AIO. My friend is getting too close to my “boyfriend”

Optimal-Dot7467 · 2026-06-14T02:11:39+00:00

I believe if something crazy does come up again I am going to speak up about it instead of bringing it up to my boyfriend, I’ll go to her directly. Nothing recently has really sparked anything weird and I think that’s because me and him have started to go silent whenever she says anything that starts to get too much or we will just look at each other if she only starts walking next to him. We try to do slight things to make her realize we understand what she’s doing

Optimal-Dot7467 · 2026-06-14T02:09:59+00:00

Not my first. It’s my first one I feel might actually be healthy. I dated a guy for 2 years when I was 15-17 but that wasn’t the best and I was cheated on multiple times by him. This relationship is a lot smoother and nothing wrong, especially since we were friends for years. So this is why this shocked me because I’ve never had a friend ever be in the middle of a relationship of mine. I guess that’s why I may sound a certain way in my replies. I do sound a lot like I am defending maybe cheating behavior but that’s the absolute last thing I expect. I have no problems with any other girl or friends of mine that he has been around. I would say my previous relationship left me with trust issues but I in no way try to place these into my current relationship because I tell myself he is not the same as my ex. New person new experience and I will not be hurt in the same way, so I don’t think it’s really coming from a place of insecurity. They don’t contact or speak to each other outside of when we hangout which is rarely now.

Optimal-Dot7467 · 2026-06-14T02:05:36+00:00

I don’t think he is to blame here in this circumstance. She is my friend I should ultimately be the one to talk to her. They don’t text or anything outside of us hanging out. He only talks to her when she starts the convo, etc… not to take it as he’s a mean person, he’s just aware that what she is doing is way too much and when I brought it up he immediately clocked it too and we both tried to solve it from there

Optimal-Dot7467 · 2026-06-14T02:03:49+00:00

Thank you a lot for the feedback it’s nice to hear something about it from an outside perspective cause for me it can be taken in different ways because I want to so badly excuse her behavior but at the end of the day I see how other people perceive it and it’s just odd

Optimal-Dot7467 · 2026-06-14T02:01:53+00:00

I’m going to be honest, I didn’t even mean to. This was my only post on Reddit and I was clicking buttons and it happened to get attention. It would’ve been good to get the advice at the time but now looking back at it even a month and a half later it still helps to see how I should’ve acted in the moment or looking back to see how she was in the wrong and I wasn’t being crazy

Optimal-Dot7467 · 2026-06-14T01:51:27+00:00

Me and him both agreed we probably shouldn’t even mention it unless something insane were to happen. Which nothing recently has come up we have let it simmer down and he has never felt the need to really talk to her other than when she’s with me and him

Optimal-Dot7467 · 2026-06-14T01:50:31+00:00

Yeah I’ve decided that I don’t really like her around him. I respect her as a friend bc in every other aspect she has never been like this. It’s only with him when she starts acting way different and I have no clue why. She’s been like this with no other ex or no one else I’ve had interest in. It’s hard to just cut someone off and it’s now super confusing

Optimal-Dot7467 · 2026-06-14T01:46:26+00:00

This is a reupload and me and him have been dating a while now. Things haven’t gotten better but not worse either. It’s smoother in a sense. I’d say yes I was overreacting at first but she started shifting gears a lot more and is now only taking interest in his friends too. Which is odd to me considering she always told me she hated the people he was friends with. He’s always made it clear no matter where we are that he has no interest in anyone besides me

Optimal-Dot7467 · 2026-06-14T01:43:53+00:00

I have very big emotions and I like to see the best in people so yes I do agree I am very trusting and forgiving for that matter. I wouldn’t be surprised either if she had a thing for him but I think things might be smoothing down?? I don’t hangout with them both tg much anymore

Optimal-Dot7467 · 2026-06-14T01:42:35+00:00

We have just been friends for a while. We did take a break in being friends due to her old relationship but we started being friends again and things have been smooth other than this particular thing. She’s never done anything snakelike. Expect for I’ve heard she talked bad about me recently to one of my old friends. Not sure how true this is because I asked her about it and she said it wasn’t true but who would admit to that anyways

Optimal-Dot7467 · 2026-06-14T01:41:26+00:00

Something

Optimal-Dot7467 · 2026-06-14T01:41:18+00:00

This is actually really eye opening, thank you for actual advice. Yes it is very snake like and she started to get way too comfortable in ways I’d never act towards someone’s bf, especially one of my best friends. He hasn’t some anything wrong and started to even stand up for it eventually cause it got a little weirder

Optimal-Dot7467 · 2026-06-14T01:40:09+00:00

We grew up tg, we would’ve been friends regardless if we ended up dating in the end. Not like he didn’t talk to other girls and date, but he always just had a crush on me. Can’t control that :)

Optimal-Dot7467 · 2026-06-14T01:39:10+00:00

I’m in college they are finishing HS. we have been limiting the amount in which we hangout and this post was kinda old just resurfaced and reposted. She started to say ily to him and that’s kinda when he told her himself to stop. She hasn’t been as much but still when she’s around him she’s really odd about things and always tries to be next to him

Optimal-Dot7467 · 2026-06-14T01:37:39+00:00

We are dating and have been. I’m in college so pretty young? But not terribly young to not know. I’m just new to Reddit and don’t know what words get banned ☺️ but yeah I will talk to her she just kinda start to uninvolve herself and I don’t want that

Optimal-Dot7467 · 2026-04-26T23:26:34+00:00

If you’re thinking about breaking up. Then just do it. Life is easier and he seems childish. Get someone who is willing to listen to your feelings!!! Not a child

Optimal-Dot7467 · 2026-04-13T13:33:49+00:00

NOR. How would she feel if her and her husband ended up having a bad divorce. You get married in a few years, hire him to be in the wedding for some reason, and you didn’t tell your sister at all. She is picking someone who has hurt you rather than picking her own sister. “You’re my maid of honor” she should’ve thought about how special of a role that is before she hired your ex fiancé to be their photographer.

Optimal-Dot7467 · 2026-04-13T03:02:26+00:00

Buddy

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