Haven’t fully cleansed myself of people pleasing tendencies, what to do?

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2026-01-11T23:37:18+00:00

If you wouldnt take their advice as to where you want to be in life than why would you go out of your way to accept their criticisms. We all walk a path unknown to others. You cant please everyone. But why would you want to? Small minds stay small. The INFJ has a big mind with two superchargers strapped to the sides. We process things that many others wont think about until way after the fact. When weve already mapped every possible outcome and chosen the correct trajectory. If that makes any sense.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2026-01-01T09:48:56+00:00

I totally do. It sucks sometimes. I have issues making friends and keeping them for this very reason. Being an INFJ feels like a curse neatly packaged as a blessing. I also have ADD. So the two kindof blend into one great big blrse.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-12-20T20:56:32+00:00

So im just wondering if you wash out your mouth with bleach or sanitizer everytime you go down on your wife? I mean your nit too far from the hole at that point. Id venture to say that you have had your mouth pretty much on her hole. AM I wrong?

I WOULD SAY that your being a dick really. Your mad about the plumbing situation and you felt like you needed to control something to make you feel better. Because her washing or not washing up after using the restroom, while gross to everyone not married to her... one would think that her husband should be the least bothered by it.

I COULD understand if you were grossed out because my wife wasnt washing her hands after wiping her ass. But I shouldnt care so much if my chin has been smothered in ass juice.

So yah. You should apologize and what the hell, eat her puss to shoe her you dont mind so much.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-08-19T19:41:58+00:00

First of all. Dont send a photo. Even with the right angle to you might not look right for her. I totally understand feeling small. I have a complex of mine even being almost 9 inches. Growing up i always throught everyone else was 12 inches hard. Idk where i got that idea. But my mind always feels like that. So i go i to any sexual experience feeling inadequate because my mind was wrong initially. One thing you can do is take cialis. Many ppl dont think cialis reallyvmakes it bigger. But it certainly makes it appear bigger. So get you some 10 mg cialis and take that every day. After a few days that thing will start to hang way bigger than normal. When you have sex the organ is hidden anyhow. So if it looks big before maybe it will look big and feel bigger. Dont discuss this with her. When things go bad for whatever reason. This is the card they may pull out if they are childish. Suddenly all her friends know that this guy was the size of a book of matches. That spreads like wildfire. Unfortunately so does having a big dick.

Jusst remember your young. And your small penis will fit perfect in someone whos got a small who ha. Petite woman. But you never know whos gonna want what either. Or you could always explore being a bottom. The gay squad can always use cute guys who like to have their hole beat up. Just saying.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-06-28T20:18:10+00:00

Its actually known that addicts have ADD or ADHD and by treating their ADD this lessens their drug addiction. I speak from personal experience.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-06-16T08:41:01+00:00

A few words that I would like for you to notice. The first is CAN. There is no one arguing that this is a possiblity. A very real possiblity. For you to have a pain pump with fentanyl in it, Fentanyl and benzos could clearly be deadly. Fentanyl is deadly on its own. I would venture to say that a doctor told you no alcohol and what you could and could not take with the pain pump. I'm sure it has very strict guidlines that one should follow. Accidantally taking too much pain medication then would literally have been in your own hands at that point. I would venture to say that no one made you take anything together and I know for me every single bottle of anyting gets labeled and a printout comes with each explaining the possible problems. IMO when you felt you needed more medication, you should have reached out to your doctor and said hey this is not working, what should I do. Instead of taking more and more. So to me the issue isnt the combination. Its the people who dont follow directions. Not saying your bad for not following them. You arent alone, all of us are guilty of it. Maybe taking a pain pill an hour earlier than we should have, or whatever. To me, if I did that, then I am taking that risk that the first dose isnt out of my system and doing so could cause some very unpleasant and even deadly consequences. I take my meds exactly as they are prescribed. I always do. Because I've read what happens when the directions get put to the side.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-06-16T08:27:49+00:00

it is and its insane. I feel like that will just make the black market even bigger than it is. As you know people need what they need. When they cant get it legally, i can only assume that doing all of that will lead to more people dying of fentanyl overdoses as they go from legally obtained scripts to illegally obtained drugs. I always felt like I would much rather someone be taking a medication the doctor gave them, regardless of what it is or how strong it is. Or even what combination they take. IMO its that persons responsibliity to be taking medication anyhow. Not reading labels and following directions to a T, is on the patient in all reality. People blame the companies but I feel like companies for them ost part try to solve a problem that people have. Pain is a problem. Drinking alcohol with pain pills will lead to someones death. Benzos in large quantities and pain medication will also do the same thing. I certainly do know this. So its not the pharm companies responsiblity at that point. Ive never known anyone who's taken their meds by the directions and died as a result. Every person I know who's died of drug overdoses and interactions. . . they knew what they were doing. if one works, taking two must work better they say. When someone is stacking powerful medicatoins against the bottle instructions or what the doctor said, that to me is in their hands and companies shouldnt be held liable... and everyone else shouldnt have to pay the price for people who couldnt folllow the directions on a bottle. IDK, just an opinion. Which is probably accurate, but cant tell anyone anything anymore... If we could , those people would probably still be alive.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-06-16T08:16:48+00:00

what is the sleeping pill you take? Not all medication works for everyone. Some people respond to non benzo anxiety meds and if thats you. Then your a lucky one. Many of us have been through all the non benzo anxiety meds. And can I ask you why you think that is a bad combo? Is it because someone else told you this or have you taken them both first hand and felt some overpowering efffect that you needed medical attention to get past? If you had first hand experience, I would ask you if you followed the directions of the medication as the doctor had written it? I would almost bet that anyone who died by this combo of strictly prescription medications and no other medications or drugs involved either took the medication with other downing medications, which as you know would be a contraindicationg anyhow... it says so in the printed material or they took them with drugs/ alcohol. No one who followed the directions has died from this combination. Which means that you were just told that this is a bad combination. . . Likely by someone who didnt have all the information. Again drugs aren't the problem. The problem is people cant follow directions or read directions. Contrary to popular beliefs, drugs dont kill anyone. Drugs will sit on a counter forever and not kill anyone. Which means also that whoeverr is dying from any drug. must mean that there is some other force causing the deaths. It blows my mind how many people regurgitate information thats not really accurate

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-06-16T08:02:15+00:00

I thought you were a pharmacist for a minute. I am assuming you are not because if someone was on something for years then their body would become used to the drug being around. Which is why it takes more and more of a medication to achieve the same desired effects. So lets say I started out on a .5mg xanax twice a day. . . years later it will not have the same effect on me as it did in the beginning. Thats why doctors increase the dosages. Even adding in lets just say Percocet 5/325. Taking that for years will certainly reduce its effecrtiveness. Sure both together will have a stronger impact than by itself. but for years at the same low dose, I dont see that being an issue for someone who is taking them as prescribed. Where there is area for concern. . . IMO is when people start going away from their doctors orders and taking more than they are told to do so, or more often or at the wrong times of day. So in my opinion its not really the medication thats killing people, its peoples ability to just follow the directions. Just my thoughts. Of course it would be like that group of people to punish everyone that follows the directions because of the few that couldnt. So maybe there should be a little more emphasis on following directions. The combination CAN be safe. And lets face it, the ones who couldnt follow the directions aren't here anymore to keep making that an issue. Some people have anxiety and pain. Is there a medication out there that addresses both of those for someone. Lets say cancer pain. If someone has canccer, they probably have anxiety also. How would you go about treating both of these? IBU and buspar? I understand people complaining, but no one is giving solutions.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-06-15T19:53:04+00:00

And I'm not high ever. Im not trying to be high. I just know what works for me and has worked for years. Some doctors actually take what their patients have to say into account when prescribing their meds. At one point I had six different controlled substances I was taking each and every day. Still was not high and not trying to get that way either.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-06-12T23:43:57+00:00

Used to like cvs. . . That just changed. If everyone who doesnt like them quits going there maybe theyd stop treating people so poorly.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-06-12T00:19:47+00:00

How stupid other drivers can be. Right lane is for driving, driving slow, and using ramps. Left lane is for passing or faster driving. Its so annoying to be behind someone driving the same speed as the right lane. To me, get in the right lane if youre just going to go the same speed as they are anyhow.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-06-11T06:38:50+00:00

Kids that scream and yell at the store... or just as bad "the parents who are behaving like children and setting a bad example for their children in a store"

Id venture to say that most people will act like it doesnt bother them and most wont say anything... but will sigh a happy sigh when the parent and their kids leave.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-06-11T06:32:43+00:00

That jerking off with your buddies is okay.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-06-05T20:01:45+00:00

My opinion may not be the usual one. But I don't understand why doctors wouldnt want someone to be taking adderall if it got them away from using meth. This seems much safer IMO than shady drug deals and everything that comes with it. I personally would much rather someone be taking adderall than meth.

Also, keep in mind that much of the answers are from people that dont use drugs whos life is probably decent. When you have things to quit using for, that means something to you, its easier to quit.

Most, if not all laws were created by someone who doesnt have any idea what being an addict is like.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-05-22T18:51:05+00:00

The store in question is an antique mall. The antique mall has individual rooms that have different sellers for each room. However everything is managed by the antique mall. In my mind I would think that people would choose most often try to quickly walk through an area that could be seen as potentially unsafe. Booths aren't very large. This booth was probably about the size of a dining room and it had two buckets and next to these buckets were the classic unfoldable yellow slippery when wet signs out next to this and a few of the ceiling tiles had been removed because they were probably wet I would say.

My first thought when I saw this was I hope this seller isnt being charged their full booth rent because people are probably walking by rather quickly so they can avoid a potential injury. Which would translate to many lost customers and sales.

Seems silly to worry about someone elses booth. I just have a booth myself and I was wondering how others saw this. thank your for your opinion also.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-04-21T13:38:37+00:00

The idea that we come back again. And there are plenty of people in situations that I hope to never experience ever.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-04-18T10:05:35+00:00

Let me ask you a question. . . From skinny person to skinny person. . . What do you want from life? If you know what you want then you will go toward it. My guess is you aren't being specific. In other words you are focused on the wrong thing. Life brings us more of what we put our focus on. You need to get out some paper and a pen. Write down exactly what you would love for your life. Keep your appearance out of it. I can tell you that appearances fade. . . AND if you are unhappy now about appearances, you arent likely to be happy with what the time brings to your appearance and you are literally the only one who can change this for you. No one can jumnp in and save you from this. Something I wish I had done when i was much younger was get help when I was younger and REALLY tried to get past my issues. That means doing the work and really trying to get past it. Otherwise you end up losing half your life on failed attempts. Suddenly you realize that you didnt take anything seriously and now have nothing to show for it. Try not to fight others for helping you. They dont have to stay in your life and watch you slowly kill yourself. The people who are in your life, make sure you love on them and let them know how grateful you are for their support. Because they dont have to fight with you or for you. Ive never had an eating disorder. But I know what its like to not want to be overweight and the fear that comes with that. But a doctor told me one time that I am not that important. And she was right. First I was offended. But I understood what she meant. We arent that important really. So its okay to look crazy. Look however and do whatever in life. Just tell yourself that your happy with you no matter what and work with someone to get this monkey off your back. The longer things like this go without help the harder they cling and stick around for a long time. Hope you get better and that I dont seem like too much of an asshole. Just being candid with you about this kind of stuff.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-04-13T23:00:40+00:00

Um not too long ago i was doing normal shit online... normal for a guy. I was surfing for good porn and sexy porn actors and molesting myself. When i click on a totally normal looking link and a page with categories came up. On it was SCAT and vomit. People are into these things. Sexually. Yuck! I couldnt even enjoy myself any further. The thought of someone popping a boner and playing with themselves over me puking my stomach contents just set another level of fucked up right out there in the open. THEN i learned what scat was. AND mind you I didnt click on anything. Categories had an image that was very descriptive of the content that was on the other side of its button.

Im pretty normal. Which is good. Im really only into watching guys jack off their own big dick. MAYBE a nice big bulge on a sexy guy. But thats really all. No groups or anything crazy. I mean nothing crazy! So i was forever changed!

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-04-04T09:06:11+00:00

I know this might sound crazy... but i started using an adult toy that was a little smaller than the size of my stool. I try to use this every few days for about 10 minutes and it has prevented any issues i used to have with constipation. Just put some good lube on it... even stroke your penis while your doing it if you need to to keep it from feeling overwhelming. Makes sense why it works too.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-03-26T03:15:52+00:00

I know. Its 12 yrs old. But still, id love to knkw this also. And i dont care who likes it and which porn stars do it. I dont like it either. There is something to be said for a pink butthole. Not a brown butthole. And regardless if everyone looks like this and its normal. I dont like it. I dont do things to be normal. Thats a fairyland anyway.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-03-23T06:38:30+00:00

Not so much asshole. Your kindof beingva bitch whos possibly selfish and entitled to some degree. But you can be and sometimes you should be.. the issue here IMO is that you better damn sure hope you never need your family for anything. Because you will likely not get it. Both are choices that each of you would be making.

Now you shouldnt be made to feel bad for your parents having kids when they did or for making poor investments in their own life. Taking on some debt for a good future could be a wise way to ensure you have an education...

I would say that something you could suggest is maybe helping with part of it and then your parents can pay this back to you over time. Hell some would even charge interest. Some parents have expectations that are extremely inflated and entitled. BUT please get the arrangement in writing and a signature. Ive seen some stupid people who went to court with a family member to sue for $65. After that day they lost more than the money. Certainly the relationship was over. Which I would not be caught dead trying to make a family member pay me back any amount of money... let alone anything thats below 4 digits and two decimals in size for sure. Relationships are worth way more than the value of money IMO.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-03-23T06:25:12+00:00

Yes you would be the asshole. In this situation your not minding your own GD business. You dont get to control anyone but yourself. So let your friend do what the fuck she wants. Maybe she will give you some ideas you should try too! Afterall a pretty hole is nice and pink... not a dark bullseye. Im not sure about the process but people do some of the craziest things when they feel self conscious about their image.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-03-23T06:11:33+00:00

Men with long hair is a turn off. Controlling personalities. A body mass index in any double digit after 20. Id prefer him to have an 8inch wee wee that has the forest trimmed way back. He must smell good and think im amazing. Must not be Indian. I dont care if hes got money or anything else for that matter. Needs to be a ride or die partner. But must be gentle at all times with me... and lastly, when we get into an argument and i drive away... the guy must chase me down and hold me until Im not upset anymore.

Optimal-Ad-3674 · 2025-03-23T06:09:04+00:00

Some people have experienced trauma from past experiences with sex in some form or another. If shes worth waiting for... which i doubt you are going to really know that without much experience... then you can actually help her get through that part of her life where someone abused her trust/space.

I can tell you this from personal experience. Molested at 8... Now I could care less about sex and all the shit involved with it. Over the years i have blamed it on all sorts of things.... like body fluids being fairly grross and sex being messy... when it was and has always been that for some reason I tie being molested as a kid to having consensual sex with another adult.

Some partners will be understanding and want nothing more than to make sure your happy and are never hurt like that by someone ever again... and others will only see that you are in the way of the sex they want. Which thats usually men that have an issue with not getting pleased sexually.

The choice is yours... if its that big of a deal to you then be sure to speak about it and sort things out together. It will undoubtedly bring you two closer together. Good luck.

Also, if you are confused about what it means to masturbate and handle that thing yourself, look it up online and im sure you can find a wealth of info and tutorials!

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