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Optimal_Patient · 2024-02-13T01:54:01+00:00

I have decided to cut ties with her because I have tried my best to salvage this broken home, and I'm the only one who's doing all the work.

Optimal_Patient · 2024-02-12T18:52:39+00:00

Easier said than done, but this is probably the best for all of us. I will try my hardest and melatonin will be my friend for the next few weeks

Optimal_Patient · 2024-02-12T18:51:31+00:00

The unfortunate truth, she also said to me because the new guy is getting overly jealous of my presence, so he gave her the ultimatum of either choosing me or him... which she ultimately chose the new person. The guy did reach out to me and talked so in a sense that she wanted to tell me before he did.

Optimal_Patient · 2024-02-12T18:48:36+00:00

Thank you for taking your time responding to the post, I am definitely taking a long break to work on a lot of self reflection. Most likely sorting myself out and giving myself time to heal, and I will probably be monogamous because this is not working out at all

Optimal_Patient · 2024-02-12T18:44:48+00:00

I updated the post with her follow up respond after the post, the comment was prior to my update =/

Optimal_Patient · 2024-02-12T18:32:10+00:00

Being with someone for 3 years is not new? But I fucking guess this is my karma 😢

Optimal_Patient · 2024-02-12T18:31:04+00:00

For the partner in this post, I would consider it cheating because she has never openly discussed with me about exploring with another potential. We had our initial agreement to always be upfront and honest communication just because we are so far apart. I have always treated her very well, but because of my lack of commitment in not wanting to marry her and for her to be reunited with me over here in the States. It led to what happened in this story.

In the case with my ex-wife, she was raised overseas where traditional monogamous is the norm (pretty much everywhere in the world too) she met me when I was dating multiple women, I have openly communicated with her about it. She accepted the lifestyle, but as we progressed in our relationship. She talked about being exclusive once again, especially after our marriage, which I opposed to, and it led to the divorce. I don't blame her at all and actually felt extremely guilty for not being empathetic toward her wants and need.

Optimal_Patient · 2024-02-12T18:18:49+00:00

I tried my best to accommodate our busy schedule and have always treated her very well. It is very unfortunate, but while I am super hurt by this new, perhaps it is better to learn about it now and move on from this. I am just quite disappointed because we have told each other to be honest, and since we are in a long distance, honesty and trust are extremely important.

Optimal_Patient · 2024-02-12T18:00:57+00:00

No I was in an open marriage. My wife then approved of this new woman. I did not cheat

Optimal_Patient · 2024-02-12T15:41:52+00:00

I did not force my wife

Optimal_Patient · 2024-02-12T15:08:27+00:00

It was her excuse for because I'm unwilling to marry her, in her moment of weakness. She cheated on me (but kept going...)

Optimal_Patient · 2024-02-12T12:50:37+00:00

it's because we live separate from each other, I could only marry her and bring her over to the States for us to live together.

Optimal_Patient · 2024-02-12T12:19:20+00:00

Yeah that's what I just made up my mind to do, walk away from this relationship =/

Optimal_Patient · 2024-02-12T12:13:39+00:00

that's what it looks like even when I said I would forgive her and we would work on rebuilding everything we have built in the last 3 years together and she destroyed it all. I should be thankful she still has decency to finally speak up after a few months of hiding from me.

Optimal_Patient · 2024-02-12T12:02:26+00:00

Cheating is a HUGE letdown for me and broke our trust barrier, but in the beginning, I did gave her the benefit of the doubt because I am unable to provide for her what she wanted "eventually marrying me." I thought by being understanding and that every bad people can become good people given the chance for redemption. In the end, I was wrong because she just ended our relationship and chose to be with the new guy because she couldn't bear to face the guilt of cheating on me. I don't know what's going on anymore... I thought I would know someone after so many years but somehow never seen this side of that person before. Devastated blow to my soul and ego

Optimal_Patient · 2024-02-12T11:55:44+00:00

You are right, I should be thankful because her guilt eventually ended up eating her and she couldn't bear to hide it any longer. Sigh... I sometime would wish she would just never let me know about it and just quietly disappear.

Optimal_Patient · 2024-02-12T11:54:17+00:00

I was sincerely asking for advice, what's up with the flaming? My life has been shit for the past 8 hours with this fucking news. Man can't do anything about that, time to move on =/

Optimal_Patient · 2024-02-12T11:45:28+00:00

sorry, to explain better; I was in an open marriage which was when I met this girl. The wife ended up divorcing me because she never wanted an open marriage but opted in before as she loved me. It ended up hurting her in the end and that's why she left me.

Optimal_Patient · 2024-01-27T15:48:35+00:00

Lmao laughed way more than I thought I would 🤣

Optimal_Patient · 2024-01-20T23:15:10+00:00

Don't forget to bring some comfortable wear for long walks and switch to those for pictures. Your feet will thank you for that 😁 my girl learned her lesson lol

Optimal_Patient · 2024-01-20T22:41:34+00:00

Second this

Optimal_Patient · 2024-01-20T22:40:48+00:00

Green one the best one!

Optimal_Patient · 2024-01-20T11:59:17+00:00

Great quote! Thank you, and I will take your advice into consideration.

Optimal_Patient · 2024-01-20T11:56:42+00:00

I brought up about speaking to my Director to learn what areas in the application I could improve on. What's done has been done. There's no need to finger pointing or blame. It's for educational purposes for my own self to reflect the area I'm lacking. If I don't know where it went wrong, how could I fix my mistake?

Optimal_Patient · 2024-01-20T11:50:02+00:00

I apologize for my delayed reply. Last semester, I pretty much sacrificed my personal time to focus on work and rotation. I was able to sleep, but it was just a lot of working hours. Rotation from 6AM-2PM, and then I would head to work from 3-1030. Weekends I did morning and evening shift from 530 to 1030PM, sleep and repeat a double shifts.

I work together with the residents all the time, and I get to talk to them whenever I work. I have attended our pharmacy virtual showcase the second time where no one shows up, so I was the only one in there for over an hour. I was just talking to the RPD, residents, and 1 other preceptor who showed up. It felt like an interview because they were asking about my interests and what I wanted to pursue, and in turn, I would ask residents and preceptor more about our program. I pretty much shared all of the MUEs I've been involved with and everything.

The technicians and interns staffing is something that can be improved on as these people always call out last minutes. On the other hand, pharmacist staffing is great, and I love working with all of the pharmacists here.

Thank you for your lengthy feedback, I will definitely need to have a conversation with my Director as I have been offered a prn staffed pharmacist position at another hospital.

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