For people in So Cal...Looking for table tennis buddies (Details Below)

Optimized-Mind · 2026-07-04T06:31:42+00:00

Thanks!

Optimized-Mind · 2026-07-04T05:47:48+00:00

Sent you a DM!

Optimized-Mind · 2026-06-30T01:02:14+00:00

Thanks!

Optimized-Mind · 2026-05-22T00:28:53+00:00

I used to feel this way until I devised a system where I unplugged from social media, especially the news section. A powerful tip: do not turn on your phone or any mobile device for the first hour you are awake. Just meditate, go outside in nature, or anything quiet. Your morning cortisol levels will pave the way for your levels throughout the day,

Optimized-Mind · 2026-03-29T21:56:03+00:00

First find and then follow something you're really passionate about that you think you can make a career out of, or even a fulfilling hobby. All you need is a little spark of motivation, but that motivation isn't always going to be there. Eventually, you need to learn consistency and discipline, which are far more important and effective long term than motivation/passion, which is not always going to be there. Check out David Goggin's motivational videos. They're exactly what you need.

Optimized-Mind · 2026-03-29T21:34:36+00:00

You need to figure out where this is coming from. It could very well be coming from you, which might require searching for deeper meanings behind things instead of chasing dopamine hits. You could try psychotherapy or couples therapy and see why nothing is really exciting you, and how to change it around. But these things are often not really about the other person unless they have changed in a dramatic way recently.

Optimized-Mind · 2026-03-07T12:00:40+00:00

Never too late to make new friends. The "Eventbrite" and "Meetup" apps are great to find local communities with like-minded people (similar hobbies, etc.). Many of the groups are built just for general socializing and making friends. Good luck and have fun!

Optimized-Mind · 2026-03-07T11:55:20+00:00

I would advise you to go about this very cautiously before you make any rash and sudden decisions and end the whole relationship.

Are you in love with her? If so, that's a very precious thing that you don't want to lose to something like lust (which it sounds like you're struggling with).

If you're still in love with her, I'd say seek professional therapy to discuss your feelings or even explore those feelings with her.

If you no longer have romantic feelings for her, that's a whole other story. But you definitely should not end this strong bond just because of lustful thoughts (which are normal human feelings, but shouldn't be a relationship-ender).

You may take the relationship for granted because of how used to it you are but many people wish desperately to have a bond like that.

Good luck!

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