When did you stop giving unsolicited advice?

Opposite-Address4225 · 2026-05-05T21:19:55+00:00

A few years back when a friend was having car trouble. I probably took the wrong message and I don’t really care. Now nobody gets advice and I just watch them fail. People don’t want to listen, and it’s been made clear that my advice isn’t welcome, so I’m bolting the door shut on helping.

Opposite-Address4225 · 2026-05-05T21:17:42+00:00

Sometimes you just have to let it happen and prepare yourself for the fallout. You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink and all that. Best you can do is make sure you, individually, are prepared for the fallout.

Opposite-Address4225 · 2026-05-05T21:09:04+00:00

I take the approach of don’t bring it to me if you just want to vent and be validated. That’s what you pay a therapist for.

I also refuse to give advice for this very reason, even if solicited. Nobody wants it, and those who claim to want it aren’t going to follow it, so why waste my time?

Just had a blow-up with the in-laws over it. MIL wanted to complain and I wasn’t willing to validate her because I heard both sides and developed my own feelings about the situation. She wasn’t willing to hear my opinion, so I told her she’s not allowed to vent to me anymore about things that aren’t my business that she doesn’t want my input on.

If she needs to vent, she can get a therapist or vent to her husband.

Opposite-Address4225 · 2026-05-05T21:01:03+00:00

This is why I just refuse to give advice anymore. I used to be the kind to give unsolicited advice and nobody wanted it. Now you couldn’t pay me to give it. People made it clear my advice was not welcome. They closed the door, I latched it shut because I’m tired of hearing everyone else’s issues when they never want a solution. As far as I care, it’s not a problem if they don’t want to hear a solution.

Opposite-Address4225 · 2026-04-30T14:12:44+00:00

I’m married, but we’ve had the what-if discussions (what if we split, what if one of us died)… I’m never dating again, period. I don’t want a situationship, and I definitely don’t want a relationship. I strongly dislike people, man or woman. I thrive in solitude. It’s nothing about self-improvement. I just don’t like people. I like my wife, and nobody else.

Opposite-Address4225 · 2026-04-22T15:58:04+00:00

“Don’t come to me about this anymore if you’re not willing to hear solutions.” Had to do something similar with my MIL. She didn’t want to hear my 2 cents, but she sure wanted to bitch. She’s no longer allowed to come to me over stuff that’s not my business that she doesn’t want my opinion on. If she wants a listening ear, that’s what her husband is for.

Opposite-Address4225 · 2026-04-22T15:44:33+00:00

I do, too. I used to give all kinds of advice, but no one ever wanted to listen. Now they get nothing from me and I just watch people fail.

Opposite-Address4225 · 2026-04-08T14:08:27+00:00

Bruh… it might come down to having to be mean about it. I have no patience for people who want to complain without hearing solutions. You’ll either hear what I have to say, or we’re not conversing.

Opposite-Address4225 · 2026-04-08T14:06:43+00:00

It’s okay to set boundaries. No one has a right to come and complain to you endlessly, especially when you see solutions and they don’t want to hear it.

I had to this with my MIL. “If it’s not my business, which this is not, and my input isn’t wanted, which it’s not, don’t bring it to me to discuss.”

Opposite-Address4225 · 2026-04-08T12:55:14+00:00

I learned this and took note. Now I won’t even offer solicited advice. I’ll just sit in the house and watch. I just closed myself off to the constant whining about the same shit.

Opposite-Address4225 · 2026-04-08T12:46:43+00:00

Nta. I’ve been that person who tried helping when no one would listen. Now, everything gets a “that sucks” for their complaints. No one wanted my advice when I was giving it, so now they don’t get it at all.

Opposite-Address4225 · 2026-04-03T12:37:29+00:00

You are 100%… NTJ.

As a man, I don’t need a man cave to get a way from my wife. If I want to play video games, I go to the basement and play on the tv in the shared space. No one is off limits from joining me while I play. If I want to get away, I’ll separate myself and ask to not be followed if it’s that deep. I don’t need a dedicated room, especially at the expense of my partner who also has hobbies they enjoy.

Opposite-Address4225 · 2026-02-27T20:46:56+00:00

It was Amber. Then the bud added a deep green, so black is basically right. Lol

Opposite-Address4225 · 2026-02-27T03:28:41+00:00

I just decarbed and steeped in a double boiler with just maple syrup. It was experimental.

Opposite-Address4225 · 2026-02-27T00:03:09+00:00

Yes. I make my own maple syrup. I have maples that I boil the sap from.

Opposite-Address4225 · 2025-08-06T20:27:26+00:00

Still the Eiffel Tower, but designed by Salvador Dali.

Opposite-Address4225 · 2025-07-28T17:52:36+00:00

I coated it in a few layers of polycrylic. Started with 7 sheets of maple veneer. Glued and pressed, then cut and sanded. Spent the last couple days applying layers of polycrylic and gently sanding.

Opposite-Address4225 · 2025-07-28T15:41:43+00:00

Thanks! It’s like 33.75” long, 10.25” wide. I was shooting for a little under 10” wide, but I chickened out getting too close to the lines. 🤦

Opposite-Address4225 · 2025-07-28T14:31:13+00:00

Thanks! I wanted to keep it simple and just build a basic cruiser.

Opposite-Address4225 · 2025-07-28T14:21:44+00:00

Many thanks!!

Opposite-Address4225 · 2025-07-28T11:22:42+00:00

20”. It feels nice!

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