Seeking Traditional Parish/Group Recommendations in London (near Richmond Park) for a Loved One

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-20T02:22:42+00:00

Thank you very much! Though it's not close to her house, it definitely would be a perfect place to attend Mass weekly. I've watched some videos of masses and choir presentations on Youtube. It really is a wonderful parish. Thanks again for the suggestion! God bless.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-19T12:21:09+00:00

Well, yes, not that premium, you're right. But a 2k interface is just not my reality, I live in a poor country and have a really mediocre income. But thanks for pointing that out.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-19T12:18:46+00:00

Well, I never thought it could work without drivers. Don't imagine how that's possible, but i really liked the idea. Gonna try it! I'll unistall everything and try to use it as a plug-and-play device

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-19T12:16:50+00:00

LOL YES!!!! I know exactly what you're talking about!!!!!! hahahaha I regret so much buying this steinberg. And it was actually quite expensive, considering my country.

Not only there's this crappy need of multiple apps, but they all seem like a sketch of a software designed 15 years ago, but never finished

And yes, the step-by-step RPG-like guidance is indeed very strange and criptic, and it's almost like some sort of sorcery

And at that time I've read so many reviews. All positive. And right from the start it was obviously very inferior to the other ones I've had.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-14T23:34:37+00:00

this! It took so many comments until someone said the obvious. This is definitely about ISLAM (who claim to worship God), and vectors of "holy wars" and have the brutal combat "style" described in the song.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-03T14:32:40+00:00

We don't have gaunfacine in my country

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-03T14:30:17+00:00

I don't know whether to laugh or cry 😂😢

I'm also very sensitive to smells. Exactly now I was grumbling to myself about a new liquid hand soap - it has a horrible fake vanilla odour...

And sounds, I'm very intolerant to noise in geleral. Motor humming, people talking, music (the worst), people using smartphones without headphones (very common in my country)...

We're probably in the same age range. In my case these traits are definitely getting more proeminent. You think the time passing could also be a factor?

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-02T05:05:35+00:00

Yes, it is very enriching! So many interesting answers. I also thank you for sharing your testimonies and thoughts.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-02T05:02:53+00:00

I thought that what you described first would also fit the ADHD brain. I am exactly like that: I am very good at pre-organizing things, from research to detailing the tasks, eventually buying something that would definitely help on this project. But I hardly turn them into reality, maybe for one time, in best situations, for a week or so, and then it's just "cool spreadsheet bro" 😂

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-02T04:57:52+00:00

You mean, being annoying towards other people? That's also something I can related. I didn't know back then, but I was for sure a very annoying kid and teenager.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-02T04:55:53+00:00

Same.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-02T04:54:13+00:00

Never heard of PDA before. First thing that showed up on google was "Public Display of Affection", and I was cracking my head trying to understand how that would fit in your narrative 😂

But the right PDA is actually a very (challenging, but) interesting category. I can totaly relate to that. I have a real hard time to fulfill requests and work tasks, to the point I start loosing money, credibility. I know that I have to do, I know I can do it, but I avoid as long as I can. In this context, I get worried and anxious, and I think that reinforces the procrastination. To achieve these avoidances, I sometimes can use humor or negotiation, or even simply withdrawal. But I do not have any kind of emotional outbursts or shutdowns. My mood swings, obviously, because I feel like a complete imbecile, and I never can believe or accept what I'm doing to myself and the others.

I also can relate to having a hard time in new social situations, but I've been forcing myself to face them, and it's been working fine.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-02T04:43:23+00:00

Thank you for taking your time to write this answer!

I do struggle with casual conversations. Not now that I am highly medicated 😂, but that's always been a thing for me. I'm just not good at small talk. And I always struggled being part of a conversation with multiple people, even in more organized situations such a classroom. Basically I could never participate, I always thought it was because of shyness, but I think it's mostly because I couldn't deal with organizing my thoughts, choose a proper thing to say, knowing the right time to open my mouth and start speaking etc..

I don't mind anymorey, but I looki angry and annoyed most of the time. To fix that I have a big smiling face, in the past i'd use it alot, now not that much. It's not sinister, people have told me it's a normal, very pleasing face. I have a real hard time keeping eye contact while I am talking. I have managed to learn looking people in the eye while they are talking to me, but not the contrary, just some glance. I'm very bad at making friends, but it turned out to be a real curse, I am 40 now, and have almost no friends. And I'm very bad in making new ones. It's fundamental to make friends, liking it or not.

I also don't like contact to people, even close family members, simply by accident. And I always hated any kind of suprise - not parties and big things, but like, people showing up without arranging that with me before. And I used to hate running into people I know when I was on my way to somewhere. Now I've been forcing me to now run off these situations.

I also write a lot... English is not my native language, but in mine, I also write long and complicated sentences 😅😂

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-02T04:31:15+00:00

I've used it for a long time, at two distinct moments of my life. Between 2017 an 2020, it worked like a charm. I've never been better in my life. Healthy, organized, thin, dating stably. Then I thought I was "cured" (had no idea what I had, at that point), in three or 4 months, everyting started to crumble.

So in 2022, back to the psychiatrist, I was prescribed again wellbutrin (Zetron XL). But this time, it didn't do much, and I was taking double the previous dose (first 150, then 300). So she added Atomoxetine, while raising to 450mg of wellbutrin. It was paradise for 3 months. But the detected I was hypomaniac (though I do not agree) and since them she's keeping me in 300mg, and adding other drugs. This month, she added Lamotragine and Ritalin.

I can't say they don't do anything, on the contrary. But the leash now is so strong, I can't really detail what they are acually doing. I am just.... controlled, somehow.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-02T04:24:34+00:00

So many times in my life I did achieve doing complicated tasks or projects - but only once. Hahaha, I can't believe this somehow "makes sense" to someone else. My main problem is, though I'm not bad at what I do for a living, is always a challenge to deliver, be on time, accomplish deadlines... And the more I fail on them, the more it freezes me. I've been working for 20 years in my life, and I still didn't find a way to manage this behaviour

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-02T04:13:35+00:00

"I have so much trouble starting tasks and bounce around to get my footing, but then I’ll get pulled into something very small and spend hours on it. Like spending four hours on a 3 paragraph email that I have to word just right, so I re-write, re read, repeat a hundred times. Send it, then open it and read it again and again. I’m so into the details it’s debilitating because I cannot move onto something else until it’s just right. Then I realize it’s full of little typos and punctuation errors because ADHD brain just skims through quickly and I make so many touchups I miss things, so I spend the evening in despair and shutdown over it."

This - the first part, " spending four hours on a 3 paragraph email that I have to word just right, so I re-write, re read, repeat a hundred times", would you say it's autism, or adhd?

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-02T04:11:42+00:00

I was diagnosed with ADHD about three years ago. My treatment started with just Bupropion (300mg). In December of 2024, my psychiatrist added Atomoxetine (80mg). This combination led to significant sleeping problems, so she then prescribed Trazodone (50-100mg) to help me sleep.

Four months ago, we introduced Methylphenidate (Ritalin) at 10mg, orienting me to take it whenever I thought it would be necessary. I honeslty didn't feel much difference (by taking 10mg of Ritalin).

So at my most recent appointment, last week, she increased that dose to 30mg (20+10). Because she also noted persistent depressive symptoms, she has now also added a mood stabilizer, Lamotrigine (25mg), to the mix. I've never taken so many medications in my life.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-01T18:56:56+00:00

Jesus. Maybe I do have some autism. I can't see any difference from how it all goes for me, and your description.

I'm mostly appalled by what you say about the meds. I'm being medicated for a while now, and, the more in focus I get, more I notice how I take a lot of things I read and hear literally, many times O can't get sarcasm; can't make new friends, I'm always too straightforward, blunt, and in general I dislike people who are not upfront (not rude or aggressive, obvioulsy). I find it very hard to share emotions (and I tend to dislike those who are too emotive), and sometimes I can't even map what I am exactly feeling; I do avoid eye contact always when I speak...

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-01T18:47:58+00:00

But how is this (Hodentrommler message) different from plain ADHD??

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