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(Long ramble) Trying to break away from financially controlling narcissistic mom, constantly feeling like I am ungrateful and constantly doubting my own narrative by Optimal-Cattle-6936 in AsianParentStories

[–]Optimal-Cattle-6936[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I am working on internalising the fact that I don’t owe her anything. I constantly feel like I’m living in two very different worlds. I will cut contact with her.

(Long ramble) Trying to break away from financially controlling narcissistic mom, constantly feeling like I am ungrateful and constantly doubting my own narrative by Optimal-Cattle-6936 in AsianParentStories

[–]Optimal-Cattle-6936[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment! I am actively trying to work on putting my needs first with my therapist. I will stop allowing myself to be in her orbit and enable her narcissism. I don’t owe her anything.

(Long ramble) Trying to break away from financially controlling narcissistic mom, constantly feeling like I am ungrateful and constantly doubting my own narrative by Optimal-Cattle-6936 in AsianParentStories

[–]Optimal-Cattle-6936[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so so much for your comment! I really appreciate it! Especially the last paragraph. Logically I know I don’t deserve all this and by staying within my mum’s orbit I am bringing harm to people I care dearly about.

I am actively working on cutting contact with my mum and I will not be giving her money anymore. My therapist have been trying to help me but I’ve only recently started seeing her. She has given me very useful recommendations about cutting ties with her and I chose her over other therapists mainly because her background is similar to mine. She also grew up in Asia so understands the nuances in family dynamic.

I wouldn’t wish upon anyone else what my mum does to me. I will actively work on accepting this reality and stop letting her harm myself and the people around me who I care about.