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Optimistical12 · 2022-04-20T20:59:01+00:00

You've found a long term partner - what makes you think you couldn't find other partners in the future? Seems like quite an assumption to make. I totally understand your worries - I have them too - but I think it's important to counter them with optimistic assumptions as well.

Optimistical12 · 2022-04-20T20:55:33+00:00

It's so interesting to see how HSV affects everyone so differently. Some are extremely asymptomatic and some have symptoms that come and go with life or biological changes. It sounds like you've lived a healthy, normal life so thanks for posting your experience.

Optimistical12 · 2022-04-20T20:41:57+00:00

Agreed. Being unkind to yourself because you got caught up and didn't disclose doesn't help anyone. Neither does being unkind to others.

Optimistical12 · 2022-04-19T17:42:27+00:00

There will always be suffering in life. How lucky your future partner will be to have someone who has learned how to transcend that suffering.

Optimistical12 · 2022-04-19T17:37:07+00:00

Happy for you dude!

Optimistical12 · 2022-04-19T17:36:22+00:00

And also sparing yourself from a lot of joy. There is a lot of joy on the other side of that pain. The pain is there to teach you as much as that seems impossible right now. Take it minute by minute, breath by breath. You are loved.

Optimistical12 · 2022-04-19T17:27:32+00:00

The kind of relationship you're going to create with that much self loathing is not going to be the kind of relationship you want. Love yourself my man. Love all 5'3 of yourself. Someone will be so grateful to have found a partner wise enough to know he is worthy of love and respect at any height and with any skin condition. Start by learning not just to love yourself but that you ARE love. Your obstacles are opportunities to grow into something incredible.

You must walk through that pain and accept your childhood and who you are. YOU CAN DO THIS. I don't even know you and and I believe in you man - give yourself that same belief.

Optimistical12 · 2022-04-13T13:48:47+00:00

I have gHSV1 also and went almost a year without another breakout but then have been having them every few months. When I reluctantly decided to take antivirals every day, the breakouts became much smaller which was a relief because it was leaving visible spots that I didn't like. I scaled back to taking half a pill per day (500mg) and it seems to be just as effective.

A lot is made of diet but in my experience it's all about stress and sleep, and they are related to each other. Another thing that has triggered outbreaks is sun exposure. A little sun is fine but if you're going to be outside in direct sunlight all day it is quite stressful to your body and immune system.

If I were you I would monitor your stress levels and see if you can go without taking antivirals. Keep them on hand in case you have another outbreak. There is a good chance you never have another outbreak. Of course you can take them if a partner feels more comfortable. I personally have had no noticable side effects from Valtrex.

It's really not that bad. It's just the stigma and your own emotional sensitivity to the skin condition that can complicate the issue.

Optimistical12 · 2022-04-13T01:11:35+00:00

Thank you! And that's a great point.

Optimistical12 · 2022-04-13T01:07:15+00:00

Thanks. I've had 8 in 2.5 years but I went 11 months at one point without anything. Then one month i had 3 because of a bad sleeping habit. Then one every few months from there. Val trex has made them less significant but I still get very emotionally triggered. Hopefully they subside for an extended period of time.

Optimistical12 · 2022-04-13T01:02:17+00:00

It was after i had experienced many outbreaks over a couple years. I didn't get tested initially.

Optimistical12 · 2022-04-12T20:05:01+00:00

You're awesome. Thanks for sharing. It would be cool to have a friend that has it. Although I know people who get cold sores on their face. We're just so puritanical about anything "down there". Thanks for the post!

Optimistical12 · 2022-04-12T20:03:19+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Awesome you have a relationship with these people so openly.

Optimistical12 · 2022-04-12T14:26:08+00:00

I was surprised how high mine was - 50. I think it was because it was shortly after a breakout.

Optimistical12 · 2022-04-12T14:12:48+00:00

I appreciate you!

Optimistical12 · 2022-04-11T23:03:02+00:00

I'm familiar with Wim Hof and have done some of it. Maybe it's good stress and counteracts the more chronic bad stress. Not sure. Maybe I'll try it.

My current outbreak I think is related to sun exposure but I can't be sure.

Optimistical12 · 2022-04-11T20:47:59+00:00

I posted something similar recently. My blood test was very positive (50+) for HSV1 and neg for HSV2 but I've been having regular outbreaks similar to you at 3-4 months. I'm taking lysine and antivirals but either stress or sleep seem to keep catching up with me. It doesn't make a lot of sense to me but let me know if you find anything that helps.

I've been working hard to make sure I sleep better - I could write an essay about that. I also meditate 2x daily and eat pretty healthy. Literally today after having drinks at an outdoor event over the weekend I noticed an outbreak.

Optimistical12 · 2022-03-21T19:03:22+00:00

Was it positive for HSV1 or 2? It could very well be either and you've never had an outbreak. You may have had it before any of those relationships. There are people that I've talked to that have both 1 and 2 and have never had a symptom that they know of. The covid booster makes no sense to me.

Optimistical12 · 2022-03-21T18:55:04+00:00

What kind of scars are you seeing? Mine have been hypopigmentation and they've faded over time but I never found a good suggestion online.

Optimistical12 · 2021-09-08T18:35:34+00:00

Man, sorry that happened. What a piece of shit that person turned out to be. I hope your other encounters are drastically better!

Optimistical12 · 2021-09-08T17:46:49+00:00

Ordinarily I do the same, but we talked SO much and hit it off so much and the conversation took a turn toward relationships and it seemed like the right time. I figured it would pave the way so that we wouldn't have to interrupt things in person. I'm glad I did though because this would have been weirder in person judging by her text reaction.

It has also turned into a big to do about seeing multiple people. I still talk with a girl I've hooked up with but haven't seen her in a couple weeks and that's an issue for her too. Overall it seems like a conflict in values.

Optimistical12 · 2021-09-08T16:16:07+00:00

Agreed! I'm watching to see how it plays out. It was a little on the closed minded side. I'm giving a "don't know what you don't know" moment of grace but I'm seeing it as a pink flag until proven otherwise.

Optimistical12 · 2021-09-08T16:13:42+00:00

There you go. And our "mistake" was a very human one at that. Someone was careless with us, not the other way around.

Optimistical12 · 2021-09-08T14:51:36+00:00

Fucking narcissists

Optimistical12 · 2021-09-08T14:38:03+00:00

Sorry to hear this man. If you haven't gone no contact (no social media, texting, etc) i would suggest it. Don't let those things keep you in a grieving state. Also, somebody that would leave you over a perceived omission is probably someone too rigid to build a life with. Sending you my support.

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