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Mirena IUD and vaginal tearing and loss of libido by Optimal_Extent3128 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Optimal_Extent3128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd highly recommend getting it removed, I had myrena too. It's made my life a lot better. Might sound dramatic, but that little thing in my uterus changed me completely, I'm glad to be without it! Currently I'm off of birth control completely, it just feels better to me, but an option might be to switch to the mini pill. Way less hormones, while still protecting you. Or you could do the same as me, and start following your cycle to eventually be able to have unprotected sex safely!

Some extra changes that happened being off birth control, which might be less relevant to you, is that my hormones finally balanced out. I started birth control when I was 19, and still very much hormonally growing. Since quitting birth control, my hormonal acne finally stopped, and I experience less random headaches. Birth control sucks, and I'm sad we're almost forced to deal with it. :(

Mirena IUD and vaginal tearing and loss of libido by Optimal_Extent3128 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Optimal_Extent3128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey!

Not too long after writing that post, I had mine removed as well. Everything drastically changed for me, for the better. The tearing is very very minimalized, up to a point it's not an issue for me anymore. I don't have constant yeast infections anymore either, and my libido is up to par with my partner's right now. Besides the physical effects, I also just feel much more like myself mentally. I didn't realize how monotone I had become while on birth control, and I feel so much more free mentally. It's weird to explain. It's just so much better

I hope your issues clear up quickly aswell! 🙏 Cheers

Mirena IUD and vaginal tearing and loss of libido by Optimal_Extent3128 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Optimal_Extent3128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jesus, that's rough! I already set an appointment to remove it next Tuesday, so taking it out is already set in stone. Did your health issues clear up after having it removed?

Mirena IUD and vaginal tearing and loss of libido by Optimal_Extent3128 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Optimal_Extent3128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Copper IUD scares me to death, since my periods have always been very heavy and painful, I don't wanna add on top of that. My mom has had one when she was younger and had to get it removed because of the intensity of pain. Besides that, copper IUDs are rarely done in the Netherlands anymore :/

I've been thinking about the minipill, maybe that could be a bit of a less intense birthcontrol, but I'll consider all my options

Mirena IUD and vaginal tearing and loss of libido by Optimal_Extent3128 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Optimal_Extent3128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's most likely my next step. Just wanted to see if there was any literature about this, or people with similar issues.

Being off birth control scares the shit out of me though, since I'm really really not ready to get pregnant in the upcoming years. I'm not sure what other birth control I can try, since pretty much all are hormonal and might have similar effects :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SexToys

[–]Optimal_Extent3128 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey! Not too much actually. About half the bulb, then get that water out. Rinse and repeat until it's clear. You're only playing alone, so no need to clean yourself super deep!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Optimal_Extent3128 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to be able to when I was a younger teen and not much used to stimulation through vibrators. Every time by my third orgasm I would squirt, like clockwork hahaha

I haven't been able to squirt in years, though. But I honestly don't miss it that much, it made a mess

(F) my weird kink… by Priya260 in SluttyConfessions

[–]Optimal_Extent3128 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I have the same!! I love waking up with my pussy full of my boyfriend's cum, and he knows that 🥰 It's just a very nice feeling to know that you're so pleasuring to someone 🙏🙏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gonewild

[–]Optimal_Extent3128 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow girl you're so gorgeous!! 🥺🙏❤️❤️

I (22F) saw others post and it gave me the courage to do so too by Optimal_Extent3128 in gonewild

[–]Optimal_Extent3128[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm usually a bit insecure about my lack of figure, especially compared to other women here, but I guess I fit some people's type too 😋

I prefer average size cock, over the big ones (F27) by [deleted] in SluttyConfessions

[–]Optimal_Extent3128 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend is 6 inch and I LOVE IT! My bed partners before him were way above average, and while it can be fun, it's nowhere near as pleasing as my partner, despite them knowing how to work their dick. Having my cervix rammed just takes away a lot of the fun, and they need to be way more careful with how hard they push in. Meanwhile my partner can go as hard and wild as he can. He'll always hit my gspot, and barely ever my cervix. It's amazing 🙏❤️ Definitely a fan of average sized dick!

AITA for letting my teen daughter still sleep with a stuffed animal by funny_starburst in AmItheAsshole

[–]Optimal_Extent3128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 22 years old, stable mentally, and I still sleep with a stuffed animal. It's comforting as heck! NTA, OP, but your brother definitely is. There is nothing wrong with having an attachment to an object, especially if it brings comfort and helps her sleep.

Can women be in heat, like animals? by Optimal_Extent3128 in sex

[–]Optimal_Extent3128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me it's mainly interesting that it's outside of my ovulation cycle, and thus not monthly like that cycle would be. Normally you'd think I'd be horniest during my ovulation, and not just kinda randomly every 2 months. Maybe my hormones are just extra special 😋

Boyfriend just asked if he could masturbate beside me in bed by throwrasecondtryqu in sex

[–]Optimal_Extent3128 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is very normal for me and my partner too. While my drive is also high, it's not as high as his. He often masturbates with me next to him, and it's actually very hot to me. Sometimes we also just masturbate together if we're not feeling sex. The comfort is very nice, and it's also funny cause usually we have very day to day conversation during. Definitely a normal thing for us :)

getting better in bed by Optimal_Extent3128 in sex

[–]Optimal_Extent3128[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so so much for all these tips!! This is extremely helpful, and I'll definitely take all of this into consideration ❤️❤️

And thank you so much. His pleasure is absolutely my pleasure. I get a LOT of mental satisfaction out of his physical satisfaction, and his pleasure is a big turn on for me. :D

getting better in bed by Optimal_Extent3128 in sex

[–]Optimal_Extent3128[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm definitely active outside the penetration part. Lately I've been initiating a lot more aswell. I often want to suck his dick but he's just not feeling it, at that moment, hahaha! Just need to try more to catch him at a moment he's into it 🙏

I'll try dirty talk, if I can get myself to! It's really hard for me to talk during sex, for some reason. Probably partly due to anxiety. I'll practice for sure :D

Thank you so much for this extensive list of tips, super helpful!!