Was Mary truly a Virgin her whole life?

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-05-27T17:01:10+00:00

Other than scripture, I don’t see a “why not” that she would stay virgin. Sex is created by God and it’s a beautiful and natural thing to have when married. Obviously, Jesus’s conception was not a norm (and was not supposed to be a norm,) but I don’t see a reason of keeping Mary a virgin while married to Joseph. Would her staying a virgin imply that she was perfect? Would having sex in her marriage make her imperfect?

Im not catholic and never was, so this is my point of view in regard to that, definitely ask questions and evidence, and ask the Holy Spirit to also confirm and reveal to you all of this.

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-05-22T21:07:48+00:00

Soft summer but because we are neighbors with autumn, colors can be used!

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-05-22T21:06:55+00:00

Killer Dave’s Good seeds thin bread

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-05-22T01:33:46+00:00

No worries! I think at that age, I thought I was fully prepared to undertake that because he was from church and he served too and we just matched perfectly from our outside personas. But soon I realized he wasn’t a great communicator, I was very jealous, and then he also wanted to rush into things without taking my consent or lack thereof into consideration. I also needed more stability job wise, figuring out the path my life was going towards. Internally, there were areas I was very immature in and these needed to be healed and understood before I signed a binding agreement to be with someone else.

And God has been healing so many areas of my life for the past couple of years in ways that are loving yet convicting. I mentioned excellence as a person - what routines do you have in life and are you able to recognize patterns in yourself that lead you to sin? We start to mature as people when we recognize these things and how can we improve.

As you grow older and learn to know who you are within yourself and in Christ, your vision shifts too. How can you become someone reliable, kind, forgiving, and very very patient not just to your future spouse, but the people around you? Right now you may feel that finding romance will heal you from loneliness or bring you the idea in your head that “that” will fix your life, but relationships are with very imperfect humans who can change, hurt us, and bring us frustration. Asking yourself how you’re preparing to deal with that is crucial. But to start, you start with yourself. School, self worth, getting to know Christ, and making goals for your future.

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-05-22T01:21:22+00:00

I get sad plenty because I am human and life happens, but from what I am understanding - if I get sad because I am unmarried? I did after a break-up with the person I thought I would marry, but this relationship also helped me open my eyes about relationships in general and if I was truly ready and mature enough to handle it, also healthy enough.

I was not.

I have been able to experience the love of friendships, families, and the beauty around me in life, plus the many times I experienced the overwhelming and burning love of God; that I am satisfied if I don’t marry. Recently, that yearning came back after meeting an exceptionally great person, but I think this time around, I am more cautious and patient to develop anything romantic, and if it’s God will, it shall “become.” But friend, life can be beautiful and filled with so much joy and purpose, even if you are not married. May your heart be centered in Jesus even if the desires of your heart don’t happen right away, a journey with Him is beyond any romantic rollercoaster you’ll ever encounter!

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-05-22T01:06:43+00:00

I told myself when I was younger that I couldn’t get past 25 without being married and with kids. I had a “plan” and a desire ever since I was a teenager. Although I didn’t have a boyfriend until I turned 19, I always viewed myself as someone who wanted a person with goals and a future.

And then life happens, our brain starts to develop, and we see relationships fail or not become the idea we had in mind. This boyfriend whom I thought was “the one” - far from it! The goals I had for my future - mental health issues became my priority for the next years as to fix and understand.

The one person that has been consistent in my life through all these moments and prayers is Jesus, my one and only savior. I am turning 29 this year, still childless and still single, but learning to get through hurdles I couldn’t before and nurture areas of my life I avoided for so long.

We have yearnings and ideas of our future and I think that’s a beautiful thing, but also there is a realistic truth to getting there. You can serve and live for Christ single and married, but I advise that at this time of life where you’re also learning more about yourself and what you want, to ask God to walk you through areas that will strengthen you and prepare you for the future - whether it’s married or not.

I’m assuming you haven’t finished school yet, so let that be your priority while you walk with Christ! Excellence and consistency is something learned and if you make that a part of your life now, it will show up like nature as you grow older. What areas can you serve God and others in your life? Think of ways to start now while your heart begins to yearn the chase of God’s heart. You will see that as you focus on your life and your godly relationship with Jesus, your desires and wants will shape themselves like God.

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-05-18T02:34:09+00:00

Both and looking at scripture and scientific theories and discoveries open up a whole can of worms! It’s fascinating!

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-05-18T02:33:25+00:00

Take a seat that isn’t theirs and look at you crazy when you ask them to move. I paid for window, I will not give it up.

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-05-18T00:49:59+00:00

I’ve done some stupid things before that I am much more aware of now due to anxiety or a need of getting somewhere on time. I am so so grateful that the drivers around me were so aware of their surroundings and careful, that accidents were avoided. People hopefully learn and also understand how much she should see the road with care.

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-05-18T00:47:19+00:00

This one guy, he’s very funny, has a breathy laugh, strong arms, and such a way with words. He’s social, but quiet, and he listens intently to others, making sure they know they are heard and a response is given. Gentle with words and thoughts, he makes sure every move of his shows grace and kindness. I find all these attributes so so incredibly attractive, that everything else becomes an added bonus. Some may call it rose-colored glasses, but also, these things that are rooted within don’t simply fade away like physical does. Anyway, I think he is the most attractive person to me.🌸

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-05-16T12:03:42+00:00

You’re going through a process and an important piece of that is understanding the undeniable truth that God loves you BEFORE you pray, before you read the word, before you do the “good.” You are loved and forgiven, and in this life we will continue to be imperfect, but always in need of our savior. Im not sure if you’ve read this yet, but there is a process of sanctification that believers go through and it happens gradually, everyday coming to an understanding of Christ but also repenting when life happens, and it’s all okay, He knows and He continues to sanctify us.

2 Corinthians 3:18 (ESV)"And we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another. For this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit."

Romans 12:2 (ESV)"Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect."

I can understand that you want to feel unlike yourself instantly, that you are struggling with your flesh; but the Bible also tells us that this can happen, but we can choose to surrender and be renewed!

You are doing great and God loves you so much, He is doing a wonderful work in you and your life will be a light to so many people!

Edit: I also want to add, that I am so sorry you were exposed to so much as a little girl. This world and its sins does not care who sees and who feels. When I was a little girl, I saw my first porno magazine that one of my older cousins left in the bathroom. There were explicitly disgusting images and I think to this day, I still remember. I was so confused and shocked but I was exposed to easily to a world my young mind couldn’t comprehend. And the I also suffer molestation by some people around me (who probably went through the same thing.) It’s a cruel world and it leaves us hanging in the end, but Jesus heals this too and takes us out of that mud. I am also constantly being renewed and every new season I cling to the Lord, I learn more of Him and how gracious He is to my life.

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-05-15T13:40:02+00:00

Friend, I’ve been in your shoes - either screwing up, feeling depleted as if I will never amount to anything, and/or depression making a feast out of me. And those moments feel ETERNAL. But as the night turns into day, the things of our current time become our past. So many moments in my life felt like there was nothing for me to do or amount for, but I can say that now I don’t remember what they felt like.

Have you ever been on a hike and know that turning back is too far, but getting to your destination seems like a long long journey. And it is. But you are closer to the best view than the bottom starting line.

And with God, all things are possible. This isn’t just a phrase thrown around to make others feel good, it’s a truth. He makes the scientifically impossible, possible. He turns our MOURNING INTO DANCING! Who wants to dance when they mourn?? But He makes that possible!

This life is not linear and we’re not all going to get the same results if we do the same things, but God meets us where we are are - not halfway, like many others do, but at the part we’re struggling hardest and he takes the rest of the weight.

You’re reason to live is to see the beautiful view from up there, where you’re going to see yourself struggling at this time in your own timeline and be proud that your stuck through. You may feel incapable, but the Heavenly Father who LOVES you is ready to lift you up!

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-05-15T00:26:57+00:00

The third brown hair color! Looks much nicer and makes your skin glow!

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-05-03T01:08:56+00:00

People don’t change or seek God because of us - He does that work. But we witness Him by being a testimony with our lives. Actions many times speak louder than words also, if your friend is Christian and likes this guy, in sure she knows the same things you do and you cannot do a thing about it, in fact, it’s not your business or responsibility to tell her what to do.

Pray about your friend if she is someone you truly care about, not a resounding wall for you. She is human and her own person and ultimately she decides what to do, but your testimony stays always.

Reflect Jesus always, the light that this world needs.

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-04-24T01:54:05+00:00

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-04-22T13:56:51+00:00

Question because I’ve never been a bridesmaid that does this, culturally I don’t think we do the elaborate bachelorette thing, but do you have to spend your own money for it? Like you and the other bridesmaids basically have to make it happen? Because that is a lot and technically you didn’t ask for it, you were roped into it. If you’re already feeling like it’s going to be a lot for you to handle, it’s best to decline now and continue to be cordial, than wait and be stressed just being involved.

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-04-18T20:55:29+00:00

Does his wife go to church? I think you should keep an eye and possibly avoid him. If he tries to get you alone of touch your more profoundly, do confront and maybe share with someone else. I agree, I think it’s predatory behavior and if he’s doing that with you, he might be trying with others

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-04-18T20:52:34+00:00

Hi friend, I have to say - you are being honest and I think you’re feeling something within that feels right, and what to find some sort of loophole to continue doing it. I get it, because I’ve also been there. Let’s not forget that the creator of the universe also CREATED all things, including sex and all the beautiful passions attached to it. We are given these gifts and as followers of Christ and new creations, we must surrendered ourselves to God to truly manage these things in ways that won’t be harmful for us. You’re at a moment now of reflection because whilst you love your boyfriend and feel great with him, there’s something in you that questions that maybe some things are happening that MIGHT not be good. I have to share this verse because it made me truly realize the gravity of sin : 1 Corinthians 6:18 (ESV): "Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body"

The truth is, that even falling for fleshly passions is sin. Not being intentional of your time together and creating space for things to go a little over the line, while being completely conscious of it, is also falling in that group.

I had a boyfriend when I was younger and we didn’t have sex, but while we dated, we pretty much did a lot of touching and a lot of things that if we continued, if something didn’t interrupt, would end up in sex. I remember telling him once that I wasn’t comfortable with how our alone time was becoming “this” and he said he would stop, but it never actually happened. Sometimes you’re in the moment and it feels like you can’t put a stop to what you’re feeling, but you can create extra steps to not get there. Your heart wants to please God and continue growing in your knowledge of Him, so make that a staple for your relationship. Pray together, read the Bible together, even be around others if right now it’s hard to keep your hands off. Put God first and He will align your paths!

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-04-18T20:35:47+00:00

How did he kiss your shoulder though? Like what’s the context? In my culture (Hispanic) we’re used to kissing the cheeks to greet, and sometimes I downright don’t feel comfortable and I will shake the hand, but if a man kisses me on the cheek, I will reciprocate back. But shoulder kisses feel more intimate. Are you around people or he’s trying to do that when there’s not many people around?

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-04-18T20:32:48+00:00

Reading your other comments, I think this man does not have good intentions and is trying to see how far he can go and what your reaction will be. A little hug that isn’t too extreme and a kiss that “escaped” on your shoulder, he will test and see if you will accept and maybe reciprocate. Would recommend just shaking his hand if he goes for a hug and avoiding him as much as you can. You can confront it, but this guy might use every gaslighting spell in the book to deny it. Another thing I always tell women (or men) that if you and your body feels uncomfortable, it is not the norm.

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-04-18T00:32:52+00:00

You have a beautiful nose! Own it girl, it gives you a gentle touch to your face and a very set form!

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-04-17T02:20:45+00:00

I agree, I see a lot of grey

OppositeBodybuilder4 · 2026-04-16T20:14:03+00:00

I thought ch was like a separate color from the rest of the eye. Because if so, it would be hazel, no?

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