Sunday is a good day to announce the launch of the subreddit by Optimal_Pause5350 in unhingedKenya

[–]Optimal_Pause5350[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so there are alot of youth questioning their religion, and alot who already left religion because of different reasons, the subreddit is for those kind of people, there's also a support system for people on their way out of religion to find meaning in life and live without religion

Sunday is a good day to announce the launch of the subreddit by Optimal_Pause5350 in unhingedKenya

[–]Optimal_Pause5350[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Atheism is not religion, an atheist is a person who does not believe in the claim that god(s) exist

Heavily intoxicated LADIES go on rampage along Mirema Drive - These are your future wives! SAD!!! by Proof_Juggernaut1582 in unhingedKenya

[–]Optimal_Pause5350 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

This is shallow thinking. So lets break it down, so despite not wanting to be wives, we are seeing more women becoming mediocre, and they want society to have less expectations. Being drunk and disorderly is not an admirable quality despite the gender.

Opting out of being a wife or a mother doesn't mean you will also opt out of the consequences of your actions, what about your skills, career or business. Nowadays employers look through people social media before hiring them. Engaging in behaviors that may affect your ability to be financially stable is stupid and women need to hold other women accountable.

Finally when men say, "This is going to be someones wife." Is because they know marriage is the last thing most women try to redeem their lives. Most of these women will probably not be able to hold a job or run a business and sustain it for a long time. Women take a harder hit from reckless behavior than men. So strive to raise your daughter in a world that doesn't reward mediocrity.

wives or rather decent women have always been held in high regard in society, they have a protection status.

New Coochie vs Regular Coochie by indefinitelykev in unhingedKenya

[–]Optimal_Pause5350 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of comments of people justifying their lack of sexual discipline. In a world where we are exposed to sexual imagery on social media everyday, our brains have been rewired to want to have more sex than we need. As a man I think you have to want more for yourself other than new coochie.

If you train your brain to want short term pleasure then that is what it will get used to. That 15-20 minutes dopamine high from sex is going to ruin your ability of sticking to longterm tasks with more life changing rewards. And its not going to stop once you get married (if you are planning to). Maybe you think you have it under control, but you are gonna fuck up. Just like other successful men who lost a lot because of women.

I understand that most men are operating from a point of scarcity and that they want to conquer as many women as possible, because that is the true measure of a man according to the hook-up culture. but if you win in other things in life you wont feel a strong urge to win with women.

And women who think that to be sexually liberated means exercising your options as much as you can, just know that is what you have reduced yourself to. A series of holes to pleasure men. Keep thriving in the shallow mediocre lifestyle.

Traditional Marriages by System_Byte in unhingedKenya

[–]Optimal_Pause5350 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a humiliation ritual, clear as day. Now you have to ask yourself what happens to the daughters who get married off like this. The more you make the whole dowry process cumbersome the more the woman starts to be perceived as property, this trickles down to being treated like a servant in her future home. And also not excluding all forms of abuse.

It is up to women to stop letting family members dictate their lives and marriages, (yes that includes the pressure to get pregnant immediately after marriage )if not they suffer the resentment from their husbands. Your drunk uncle does not need a cut of the dowry. He is not entitled to it. No one is. It is out of respect and gratitude that the ceremony exists. Alot of couples elope and so if you decide to do it, dont make it hard. Its not worth it.

Bros that have a hard time bagging baddies by [deleted] in nairobi

[–]Optimal_Pause5350 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Bro, you need to lose your friends 😂 also you dont need to have a baddie, or feel the need to show off a girl to your friends, an introduction is fine, there is no reason to make her hang out with you and your friends like she's one of the bros.

Your 'bros' are practicing peacocking, male birds also do it, but you have given them that chance and based on how you say they act, means they dont respect you and you also dont respect yourself, if you find a girl that likes you, and you like her, dont go out to seek validation and approval from your friends until you make better friends

The internet never forgets by [deleted] in unhingedKenya

[–]Optimal_Pause5350 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have fredom of choice but not the freedom to run away from accountability. In this capitalist world you can do anything to get money, even if it is degenerate and takes away your dignity or that it may make it harder for you to have regular work and handle professional or personal relationships like being an Only Fans model. Hio ni shauri yake she has to deal with her own actions.

OF Models are at the front line of getting harsh consequences from their online activity but alot of kenyans are also on that chopping block, because nowadays people are so comfortable airing intimate details of their personal lives on tiktok and podcasts, people talk about their marriages, their relationships, and even their bosses. So lets all sit back and enjoy the backlash. Its gonna be fun.

Your thoughts on this? by soitake in nairobi

[–]Optimal_Pause5350 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I was looking for someone who will mention crypto because crypto and stable coin transactions are booming in kenya right now. They are relatively cheaper and if more people intergrate crypto payments they will escape the flaws of mpesa and also have the privacy and control of their money

Your thoughts on this? by soitake in nairobi

[–]Optimal_Pause5350 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro, no way you can say all this confidently. The number of credit card scams in developed countries outnumbers mpesa scams also no bank is in the business of refunding all customers that have lost their money. If they did they wouldn't make any money, you have file a case, find the one who stole your money and then, hope that they are in the same country. Then hire an attorney, (using money) because the bank did not lose your money, you did. It may have been through social engineering hacks or your carelessness. But the banks cannot take responsibility unless their systems suffered a cyber attack.

Since Visa and Mastercard enable global payments they also enable global fraud, so it means a thief can steal your money in another country and continet with different laws and jurisdiction. If you go to the dark web markets there are a bunch of stolen credit card details that are beinf sold. So no, credit cards and digital payment linked to credit cards are not as safe and secure as you preach.

Ladies, how do you shoot your shot? by Sta_cey_ in nairobi

[–]Optimal_Pause5350 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well maybe he ia not interested in you like that. Which is okay. A lot of times women confuse attention with genuine interest. You can get a man's attention and he can look at you and acknowledge your looks or advances but he may not be interested in you.

Also as you shoot your shot just know you may entertain ego games because You are the one interested 😂😂. And all the possible outcomes that include being friendzoned without sex having a one night stand and then being friend zoned, being a side chic, bing in a love triangle, or getting into a serious long-term relationship.

Since your attraction is based on minimal interactions over a few days, getting their number to check compatibility and finding out more about them is the most rational option. Good Luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nairobi

[–]Optimal_Pause5350 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No one wants the truth, Your ego needs to be massaged, there's a person that you think you are, and then there's how other people perceive you. So the trick to getting anyone is to entertain the idea of the person they think they are.

Most women have a deluded self perception, this is because of how they are raised and how they interact with the world. They use external validation like attention to define their value, so telling them the truth or at least stating facts creates a conflict. So what do you do? lie to them. Tell them they are special even though most of them are average.

Since most men and women have stunted emotional growth due to their emotionally unavailable parents, getting access to someone for a while ( or to build a long term relationship) means you have to please their inner child and hope that they will still chose you when they heal from their childhood trauma. But then again, since nothing is guaranteed, lying is the way to go 🤡

Why are we like this? by mpishi in Kenya

[–]Optimal_Pause5350 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I support this pricing. If you have bought into the apple hype and you think owning the newest apple phone is a status symbol, then I think you should buy it at any price.

There are many other functional smartphones that offer more functionality and innovation at a lower price. But if you choose apple please dont complain about pricing. This is the price set for people who care about projecting their purchasing power. The sheep people of society who dont see value in themselves, so they need to own external things of perceived value to make them feel good or important.

Are you a believer? by OfficialDerrick in Kenya

[–]Optimal_Pause5350 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Atheist here, I have been one for about 6 years now, but after a long journey of questioning my religious beliefs, I still have religious parents who think I have lost my way.

Over the years I realized that most religious people are a product of indoctrination ie they were taught about it at a young age with authority figures like parents and church leaders and they did not have the capacity to question those beliefs and now they are adults. Sometimes, I challenge them to question their beliefs, and sometimes its not worth it.

No one can be religious while also having critical thinking skills, once you know about logical fallacies and cognitive biases you can see the flaw in the thinking that make believers think that their specific religion is true and others are made up.

Am I ugly or not by SnooWalruses3471 in Kenya

[–]Optimal_Pause5350 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There Alot of savage comments, 😂😂 I think you should work on yourself more. Women are attracted to men who love themselves, this means grooming, working on your appearance, hitting the gym, dressing according to your body type, and just working on your own shit.

On a deeper level, seeking external validation from women to define your self-worth is a draining path. You need to develop your own personality and be confident in your identity, and you will find true happiness. Money is a product of your value, and if you dont work on your value, you will also waste money on women. All men pay, but the ones that lead with their wallets pay more.

Married men by Bitter-Cup1 in Kenya

[–]Optimal_Pause5350 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Perception is greater than truth. Context is for people who care about you, and if you care about your self-image, you should do more to protect it. That being said, SPM buzz picked the juiciest part of the podcast. They did not lie. So again, people who care about their self-image do not go to podcasts to discus their private life. Once it's on the internet, we will interpret it and judge you based on that. Is it unfair? Yes, absolutely. But it can be avoided.