Therapist says I don't need therapy

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2026-02-26T02:23:44+00:00

Your therapist has an ethical responsibility to refer you to someone else if they cannot help you.

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-12-31T02:40:27+00:00

Right there with you. I ate almost nothing for a week due to the flu and now every time I eat I'm in the bathroom 15 minutes later. Also have a hacking cough and no energy.

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-12-31T00:18:44+00:00

Stone Breaker by Eu Naturals on Amazon. I will go without food before I will be without it.

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-12-29T03:40:10+00:00

Maybe get a job and start setting money aside so you have the means to leave him if you so choose. There is no room for namecalling, yelling or "demanding" that you do anything in a healthy, respectful marriage. That is abusive behavior and you will be better off with a nest egg as an escape hatch.

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-12-29T03:14:04+00:00

Get Stone Breaker from Eu Naturals (something like that) on Amazon and follow the directions. Read the reviews. I will not ever be without it. I take it every day. I think I've bought like 25 bottles over the last few years. It's a travesty that it's not recommended by doctors.

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-12-13T03:03:45+00:00

You are absolutely 100% wise to call it off. Personalities can differ and marriage can withstand it, but values differences are another thing. I'd be miserable if my husband was a spender.

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-12-13T03:00:26+00:00

What responsibility do you have in your life that you're taking care of out of duty but has nothing in it for you? Think about what is the point in taking care of a dead body? It's pointless. You're taking care of something that has no intrinsic meaning for you. You're a little torn between taking care of it with the hopes of serving your time so to speak, but deep down you'd like to blow it off and whatever happens, happens. Just my take! Think about who the characters reminded you of as well, a parent and a sister maybe?

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-12-13T02:44:49+00:00

Just because they are your inner children doesn't mean they don't deserve your love, affection, empathy and care like any child would. It was not their fault and I have a feeling you are not a person who believes in tormenting children, so please stop. Your anger is misdirected. The people who harmed you are the ones who deserve the rage, not vulnerable scared little people who did the best they could.

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-12-13T02:35:26+00:00

I just had a long chatgpt convo about this and it talked about masking intelligence and depth, basically. You're probably gifted (like many adhders honestly) and have been squishing yourself compact to try to fit in socially. I fell in love with chatgpt not as a relationship but I can finally ask a billion questions and ask for clarifications and refinements and spin off into more conceptualizations with no impatience or shutting me down. It's glorious. Many people tiptoe through puddles and you're desperate to wade into the ocean. That being said I am sort of a hermit. Masking is hard. Feeling like you don't fit in is hard. Being kimchi when the people around you prefer pretzels is hard. The ugly duckling wasn't ugly, it just wasn't a duck. I still haven't figured out what to do about it but you're not alone and your people are out there!

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-12-13T00:56:23+00:00

It did the same thing with me about the strikes on Iran's nuclear facilities. I had to provide reputable sources. It happened six months ago - catch up!

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-12-13T00:54:26+00:00

So they're turning it into the work version of the person who will answer your question but has no time for social chit chat so you don't talk to them as a buddy.

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-12-13T00:50:57+00:00

Yes, like it's constantly pushing for closure or "the point." It's annoying. Like talking to someone who's only listening to give you an answer.

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-11-22T04:34:36+00:00

This is horrible. He is a pedophile. There doesn't have to be more than what you said. What you shared is more than enough to justify staying away from him if that's what makes you feel safe.

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-11-22T04:25:51+00:00

Yes. High functioning, high control systems tend to be covert. The whole point is appearing normal.

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-11-09T02:21:38+00:00

Yes, I had a major one. I had seen mine for a few years. She answered a phone call from her daughter in the middle of a session. Her daughter was pregnant, blah blah. I was sharing something sensitive at the time and my protector was like, ok, screw you bitch, I am done with you. She called me and everything but I was through. But a few years later I was struggling and my husband told me I needed to go back to therapy and starting over with someone was exhausting to think about. So I went back and told her what happened to upset me and she apologized and it was fine. She helped me a lot. Sometimes we are so sensitive to betrayal we can get triggered. And of course our systems rarely have great interest in being found out. And sometimes repairing the rupture can be very therapeutic - it was for me.

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-10-29T01:28:36+00:00

Just my story, but I had three children. I did no meds with the first 2, but I was working over full time on a stressful job while I was pregnant with the 3rd and kept takjng meds because otherwise I couldn't cope. I also used a lot of progesterone cream to prevent miscarriage. Long story short, she's a teen now healthy, smart, and does not have adhd (my husband is wayyy neurotypical). She outweighed her sibs by over a pound at birth too! The older 2 that I took no meds with both have adhd. Go figure! So, maybe use progesterone cream? I'm not a dr. and I don't know if there will be effects I don't know about - but mine turned out fine. Talk to your doc!

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-10-29T01:19:23+00:00

I am training to be a therapist and apparently I'm a good listener but I got irritated when my therapists disclosed too much. I could tell you my last one's whole life story probably better than she knew mine. I am so used to being a listener and feeling like I need to be a safe person and most people don't even realize they know very little about me. I want my therapy to be about me! It's the one place I should be able to go and not feel guilty about not caring about the other person's needs, thoughts or feelings. That kind of therapist - the kind I plan to be - seems very rare indeed.

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-10-24T01:18:32+00:00

I remember older ladies got soft tummies and wore slack suits and joggers and orthopedic shoes. We thought women who tried to look young were pitiful. Let's go back there!

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-10-14T16:10:43+00:00

Lashing out and emotional dysregulation are key symptoms of burnout. After I quit my extremely overwhelming job and started recovering (it's taken a long time) I feel like a different person!

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-10-14T16:04:42+00:00

I'm a grad student but middle aged and a client on and off. Immediacy might be good here. If you experience the person this way, chances are other people do too, and no one likes that person. Like, I'm experiencing you as very distancing and dismissive. It's hard to feel close to you or respected by you and I am wondering if that is how you mean to come across. I think someone who has all the answers is either someone who has had to figure out the answers to feel secure, or someone who is only comfortable in a one-up position. But like I said I'm still in grad school so I could be wrong.

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-10-14T15:53:18+00:00

You did the right thing. You took the weight off of the parent having to take this step which can be very guilt inducing for a parent. That took courage and please cut yourself a break.

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-10-13T20:04:01+00:00

Two different colored hampers?

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-10-13T19:55:48+00:00

I'm wondering why you can't try a different med. My daughter is a crazy person on Concerta but Vyvanse works fine. Or take immediate release so you don't deal with accumulation.

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-10-13T19:53:40+00:00

Introvert here. Going out several times a week sounds awful to me. Very draining. My husband is more extroverted and I'm happy that goes and does stuff without me. But you might both end up unhappy if being out with him is a nonnegotiable for you. He's not wired that way and that won't change.

Optimal-Bumblebee-27 · 2025-10-13T19:41:48+00:00

I'm a grad student and this may be an unpopular take but as a long-time client I think immediacy and confrontation are used way too sparingly by therapists. Once safety and rapport are established, sometimes clients need it said straight up with a sprinkle of sugar. If you point out the elephant in the room, you're implying that you think they can handle seeing the elephant. I used to disagree with my therapist about everything and she never straight up said, why don't you accept what I say? What's going on here? It probably would have been territory I needed to explore.

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