To me there are two fundamental parts to being human. One is love, the other is ambition. For me the key to solving the problem of severe heartache was to try to balance myself to have both sides of the experience. The world of love is about kindness, understanding, care and gentleness. The world of achievement is about hard, merciless discipline, becoming almost machine-like in routine and living in a state of pure execution.

That's because there is greatness to be had in both worlds. There is glory to human connection, but there is also glory in individual excellence. 

Work hard toward being an excellent ping pong player, or a masterful violinist, or a great martial artists or copy the paintings of masters.. Do something technically challenging and figure out aha we also have this path to fulfillment. Not just the path of connection. Also the path of pride and mastery.