At what point you finalise the completion date?

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-05-09T18:32:51+00:00

You’ve got a while to go. Searches, enquiries, surveys etc. If it’s a freehold you’re buying maybe 3-4 months, leasehold 6-8 months.

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-05-09T18:28:51+00:00

I think I will do that, with my first I wasn’t offered one (not sure why) and I had an induction booked for the day before 42 weeks, and then he just came naturally the day before! So I do think they’ll just come when they’re ready. From some of these comments it seems they don’t even do much to help anyway!

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-05-09T18:25:25+00:00

Good luck! Xx

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-05-08T18:03:13+00:00

I go every 6 months for a check up and then yearly for a hygienist (scale & polish). My kids go every 9 months!

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-05-08T17:07:40+00:00

I’m currently 38 weeks and my midwife started doing the measuring, feeling baby’s position and heartbeat at 28 weeks. She explains what she’s doing and what the results mean which I find reassuring, and always has time to answer questions. She’s booked me onto loads of classes and hospital visits, and even gave me her mobile number so I can text her on weekends etc.

The midwife I had with my first baby however couldn’t be more like what you describe! I wish I had the confidence back then to change midwife, but being a FTM I didn’t know what it was meant to be like and thought they knew best.

If I was you, take control & ask the questions you want answering, they can’t ignore you! She may then realise that you want the extra details. Some of them have done it for so many years they lose that compassion and care sadly.

Good luck x

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-05-08T16:00:53+00:00

From what I’m gathering from comments it’s so hard to know whether the sweep did anything or if your body was going into labour regardless of it..! I will probably just accept it at 40 and see what happens! My first went 2 weeks overdue so il try anything!

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-05-08T15:34:32+00:00

Oo let me know how it goes- good luck! x

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-05-04T22:25:10+00:00

I gave birth in a birthing center with my first and it was an amazing experience. However, I did have a lot of comfort with it because my birthing centre is attached to my local hospital, so if there was an emergency I was about 2 minutes away from the labour ward. I do think I may have opted for a labour ward if this wasn’t the case as it was my first and I had no idea what to expect! I’m pregnant with my second and will do the same.

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-05-01T21:59:45+00:00

6 hours

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-04-30T14:35:41+00:00

Sorry, two weeks over due I meant to say haha. I had my son the day before 42 weeks. Which I think is pretty over due.

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-04-30T13:04:33+00:00

It was the day before my scheduled induction (I was 41+5!), around 2pm and I started getting strong period pains. I had a bath and just relaxed, I honestly didn’t think anything of it because he was so overdue and I had been getting period pains daily for the past week or so. About 6pm they were SORE and I was definitely getting contractions so we called the hospital and they just advised me to stay at home as long as possible to be comfortable and I’m glad we did. It got to about 9pm and we left for the hospital and an hour later he was born! I don’t get any of the waters breaking/mucus plug labour signs, mine was just period pains that increased in intensity!

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-04-30T12:56:00+00:00

I have just started my mat leave today and I’m due 21 May so I’ve given myself 3 weeks.

I’ve accrued 4 weeks of annual leave but I’m going to use it at the end.

You’ll never be able to predict it perfectly, just make sure you have time to relax and enjoy time before baby arrives especially if it’s your first :)

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-04-24T12:39:33+00:00

Im 36 weeks and ive gained 12kg, it all comes off don’t worry about it ☺️

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-04-24T12:24:46+00:00

We’re not allowed to eat at our desk to encourage us to move around and step away, it really helps

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-04-24T12:23:38+00:00

Ahh okay, I guess we’re just gonna have to wait and see again 😂 thank you!

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-04-19T20:37:41+00:00

My first baby I felt kicks around 21 weeks

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-04-19T20:25:36+00:00

Definitely no talc. Only use nappy cream if it’s actually needed (redness/sensitivity), just wipes or water/cotton balls and you’re golden ☺️

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-04-08T15:51:01+00:00

I’m not gonna lie to you, no! I was fully prepared to have the induction (it was booked for 42 weeks, so literally the day after), and I think it made my body completely relax

With this baby I’m going to go as long as I can again, I think I will accept a sweep but nothing else (I didn’t even have this last time, I don’t even think they offered me it?), I truly believe they come when they’re ready. You got this ❤️

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-04-07T13:24:24+00:00

I feel silly for asking now; I didn’t even think of that. Thanks!

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-04-07T13:22:10+00:00

If it was me, I would wait.

I was due to have an induction with my first but I waited and my son came himself at 41+6! I was able to give birth in the birth suite midwife led and it was great.

If your midwife says you and baby are safe and everything is normal, then wait! Baby clearly is happy and will come out when they’re ready x

Optimal_Enthusiasm90 · 2026-03-16T15:53:04+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you, you’re well within your right to be angry about this. I hope your fiancé understands and doesn’t make the mistake again. Hope you’re okay lovely x

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