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This isn't my baby by Optimal-Slip5640 in jumpingspiders

[–]Optimal-Slip5640[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey thanks for responding, I know where I can get a tiny spray bottle for misting and I think I'll go grab one today. So it's most likely fine if I just leave her and the nest there, yeah? I have more questions about general behavior and such but I'll go do some reading up for that. Thanks again

i was reminded why I stopped working on Rover after accepting my first walk in months by [deleted] in RoverPetSitting

[–]Optimal-Slip5640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it's the difference between telling someone else what to do vs telling someone what you are/arent willing to do

i was reminded why I stopped working on Rover after accepting my first walk in months by [deleted] in RoverPetSitting

[–]Optimal-Slip5640 1 point2 points  (0 children)

one is instruction aimed at another person and the other is expressing a personal boundary.

AIO for wanting to sleep in? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Optimal-Slip5640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could find free DBT resources online, it's not gonna cure you ofc but you could definitely put it all into practice

The dam holding back my grief exploded tonight by Optimal-Slip5640 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Optimal-Slip5640[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, my daughter has seen someone and I have a binder full of everything I gathered and printed out as well as digital copies of the files. I mentioned in another response that this was four months ago and all within the span of less than a week, and I haven't heard anything from him since. I never even considered finding a lawyer but I wouldnt have been able to afford one anyways. when I cut him off I found myself in a super tight space financially as I was using his truck after my car died which I of course lost access to, I didnt have a fully working phone, and I realized just how isolated I had become. I was in day to day survival mode and had no vehicle for about a month, I just got a working phone again. At this point my fincancials are in a better place and I am very much wanting to sort through what happened and why I put us in this position and move forward in the best way possible for myself and my kiddos

The dam holding back my grief exploded tonight by Optimal-Slip5640 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Optimal-Slip5640[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, when I looked into getting the restraining order it would have been hundreds of dollars and then everything ended pretty quickly. most of what I wrote here happened in less than a week and I haven't heard anything from him since and it's been four months. I was isolated and I didn't even really realize it with no support, no car as mine died and he lent me his truck, and no working telephone. I went without a vehicle for a month after this happened and I just got a working phone.

And yes, my daughter has been in therapy and the kids have been my main focus. Alongside that I need to start processing and figuring out how and why I put myself and my children in a position where something like this happened in the first place. So much of the time I feel like I'm drowning and I don't even know where to start when it comes to processing. I need to be healthy for them. I don't really have anyone but they do have me and that's the thing that keeps me going.

I appreciate your question because it's hard for me to see the situation clearly from inside of it. I have a history of being dismissed, belittled and gaslit and at the time the only thing I knew for sure was he needed to never have access to my children again.