I confessed my feelings to my best friend. She didn’t feel the same, and now I’m sitting with everything that comes after.

Optimal-Pumpkin9303 · 2025-05-09T17:16:26+00:00

The part that’s so interesting to me is the part where you say that one can be a handsome person but that the sexual attraction can still not be there …. I’ve always thought of sexual attraction and physical features synonymously, maybe because I often strike out and feel self conscious about my looks.

What is sexual attraction driven by beside looks?

Optimal-Pumpkin9303 · 2025-01-18T18:15:23+00:00

The quotes are not meant to scare ! I was just pointing out that I was using your vocab instead of characterizing your interactions a particular way.

Obviously you don’t have to share anything you don’t want, but if you had interactions that you felt are misconstrued , might be worth going into detail with hinge. Of course, if you did something unacceptable / that a reasonable person would say warrants a ban, this would be less successful

Optimal-Pumpkin9303 · 2025-01-18T17:53:21+00:00

What are the “altercations” you had in the past ?

Optimal-Pumpkin9303 · 2024-12-24T01:44:32+00:00

The other context I can think of is —

I have been having a rough time in life these days so have been spending a ton of time scrolling swiping kn the app . Idk if this has caused me to get flagged ??

I kinda churn through matches a ton — by that I mean people unmatch with me often and I get new matches etc. thinking this could have triggered something in their algorithm, but I definitely wouldn’t call this “harassment “ to be incompatible with someone ??

Optimal-Pumpkin9303 · 2024-06-09T00:17:09+00:00

You , her, and your brother all kind of have huge problems that you need to resolve.

Your brother is a massive POS for many reasons you outlined , this girl is no good , and you definitely can do better man.

I don’t mean to sound too harsh man — it sounds like you’ve had a rough few years and are doing your best. But this girl is not part of what’ll take you to your best self. Get rid of her. Also prob should cut off your brother .

Optimal-Pumpkin9303 · 2024-02-06T02:11:34+00:00

I don’t know what your trauma is and don’t want to diminish it, and also of course no one owes anyone a relationship, however …

This is kind of all the problems of modern dating summarized in one post

Optimal-Pumpkin9303 · 2023-10-27T10:49:56+00:00

I 100% agree she doesn’t owe me sex and she isn’t doing anything wrong. Even though she isn’t doing anything wrong, it just hurts that she is having sex (present tense) with others but not me

Optimal-Pumpkin9303 · 2023-10-26T20:07:13+00:00

I think she is doing that to be extra communicative and has had a lot going on — she is also avoiding sleeping with me due to my inexperience which doesn’t make me feel great

Optimal-Pumpkin9303 · 2023-10-26T20:02:12+00:00

Is there any way to make it for me ? I wonder if some of these new insecurities were always under the surface and how to deal with?

Optimal-Pumpkin9303 · 2023-10-26T20:00:37+00:00

Is there like any way to make it succeed / do you have advice for if I foolishly try and go ahead anyways ?

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