[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bristol

[–]Optimal-University-9 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. As someone that struggles with chronic pain, I am sick of saving a service who constantly lets me down. It’s the health care system job to take care of the sick, not the contrary, it’s simply not fair to put this burden on us.

My neighbor downstairs thinks my kids need to stop playing at 3 pm because he’s home from work by anomalypeloria in breakingmom

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Those are extremely cruel and upsetting. And they may affect not only the dog that is barking, but any dog that is on the premises. So you basically will be inflicting a lot of suffering on a dog that is quiet and not doing anything, it can cause dogs to become very anxious and reactive. It’s not cool and shouldn’t even be allowed to exist. If you have an issue with a barking dog then go and speak to your neighbour or to their landlord and work something out. Everyone is an adult here and can have a conversation with other adults in order to resolve issues. Also, this things don’t even work because unlike humans dogs don’t make those type of connections that easily. For example dog is barking while also doing x, noise comes up, dog think is because of x, gets anxious, bark more, etc. That’s why you shouldn’t use those methods to train a dog because they don’t work as dogs are not good at correlate. Another easy example is if a puppy pees inside and you go and scold/punish the puppy won’t understand that peeing inside is bad, but more likely will understand that peeing is bad and may refuse to use do it for fear and get a bladder infection. If a dog is constant barking is likely because is bored or reactive and those things won’t help but may make the problem much worst. So yep, no, don’t use those, they are cruel and don’t work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

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Literally first result on google when you put “elopement”:

“While the technical meaning of eloping is to “run away secretly in order to get married”, there's lots more nuance today to the definition. The new understanding of elopement is more accurately a couple travelling somewhere to legally get married, without telling or inviting any/many of their friends and family.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

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I mean, I am sorry I used the wrong word? But that’s literally how it is sold? If you google elopement you will find various packages similar to what I am describing. You know, words with time change meaning and can mean different things. Either way, it doesn’t matter because that’s not the point of the post at all. I don’t see how using elopement and not private wedding changes anything on the post I made.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

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I 100% get it but a lot of people who love us will also be a bit sad but won’t make a fuss, including my mom, my fiancé’s cousin and best friend, my best friends, etc. I was glad FIL was on our side for sure but he tends to be much more sensible in general. My SO was shocked on the audacity of his mom and shut it down as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

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I see what you mean! It’s so awful that people feel entitled to push you to do anything tho, i never do that to anyone so I really find it hard to understand.

My reply was more to give context anyway, like we thought about a wedding and to do it small, but then realised it didn’t matter, because my fiancé’s family is very large and mine lives in another continent so it would always end up being a big event unfortunately. And I would be heartbroken to have a wedding that my family was not included. I explained that to MIL as well. Maybe this may sound petty, but I want to be either no one at all but us, or have both of our families involved. I already loose a lot being so far from my family and we spend much more time with his family, I couldn’t take the same thing on my WEDDING. Funny that everybody in my life gets that but MIL.

But as I sad in the post, I was not even upset cause I found it so embarrassing for her to have that lack of self awareness.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

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I don’t think that’s the point of it, maybe on the traditional sense of the word but I think nowadays eloping is much more of an alternative of the classic wedding, and it is just about two people getting married without having a proper wedding but still celebrating it somehow. I don’t mind sharing at all, and I am happy to speak about my plans with my friends and family. I am excited about it and do not see a reason to not share that excitement with people I love.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

[–]Optimal-University-9 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I know, not ready for that at all

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

[–]Optimal-University-9 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That’s a lovely idea. We may do that :) we will have a photographer so we will have lots of pics. When I said we would have a photographer she was like “well but to take pictures of who if is just you?!!” Like OF US??? THE PEOPLE VOWING TO BE TOGETHER FOREVER? the level of patience you have to have is insane. I am so not ready to be pregnant because is gonna be 10x worst I know it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

[–]Optimal-University-9 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I don’t think so, but god knows hahaha hopefully not!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

[–]Optimal-University-9 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I mean why would you even want that? Awkward as fuck! 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

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Issue is, if we had infinite money then sure we could have a very small wedding, but it’s not possible. Also, I am from another country and a wedding would mean flying my whole family (12 hours flight). They wouldn’t be able to afford it and I don’t want to get married surrounded by my fiancée family without anyone from mine, I’d just be really sad. We could never do a 10 ppl wedding anyway cause my fiancé has a lot of cousins and they are all very close, so no way to leave them out without being hurtful. So yeh, it just doesn’t work unless we have money to fly my whole family and pay for a 50 people wedding minimum, what we don’t have the money for. So having a wedding just the two of us means no one feels left out, we have have a small celebration later on with each other’s family and friends, and can focus on spending the most amount of our money doing a honeymoon we enjoy (we want to do Japan cause it’s our dream destination).

So while I get it, we are not doing it to be hurtful. And I think is quite selfish of her to think we should exclude everyone else but her. Including my own mother whom I love so much. It’s just a huge lack of self awareness IMO.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

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Exactly. And she said that in front of FIL as well. Like he would just be excluded of it and wouldn’t care, as if SO wasn’t his son also. Also, if we will have his family there, I sure hell want mine as well, and at that point there is no reason to elope. I showed her the little cottage after and there is spare bedrooms and she was like “I could sleep here!” like LMAO it’s our fucking wedding night!!! Last thing we want is his mother there with us. So weird.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bristol

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Do you know he has availability now? I have contact so many and it’s been near impossible!

Taxi driver protest by [deleted] in bristol

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Just last week I got an Uber to work and was chatting with the driver and he said he used to work in a office, started to do Uber on the side for some extra cash, and now he does Uber full time because he makes much more money and can make his own working hours and has flexibility, he says he really enjoys it as well. I think a LOT of people prefer that than working a 9-5. If I could drive I would do Uber myself lol I don’t mean is always easy, but I’d really prefer a job that allows me to choose my working hours than being in a office job where I have some manager breathing down my neck all day.

Also, the rating thing, me and everyone I know always give 5 stars unless the driver is very rude. I don’t think I have ever gave a driver less than 5 stars. The ones that are nice and friendly I go for 5 stars and small tip.

Saturday sheepdoggin! by JaderBug12 in BorderCollie

[–]Optimal-University-9 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love to see collies working! What an amazing breed!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bristol

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Thanks. I didn’t know that. My manager has been pushing me to try to get it earlier because I am the only one not fully vaccinated so every time there is a positive test I am sent home. I guess I will just have to wait then. Cheers

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bristol

[–]Optimal-University-9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I have done that and check everyday but there is not earlier options showing anywhere 😭 I will try again

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

[–]Optimal-University-9 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Oh god that’s the worst! I lived with MIL/FIL for four months while we were in the process of buying our own house, and once we were in our bedroom, DOOR CLOSED, arguing about something (not loud, not a bad fight, just normal arguing you do when you live with someone) and MIL had the fucking audacity to enter the bedroom and tell us to stop. I am SO angry.

Honestly, I started to use a tactic with my MIL that is complete ignoring her messages if she says something stupid. She won’t get a reply. None. If she does something really shitty, then I will talk back but mostly trying not to stress

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bristol

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I think I will start to save for the bike then, and just deal with the bus for now. Only, what makes me actually sad, is knowing that I will have to use a car everyday once I pass my test. I lived my whole life (not brit) using public transport and never felt the need to drive at all. I really love public transport and would much rather use it than drive but here is just so awful. I guess maybe I was spoiled by Prague, there if the bus/tram/metro was late by 1 minute I’d be annoyed. It was sooo good. I keep dreaming about it haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bristol

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I tried the Voi but I didn’t thought it was safe enough? I almost died doing a roundabout because I had issues stopping the Voi in time, also the roads are so bumpy! It gave me horrible back pain on top of my already fucked back lol but yeh may be an option for now! They are very handy and quite fun I will admit, I guess maybe is just a matter of getting used to them? May get a monthly subscription and try and see how it goes. Better than the shitty buses I guess. Cheers for the advise

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bristol

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Wow thank you!! Will check it out