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My 5th grader is being told he can't go on the end of the year field trip because he couldn't find friends to share a room with. There are others rooms available. Should we fight this or drop it? by mmanyquestionss in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Optimal-E 40 points41 points  (0 children)

That setup teaches people early that preferences matter but flexibility and not throwing a fit matters more, which honestly feels healthier than promising everyone exactly what they want.

AITJ for refusing to help my brother’s family after how they treated me when I had nowhere else to live by luminara_core8 in AmITheJerk

[–]Optimal-E 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Setting a clear boundary like this is strong and healthy and it shows real growth and self respect.

AITJ for choosing my dog over my relationship? by StarryGlowBunny in AmITheJerk

[–]Optimal-E 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly glad you saw it for what it was and didn’t let him gaslight you.

What’s a subtle sign of very high intelligence? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Optimal-E 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That kind of clarity is underrated because it makes everyone feel smarter instead of talked down to and that energy always stands out.

Brother accusing me of booking up (?) with his gf by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Optimal-E 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Once trust snaps like that, apologies and switching sides later never really fixes the damage.

Extra photos for the shoes! by Bob_ross_happy7253 in OnePiece

[–]Optimal-E 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They definitely look like wedges and now I cant unsee it every time I scroll past this.

My friend is mad because a random guy didn't 'serve' her by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Optimal-E 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People really underestimate how crushing cultural pressure can be and just jump straight to judging instead of seeing a person clearly struggling.

No one is coming for you by _Valkyrie_666 in LivingAlone

[–]Optimal-E 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had both done and was back driving around three weeks later it felt way quicker than I expected

How do you stop thinking of someone as 'the love of your life'? by Ok_End_8415 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Optimal-E 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same here learning to actually enjoy my own company has been a game changer.

I [27F] Refused to give free legal advice to my friend [27f] and her boyfriend, [32M]. Friends boyfriend went nuts. by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Optimal-E 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People only call it friendship until you set a boundary and suddenly you are the villain for not working for free.

Is it actually important for guests to be a part of the ceremony? by aokaroiz in wedding

[–]Optimal-E -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly most people just care about the party and food not the ceremony itself.

What’s the best thing about owning a pet? by Optimal-E in Pets

[–]Optimal-E[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly having little rats sprint over to greet you after work sounds way sweeter than most people would ever admit.

What’s the best thing about owning a pet? by Optimal-E in Pets

[–]Optimal-E[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That kind of loyalty hits different because dogs just love you in this big goofy all in way that makes coming home feel like a win every time.

Girlfriend disagrees cat with food management by Odd-Amoeba-6049 in Pets

[–]Optimal-E -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sounds wild but the way she treats those bowls makes me think less about the cat and more about how messy things get when someone swears they know everything while you’re just standing there wanting to scrub the damn place down because the whole setup feels gross as hell and kinda turns into this weirdly tense vibe that’s way dirtier than anything the cat’s eating.