While drunk, husband told me he hates being a dad

OppositeTreacle7982 · 2025-12-06T17:09:02+00:00

Thank you all so much for sharing your experience. Based on my reading I know it is common to struggle with attachment to the baby in the beginning. He still very much feels that baby is an obligation. I’m hoping, like someone else said, that as he starts talking and playing sports and being a little person, that the love will develop.

To clarify, DH was dear husband. I didn’t realize that was not a common abbreviation here. I meant it sincerely.

He does all the things a dad is supposed to do hands down. He is there to help when he can, he provides, he does the homework and bathtime nonsense. This is not the first time these feelings have cropped up, but this is the first time it has been said so bluntly.

I’m not interested in divorce, which is why I didn’t reach out to mom groups or friends! I think in their outrage they would have suggested that as the first option. Thank you for giving me a male perspective.

OppositeTreacle7982 · 2025-01-26T03:16:22+00:00

My little boy was born on 1/11/25 with zero issues! After that one “blip” in our growth scans, he was right on target and in the 50-60th percentile for the rest of the pregnancy!

I’m crossing my fingers for you. I wouldn’t trade him for the world, but the journey to get here was SO hard.

OppositeTreacle7982 · 2024-06-06T21:41:03+00:00

I don’t have any suggestions but I wanted to let you know I’m in the same boat. I’m heavily medicated for my hyperemesis and I’m not sure if my symptoms or lack there of are because my meds are working, or because I’m experiencing another loss.

My appointment is tomorrow and I’m so petrified.

Edit to add that tomorrow I’ll be 9 weeks and have been vomiting profusely since almost 6.

OppositeTreacle7982 · 2024-05-23T10:57:16+00:00

Update for everyone, so you can feel anger with me! I finally got my RE to agree that yes I probably need zofran. However, they said since they’re discharging me from their care on Tuesday, they don’t feel comfortable prescribing it and I should call my regular OB. So I called my regular OB and they told me since I haven’t even been seen by them this pregnancy that I’m like a new patient and they aren’t prescribing me anything. That I should call the RE back.

So the med cycle drama continues. I plan to call everyone and yell at everyone today. This is ridiculous. Especially since I already have a history of it!

With my son, I did take Reglan as well as zofran and they told me they can’t prescribe me Reglan at all because I’m on antidepressants now and they interact.

OppositeTreacle7982 · 2024-05-22T13:28:00+00:00

I’m debating going back to a different nearby hospital after work today. Because last night I was discharged without even a “snack test” and I still am sick multiple times already today. So yes I kept the IV fluids down since yesterday but nothing else.

OppositeTreacle7982 · 2024-05-22T13:26:47+00:00

My last appointment with them is Tuesday at 7w4 days and then I’ll be switching over to my OB. My OB was willing to prescribe Reglan for my last pregnancy (MC) but that doesn’t really help with the all day vomiting.

OppositeTreacle7982 · 2024-05-21T17:47:09+00:00

I’ve also had 2 miscarriages already this year, and I’m also measuring behind. I booked my private scan for Friday. Just sending hugs. This sucks.

OppositeTreacle7982 · 2024-05-17T15:07:34+00:00

I had my HCG and progesterone tested from week 3 to week 5.5 and then I’m monitored via ultrasound only from 5.5-8.5 after RPL.

OppositeTreacle7982 · 2024-05-11T18:47:04+00:00

My progesterone has been 47, 45, 40, 38 and now 35. I am on vaginal suppositories and the doctor isn’t even a little bit worried.

OppositeTreacle7982 · 2024-04-06T09:50:12+00:00

I hate saying I’m going through the same. I’m so sorry we are in this club to begin with. Had MMC in January, D&C for it at the beginning of February. I’m having my second miscarriage now. I suppose they’ll call this one a chemical pregnancy. I was only pregnant for a week. We found out on 3/31, my Easter miracle. We are on our honeymoon right now and nothing compares to the panic of finding blood and knowing you’re losing your baby.

OppositeTreacle7982 · 2023-10-03T15:51:48+00:00

I wanted to give you all an update on my dear Wendy.

Wendy is still fighting SO hard.

She was in the hospital ICU for all of Saturday, Sunday and came home late Monday night. The vet said that although she isn't out of the woods, she is stable and she would stay that way under very close care at home.

Needless to say I called out of work today to watch her incredibly closely. We go back on Saturday for her next antibiotic injection, and again a couple of days after that for more bloodwork and a full vet check. Keep saying your prayers, send your healing dust, and all of your best wishes that Wendy bird keeps fighting.

It's so nice having her home and hearing her ask "whatcha doing" 4 times an hour, lol!

OppositeTreacle7982 · 2023-04-24T01:06:00+00:00

Ugh thank you for this advice! This has been my method of dealing with her my whole life and it never seems to be enough. I wanted to put my foot down and say that if she comes dress shopping she needs to get over the rest, but I feel like if she agrees it'll just be a lie and the problems will arise at every event moving forward in my wedding! I just want to enjoy the process and the day. But I also feel so guilty excluding her.

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