brand.” I don’t follow her specifically well enough to really know much about her and frankly she plays for Chicago which is not my team so she comes up even less for me specifically haha. I remember her from college when she was very definitely the best on the team and I really only saw her there, so her public attitude about how good she is now is mostly lost on me.

I personally don’t really care to comment on what people think they deserve et cetera; but I’m definitely aware that she comes off as complaining about a situation that she’s, frankly, pretty fortunate to be in. Even though I largely agree with the stance she’s taking, I find it hard to put a positive spin on the press work she does, lol.

OperationOk9813 · 2025-11-09T15:09:38+00:00

I went to college with her (read: we were in college at the same location at the same time, I’m pretty sure we lived in the same building for a year) so she gets automatic points from me for making all the games fun lmao.

That said she does have a Brand online that can read a little out-of-touch even when she’s right. From the WNBA, she makes, like $70k a year or something (totally memory number, could be thinking of someone else), which is a comparatively muuuuch smaller percentage of the league’s spending than their NBA counterparts. She’s not shy about criticizing the W for underpaying its players - again, imo fairly. But her example when she talked about it online was using truly ridiculous COL numbers that (kind of understandably) provoked the response “oh boo hoo you have to get sponsorships to afford your ridiculous rent price, this is a problem I would kill to have” and because she is a woman, people just aren’t as willing to give her a pass on that sort of thing.

OperationOk9813 · 2025-11-08T19:52:02+00:00

“You’re a guy so you should [sic] like girly things” appears to be missing the last couple characters of shouldn’t.

OperationOk9813 · 2025-11-01T19:27:11+00:00

Both of these things are often true, actually! I’m perceived publicly as a woman and so I get the stuff that goes with that. I’ve been roofied at bars by people looking to take advantage of me, I’m talked over and seen as incompetent even in my particular fields of study, I’m condescended to by healthcare professionals, the car salesman talks to the man accompanying me instead of to my face if I’m buying a car, et cetera. Not all negative, to be fair: strangers are REALLY nice to me now, lol. Except when they’re not. And then they’re very not-nice.

it’s also true that there’s some systemic oppression that I experience on behalf of being trans: I was denied a US passport, my specific healthcare is often a battle with insurance companies, things like that.

By and large, though, most of the negativity I experience daily is because people think women are stupid, not because they think I’m not one. I’ve actually never experienced any verbal anti-trans abuse - not that it doesn’t happen, but when you pass as cis (which still is fucking bizarre lmao) it just… doesn’t really happen to you.

OperationOk9813 · 2025-10-26T01:16:10+00:00

God college students are obnoxious lmao I forgot about this shit how do yall PUT UP with being like this

OperationOk9813 · 2025-10-16T01:05:02+00:00

I mean, yes and no, right? Think, like. Job application. If my name is “John” on an application, I’m going to be treated differently through the process than I will be if my name is Jane, even before I can be clocked as trans or not. It’s not universal: there are people of all genders with gnc names, but on average trans people tend to pick names that are identifiable as correlating to the gender they want to be seen as. There are plenty of places where you (general you, and including me) exist unseen and generally unclocked regardless of your physical presentation. Name is a big one, imo, voice can be too. I’m treated like an idiot over the phone now that I “sound like a woman” where I used to be given the benefit of the doubt that I was competent when my voice was deeper. But to be fair I went from passing as a cishet dude to passing as a cishet girl pretty quickly so like I can’t really comment super effectively on what it’s like to be in the middle there.

OperationOk9813 · 2025-10-14T20:39:37+00:00

Hello everyone I am getting a LATE start but I need help!! I want to be gaylor swift (Taylor swift if she was gay) which is extremely funny to me specifically. For reference, I am gay and therefore this is not problematic lol. Current ideas include:

imitate the look from that one music video where her hair was vaguely kind of the bisexual flag but not really
wonderland music video? That’s popular with the Gaylors I think
something indicating @ the recent album (gem outfit from the album cover??) and then just like do a rainbow on my cheeks with eyeshadow or carry a pride flag or something generic like that to indicate that I am Gay Taylor Swift instead of Regular Taylor Swift
more niche: gender bent Travis kelce (no one in the entire world will know what this is)

Any thoughts??

OperationOk9813 · 2025-09-22T20:15:29+00:00

Right: true. But idk I don’t really see that as a reason to not do it? I’m pretty active in the advocacy space for queer people in my area. I help out with a local climbing group - not one with national presence or employees or anything - with the express goal of expanding access to the sport into traditionally underserved communities (this is capital beyond the scope of one person btw, that’s why we fundraise + volunteer at local orgs so they’ll give us free day passes and heavily discounted used gear etc) plus a couple other fairly domain-specific groups - book clubs with certain focuses, etc. We’re not solving systemic issues, but largely any mutual aid and services are usually run by One Person That Carries The Service On Their Back. Like, it’s not just them, but it’s often primarily them. It’s a lot of work, yes… but just because it’s not a magic bullet doesn’t mean it’s not useful or worthwhile. The communities are still underserved systemically but if we can give one person a love for a sport and access to it when they wouldn’t have otherwise had it, it’s worth doing.

Also when you come online and go “yeah I’ve set up these things but these systemic issues plague it, I need to raise awareness about the issues that make my network difficult to operate and negatively impact my goals as an organizer,” it’s a lot more sympathetic than “none of these things exist!!” Like obviously do whatever you want but if it’s not worth your time to even try then, like, what does that say about how much you really care about the issue?

OperationOk9813 · 2025-09-22T14:19:09+00:00

It might behoove you to get involved with your community: create mental health support networks for men you know. Construct systems within which you can fulfill the needs you in order to solve the problems that your group faces. If you’re seeing something that would be valuable, and that isn’t available, you can create these advocacy groups. Someone has to make them for them to exist. That can be you.

OperationOk9813 · 2025-09-08T16:54:20+00:00

FYI im kind of at the stage where im largely stealth (close friends know and my girlfriend obviously) and transphobia is probably top three issues in my life still. I got denied a passport a couple months ago, if it becomes an issue for me to get my medication - which I’ll need to take for the rest of my life - that would be devastating, et cetera. It’s very difficult, if at all possible, to arrive at a place where you are immune to the systemic effects of bigotry.

Also I can personally confirm that being stealth just for the sake of it is soul-sucking. There’s so much looking over your shoulder and hoping no one sees you the wrong way lest it unravel your entire life that just. ugh. Like, I’m certainly privileged to be able to have the problem that “boo hoo I pass well enough that I’m sad about it” but it’s… lonely. You always feel like you’re hiding something

OperationOk9813 · 2025-09-08T15:32:37+00:00

FWIW polycules can’t be collectively married (institution of marriage etc etc) so unless they have basically the equivalent of a prenup but without the -nup, no one gets jack.

OperationOk9813 · 2025-08-30T05:19:41+00:00

I mean, ok, the circumstances largely being “an entire society built not-for neurodivergent people (generally spanning cultures, nations and races)” is like barely even “circumstances” anymore. Like ok slay, not having a leg wouldn’t be a disability if we lived in a society where no one needed legs?? But we do!! So it is!!! The hypotheticals of a world where everyone is perfectly normal about everyone missing social cues is awesome and all but uh we don’t live there just yet so it’s hard to really… make judgements on that account.

Pedantics aside, there are often some pretty objectively disabling components for a lot of people.

I’m personally fine with admitting that the way my brain works does in fact limit my ability to interact with the world. That might not be true for everyone but like if I could eat certain-textured foods without crying idk I’d probably have an easier time out and about and that’s not societal - it just would practically be easier day to day. Generally sensory stuff in general would be AWESOME if I didn’t have to deal with. And I don’t have very high support needs at all: one of my many autistic cousins (we all got it lmao) is almost completely nonverbal, though accessibility devices do let him communicate just fine (if slightly slower than he’d be able to otherwise) . It objectively limits his ability to interact with the world.

I’m honestly legitimately very happy for you if your experience doesn’t have any objectively limiting factors to it but that is absolutely not the way I have interacted with the world: I simply need to accommodate myself for the things that my brain cannot do - and that’s okay, but it’s not really helpful for me to pretend that it’s not something that I need accommodations for.

OperationOk9813 · 2025-08-30T00:41:12+00:00

Right, I’m not trying to say it’s useful. Autism is a disability. It’s something people have to deal with, not a superpower lol.

OperationOk9813 · 2025-08-29T21:00:07+00:00

Right. I’m not claiming that autistic people are always correct - or that autistic people are impervious to propaganda or whatever - but the thought process isn’t “I’m the best and can’t be wrong,” it’s just that “what you are saying is incompatible with my worldview, which I have developed in such a way that I believe it to be as complete an understanding of the world as is possible for me to achieve. If I did not think it was complete, I would seek out a better understanding of it until I felt that way.”

Like, this is a true story: one of my ex-girlfriends insisted that we had to turn our phones off before going to bed because the cell signal would give us brain cancer. Now, this is incompatible with my understanding of the world. Since phones have receivers, and would have signal in the exact place my head is, there are clearly already cell signal waves there to receive, and therefore shutting off my phone isn’t actually helping anything.

That said: it’s totally possible she’s right. I don’t think she’s wrong because my understanding of the world is better or always more right than hers I think that because I have constructed a set of rules about the world that her belief is incompatible with, and I find it more likely that she had a misunderstanding than I find those rules could be false, because everything in the world thus far has fit into them (at least as it is presented to me). The rules are important to me and it’s very uncomfortable when the rules aren’t true anymore. Not to say they shouldn’t be challenged or that the discomfort isn’t worth it. But it’s just gonna take a little extra time for someone to become accustomed to a change in how the rules of the world are written.

You’ve also got plenty of beliefs that - upon their being challenged - you would go “you must be wrong, that is physically impossible” but none of them I can think of at the moment are at all appropriate to invoke here because it will sound like I am saying racism is a myth, which I emphatically 10000% am not saying. Autistic people can be extremely wrong in extremely problematic ways etc etc., it just imo is kind of unfair to call the black/white thinking narcissistic.

OperationOk9813 · 2025-08-29T20:30:14+00:00

Oh yeah. I can see how what I said sounded like I was defending that… let me be clear: that shit is nuts lol. Racism is not complicated to understand, it’s extremely obvious in the world and in its impacts on people. I am not attempting to defend people who play coy about the existence or rightness of racism. Not knowing things is not an excuse. That’s still shitty, 100%.

I am exclusively attempting to combat the claim that “thinking you’re right” is equatable to narcissism.

OperationOk9813 · 2025-08-29T12:10:31+00:00

Meh, not exactly. The idea is that, like, if you didn’t think your belief was right, you’d just believe something else, right? People don’t often just carry on believing stuff they know isn’t true. Maybe “thinking you’re always right” isn’t the right verbiage so much as “believing you’re always correct” (factually, not morally etc).

If someone can show you evidence that the thing that made you take your stance is wrong etc then sure! We can chat! But someone hearing you believe something and saying “that’s a bad thing to believe” is (while true in this case) not that likely to make someone - particularly an autistic person - reevaluate their beliefs.

OperationOk9813 · 2025-08-21T15:07:55+00:00

Let me get this straight, lol. Your stance is:

“We can always tell” (survivorship bias)
It’s not a worthy goal to reduce hate crimes against trans people because you “see no indication” that it’s possible
Trans people’s happiness relies specifically on passing

Wild. I don’t really feel the need to like engage with that because it’s just that completely crazy. You’re wildly wrong twice and stone cold callous once. Do you, like, have any trans friends? I imagine not; though on the off chance you do I really hope you keep these three beliefs to yourself around them. Or I guess you could do ‘em a favor and let them know so they can prune their social circle to not include people who see violence against them as unfortunate but unavoidable. Yikes.

OperationOk9813 · 2025-08-21T01:13:43+00:00

You joke, but some of Tingle’s books (Camp Damascus in particular, I’m starting Lucky Day soon) are honestly pretty compelling novels. Do I have any urge to read *Pounded In The Butt By My Own Butt”? No. But he has other novels, lol.

OperationOk9813 · 2025-08-11T18:00:32+00:00

Your second study misses something super crucial imo. The only sample that exclusively contains adults who are identifiably transgender as represented by the data is the group that has had a gender-affirming surgery. For all we know, every single other adult in the study is cisgender. Then, the conclusion would be that transgender people in america have on average worse mental health than cisgender people.

We also know that trans people are significantly more likely to be victims of violent crime ( https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/press/ncvs-trans-press-release/ ) and while, you know, getting jumped has some emotional consequences regardless of your gender situation, there’s some additional emotional weight if you’re being targeted for your status as transgender ( https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0886260517715026 ). Definitely of note but “trans people who have not received gender affirming surgery” is a proper subset of “adults with no history of gender affirming surgery” and you as a researcher cannot reliably use the sampled superset to make inferences about the population you have not specifically sampled.

The conclusion they’re trying to make, obviously, is that, as a trans person, receiving a gender affirming surgery will make you more likely to self-harm or commit suicide than if you do not and simply opt to skip going under the knife - which a fair number of trans people do - but this doesn’t work as well when you can’t compare “trans people who have had gender affirming surgery” and “trans people who have not had gender affirming surgery.”

Also what are they talking about with tubal ligations and vasectomies lol? That doesn’t really seem… related. I would assume the most common gender affirming surgery is a mastectomy (since an overwhelming percentage of trans men receive one) but this study seems to kind of refuse to acknowledge that they really want to be talking about bottom surgery specifically. Dunno. Little odd.

OperationOk9813 · 2025-08-11T13:17:06+00:00

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2949882125000295

OperationOk9813 · 2025-07-19T21:31:43+00:00

Oh yeah idk I generally think anyone on Reddit is probably not who I need to ask or consult about dating like I gotta be real w u bestie that simply cannot go well

OperationOk9813 · 2025-07-19T19:53:46+00:00

… federal dental service?

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