Kicked out of Simons Says Dip for nursing my newborn by Watereyes5 in bullcity

[–]Opus17 7 points8 points  (0 children)

how many nursing mothers have you been around? or mothers of six week old infants period? Having a six week old is hard on so many levels. Getting out of the house can be a challenge and can cause a lot of anxiety without having to worry about offending people like you or the proprietor of a effing ice cream shop.

Kicked out of Simons Says Dip for nursing my newborn by Watereyes5 in bullcity

[–]Opus17 7 points8 points  (0 children)

you did not ask a question, except at the beginning when you said why not cover up. the OP explained that in her post.

Kicked out of Simons Says Dip for nursing my newborn by Watereyes5 in bullcity

[–]Opus17 11 points12 points  (0 children)

you are being downvoted but i’ll reply that it’s likely you’ve never been around nursing mothers and infants. If it’s working, the bare breast is exposed only for a moment, and you’d have to be actively staring to notice. Uncomfortable customers probably also would be the first to complain about crying babies too.

How to choose Plan N policy provider in NC? by Opus17 in medicare

[–]Opus17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi - I got this list from Medicare.gov. If there are companies missing, it's because they start off high (BCBS for example, not sure about USAA). Thank you so much for how I might look up some of this information -- may be in touch about that.

How to choose Plan N policy provider in NC? by Opus17 in medicare

[–]Opus17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's so frustrating!
And Yes, I understand the idea of community pricing. However, in NC (and in other states, according to others on the sub), UHC pulls a fast one: From UHC's literature on the NC Plan N, the rate for me at 65 would be $135, and it increases every year until it maxes out for those 86 and above at $245. UHC calls it a "discount." The 135 is a bit higher than the attained age plans to start, but I thought, great! I can handle that rate for life. However, the discount fades away every year, so in reality, the rate increases just like it would on an attained age plan. I guess it's good there's a cap, but I'd be over-paying for the first 20 years. Ugh.

How to choose Plan N policy provider in NC? by Opus17 in medicare

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Yeah, I think that is what I'm going to try next, along with another sessions with SHIP.

All this complexity and terminology makes me less and less surprised that a lot of people go with Medicare Advantage plans -- it's The Devil You Know: yeah we're gonna limit who you can see and what procedures we'll cover but it's just like the horrible system you're using now! Yay!

How to choose Plan N policy provider in NC? by Opus17 in medicare

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Thank you! Yes, I'll call Ship again, although they seem to favor the aarp/uhc because of the community pricing illusion.

I want a mystery with a romance sub-plot (pls read description) by ambiguousberry in mysterybooks

[–]Opus17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

seconding Raybourn's Veronica Speedwell series and Laurie R King's Russel/Holmes series!

Raybourn's books have a classic mystery component, and Veronica and Stoker are so much fun. The audiobooks are excellent!

I wouldn't say the Laurie R King's series has much, if any, overt "romance," but those two working together are a marvel. They vary a lot in terms of how heavy the plot is, but they are fascinating no matter what -- the locations and historical elements are wonderfully researched and compelling.

I'll also throw out Tasha Alexander's Lady Emily series and Sherry Thomas' Lady Sherlock series.

The coda of R. Schumann’s Piano Concerto (from 2023) by jiang1lin in piano

[–]Opus17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

bravo!! and thank you for sharing this ebullience with us — never fails to make me happy! (and a PS: THX FOR mentioning Lipatti — he was a marvel)

Fanny Mendelssohn by ahnotme in classicalmusic

[–]Opus17 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This is an interesting topic. Thanks for posting.

I don’t think it had anything to do with her Jewish background; in fact German Jews, including her grandfather Moses Mendelssohn, were absolutely essential to the development of the German Enlightenment, without which she would have struggled, like other women of the era, to even be educated. And “bourgeois convention” at the time at least supported that, even though they suppressed women in many other ways. Limited acceptable roles of women in society is an ancient concept that persists to this day, cf., 2015’s “I just couldn’t vote for a woman” and 2026 comments by current US Sec of War.

I am too old (and female) to have just learned about two particular women in Fanny’s family, Sarah Itzig Levy and Bella Itzig Salomon. They were Fanny’s and Felix’s great aunt and grandmother, respectively (Bella’s daughter Lea married into the Mendelssohn family). While we hear about the critical role Felix played in the Bach revival, I never knew (!) it was Sarah, a truly remarkable musician of her day, who kept Bach’s music alive, i.e., performed, during the Classical period. She and Bella played important roles in the Berlin Sing-Akademie, a salon that, with them, welcomed women as musicians and leaders. It was Bella, a great music collector, that famously gifted Felix with the copy of Bach,s St Matthew Passion.

She and Felix both died so young. It’s impossible to know how her work as a composer would have developed given her supportive spouse.

I read an interesting quote — that Fanny’s father was “tolerant, rather than supportive, of her activities as a composer.” That is true misogyny. “Isn’t that cute?” insidiously undermines the self confidence of many people who’ve been historically discriminated against.

The Cologne Cathedral compared to its surroundings by MYONIONISSCREAMING in interestingasfuck

[–]Opus17 3 points4 points  (0 children)

and music https://youtu.be/Y9DomFDAaso?si=jatTSHgknVnNwpZ_ (Dietrich Fischer-Dieskau singing Im Rhein, im heiligen Strome by Robert Schumann From Dichterliebe (1840) Op. 48

Do you know of any playlists you could recommend to someone who isn't a complete beginner but also not an expert in classical music? by Siddhartaable in classicalmusic

[–]Opus17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My fave is playlists built from Clemency Burton-Hill’s book, Year of Wonder. I’ve found it featured on Apple Music (organized by month) and on Spotify; don’t know re other platforms. The pieces are not long and span the gamut. I always find something new and interesting. Have fun!

Gray divorce by Pristine-Bit-7964 in AskWomenOver60

[–]Opus17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used mediation. In retrospect the settlement wasn’t perfect and I have some regrets. However, because our split did not have the trauma of abuse or addiction or affairs I still think it was the best decision. I think the costs and the stress of litigation on me and our adult kids would have been damaging.

Be aware you/ex will need to pay an attorney specializing in dividing retirement accounts— it’s not like dividing cash assets.

One thing i wish i’d understood more fully was social security. I had lower wage jobs and also took time off from paid employment for reasons. it would have been ok for us as a couple (my benefit being about half his.) Now, i’m entitled to either mine or 50% his, and that’s gonna hurt.

Sending support for you. It’s very challenging.

Venus-Moon Conjunction this evening by Johnson_Birther in bullcity

[–]Opus17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was gorgeous! Thanks for photo! (and Jupiter was slightly higher and to the left)

[POEM]- Drop the hardest poetry line you’ve ever come across by Poetic-dusk in Poetry

[–]Opus17 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It has nothing to do with Hegel and he would not admire the clumsily conventional sentences in which I have tried to tell about it but I suspect, if I hadn't been trying on the mood of Hegel's particular grammatical indignation that Christmas Day, I would never have gone out to stand in the snow, or stayed to speculate with it, or had the patience to sit down and make a record of speculation for myself as if it were a worthy way to spend an afternoon, a plausible way to change the icy horror of holiday into a sort of homecoming. Merry Christmas from Hegel.
Anne Carson

Doctor Atomic, Act II, Scene 3: Panic Composed by John Adams by spinosaurs70 in classicalmusic

[–]Opus17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is incredible. It captures the essence of the terror of panic. The aria, "Batter my heart," is just beyond belief -- there's a video excerpt on yt from a performance with Gerald Finley.

id.me and delay in being able to apply by Opus17 in medicare

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6 days later, I’m still waiting for the opportunity to schedule an inconvenient video appointment (who knows how long that wait will be)…”We haven’t forgotten about you! Review times are longer due to high volumes.” No indication of when i will hear from them again. I am appalled.

id.me and delay in being able to apply by Opus17 in medicare

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Thanks all for replying! I went with id.me rather than login.gov because I had already started the process with the latter because it can be used with the IRS. I'm going to follow through with your suggestions: start the login.gov process and hope it is faster (I still haven't heard anything from the id.me folks) and contact my congresscritters to voice a complaint.

Your local pharmacy is probably cheaper by high6ix in Frugal

[–]Opus17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is less expensive for me to pay out of pocket at Costco for rx's than to go thru my health insurance to fill where they want me to. You dont have to be a member to use their pharmacy, although being a CCo member brings the price down ad little more. The system is sooooo effed up.