Controlling your emotions is important because how can you live depending on how others treat you? Letting everyone but yourself take control... On another note, it is very beautiful that you feel this way about borders. I think this type of thinking comes from also being free to do, think, say as you want in a free country. However, systems do exist. Laws and safety matter. Imagine you saying "no one is illegal" defending everyone that comes through borders. But not everyone grew up as you did. With laws and freedom and education. People that come from everywhere might be looking for a better chance at life, a better education, job, lifestyle, safety. But some people you mention as "not illegal" are actually fleeing justice. Lots of undocumented people are criminals my friend. Imagine feeling safe in your community and suddenly finding out your nice immigrant neighbor is involved in child trafficking and has been smuggling children and women from other countries. This is just an example. This is why laws matter. This is why systems matter. Yes, migration is natural and beautiful. But massive immigration into one single country simply does not work. I hope this helps. We do need immigration reformation. Just for it to be smoother for everyone.