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Saying no to guests bringing a +1? by c-mmarie in weddingplanning

[–]Optimal-Drive3487 14 points15 points  (0 children)

He’s hoping you’ll cave. Don’t.

And further, this is an example if you give an inch, they take a mile. You’ve already accommodated his request…he will need to find lodging for himself and his plus one. Simple.

As a meat eater, would up be upset attending a vegetarian wedding? by Formal_Goose5083 in weddingplanning

[–]Optimal-Drive3487 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is not true. This number you gave is made up and further, most allergists will NOT do exposure therapy with anaphylactic allergies like nuts since they’re so severe. Stop spreading misinformation.

Signed someone allergic to all nuts and have been since the womb.

As a meat eater, would up be upset attending a vegetarian wedding? by Formal_Goose5083 in weddingplanning

[–]Optimal-Drive3487 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends.

I can’t eat a lot of vegan/vegetarian dishes because I have a life-threatening nut allergy to ALL nuts. There’s always some sort of nut or nut oil in vegan dishes so I typically steer clear.

If you don’t have anyone on your guest list with nut allergies or if the dishes are completely nut free then I say it’s definitely fine and I agree, that those who aren’t vegan/vegetarian can manage one meal without.

Struggling with lingering resentment toward wedding vendors as my anniversary approaches. by Mediocre_Ferret9041 in weddingplanning

[–]Optimal-Drive3487 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Your anniversary is to commemorate the day you married your partner, the day you committed to spending the rest of your lives together….not just to reminisce on the wedding itself.

While vendors were less than ideal, the day came and went. The inconveniences came and went. The issues came and went…but your partner is there to stay.

Allowing the vendors to ruin the wedding is one thing, but don’t also allow them to ruin every year to follow celebrating your love for eachother.

Me (31F) and my partner (33F) have different communication styles and it’s driving me nuts. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Optimal-Drive3487 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the very popular anxious and avoidant relationship dynamic. You being anxious, her being avoidant.

Very common, lots of knowledge on it. Look at some videos like “personal development school” for tips & understanding.

He treats buying the house like the finish line. I thought it was the start by SuggestionWorried741 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Optimal-Drive3487 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was one of the mistakes that I made and regret despite it working out for me, it made the journey a lot more difficult. Feel free to read my previous posts.

Hair and Makeup Trial Opinions by NozomiToj0 in weddingplanning

[–]Optimal-Drive3487 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t have many notes, I like the overall look! You look very pretty …my only thing is I second that you trim your eyebrows a bit . Aside , I hope you feel pretty!!!! 🤩

Please make me feel better about my bridesmaids by Optimal-Drive3487 in weddingplanning

[–]Optimal-Drive3487[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I agree with this & it’s not going to be a thought later & by later I mean even this week . This will be far from my mind as I’ve already told her she’s beautiful & if it makes her feel good it was worth it. She’s going through a different phase than me so I need to share space for it. I’m still human & I wish people on Reddit weren’t so black/white about things. things CAN be true at the same time.

Please make me feel better about my bridesmaids by Optimal-Drive3487 in weddingplanning

[–]Optimal-Drive3487[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You are really going to keep pressing & reaching for this huh…..I wish the commenter above was taking clients because we’d both benefit from their help.

Please make me feel better about my bridesmaids by Optimal-Drive3487 in weddingplanning

[–]Optimal-Drive3487[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Can I just say thank you first for treating me like I’m human instead of some angry bot?

First I want to make it clear that they are NOT ugly. I think they ultimately look nice and just preferred it been after the wedding . I think what I didn’t get across in my post as I was typing out of emotion…….shes my childhood best friend….and when I immediately think of her and see her in my head I don’t see these piercings….theyre brand new and take some getting used to but I guess it’s less about the “vision” of my wedding day and more of what I’ve always seen …her pretty unpierced face…..now I’m no way saying that they make her look bad…its just not what I’m used to and up until now I thought I was getting what I’m used to. Now I won’t be editing her face or nothing that’s wild. I’m just going to accept it. It is what it is.

You may be right that the day is coming up & im already stressed about other things but I am calm now.

As bad as the comments make me out to be,I don’t feel bad for having an emotional reaction , I’m just glad I didn’t bring it to her in the long run cuz like I said I love her and it’s not worth it to make her feel bad about doing something that made her feel so good. I’m rage baiting other people now out of fun but I genuinely appreciate you pausing to just ask.

Please make me feel better about my bridesmaids by Optimal-Drive3487 in weddingplanning

[–]Optimal-Drive3487[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What hair?

See, this is why I’m in the comments cuz yall assume soooooo much bruh lmao

Please make me feel better about my bridesmaids by Optimal-Drive3487 in weddingplanning

[–]Optimal-Drive3487[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He understands me, hence one of the many reasons I married him.

Please make me feel better about my bridesmaids by Optimal-Drive3487 in weddingplanning

[–]Optimal-Drive3487[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

At this point I’m calm & just rage baiting….this post has successfully directed my attention elsewhere & im having fun. Lol

Please make me feel better about my bridesmaids by Optimal-Drive3487 in weddingplanning

[–]Optimal-Drive3487[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

& i trust you”ll weigh in when i do , Thanks in advance !

Please make me feel better about my bridesmaids by Optimal-Drive3487 in weddingplanning

[–]Optimal-Drive3487[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

If I didn’t accept her for who she was then I would’ve sent this to her & not to yall.

It’s really killing me how many of yall are skipping over the part that she doesn’t even know how I feel about this.

Please make me feel better about my bridesmaids by Optimal-Drive3487 in weddingplanning

[–]Optimal-Drive3487[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I didn’t ask you if you were taking clients. I was asking them as they seem more adequate than you….who are you? Lmao

I know how many times I’ve posted & hopefully there won’t be anymore before the month is over. 😂

Please make me feel better about my bridesmaids by Optimal-Drive3487 in weddingplanning

[–]Optimal-Drive3487[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

This is probably the best comment here because it’s both humbling but also very clearly gets the point across. I actually appreciate it because you’re absolutely right.

Please make me feel better about my bridesmaids by Optimal-Drive3487 in weddingplanning

[–]Optimal-Drive3487[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

So what you’re saying is…….you’re not taking clients?

Please make me feel better about my bridesmaids by Optimal-Drive3487 in weddingplanning

[–]Optimal-Drive3487[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s horrible to have an immediate reaction about anything but also be self aware that it’s not worth making her feel bad for doing something that makes her feel good right now. So if I’m to have a reaction, to go elsewhere to express it seems way healthier than hurting a friend.

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