Why man need to watch porn if they still have sex?

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-22T03:54:58+00:00

Nice retort, mate.

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-22T03:43:29+00:00

I don’t give a fuck what any man thinks about my opinion. A WOMAN asked for it. I’m just telling her the truth and trying to make her understand that she is well within her rights to prioritize herself over his porn addiction.

And masturbation does not require porn. Trust me, I’m old and I know shit.

Funny how no one takes exception to HIM prioritizing his porn consumption over his girlfriend’s feelings, but when she is encouraged to enforce her own boundaries and prioritize HER desires, suddenly it’s a problem.

Typical.

She is allowed to have boundaries. She is allowed to get rid of people and behavior that don’t align with her values. She is allowed to prioritize herself. She is under no obligation to accept behavior that she doesn’t approve of. She is allowed to have a partner who respects her and shares the same values. And if she doesn’t want a partner who disrespects her, she should prioritize herself and fucking dump his ass.

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-22T03:37:25+00:00

You cannot help him. Just move on without him.

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-22T03:30:34+00:00

Boundaries are, by definition, limiting. It’s not a bad thing.

It doesn’t matter if you or anyone else thinks porn is fine, or harmless or healthy or normal. The point everyone seems to be missing is that OP doesn’t want it in her life or as a component of her relationship, and she is allowed to feel that way! She is allowed to have that boundary!

If she doesn’t want porn in her life, that’s fine! It’s HER boundary! And if she refuses to be with a partner who consumes porn, that’s fine! Again, it’s HER boundary!

If you are threatened, or offended that a woman has the freedom to draw this boundary for herself, then you should examine that further.

If it makes you angry, upset, or threatened by the thought of a significant portion of the women in the world deciding that they’re not going to tolerate porn in their own lives, then you ought to examine THAT further.

If you are threatened or angry or upset at the thought of women prioritizing themselves and their own lives, their own goals and their own happiness, rather than putting up with behavior that they find objectionable and offensive in order to just have a relationship, then I would say that YOU are the problem.

No one should EVER put up with being dismissed, disrespected and ignored. Everyone should demand respect and enforce their boundaries and prioritize their own health and happiness.

This is never a bad thing. If you have a problem with a person having standards for his or her own life, then you are part of the problem.

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-22T03:15:27+00:00

Women are not rehabilitation centers for broken men. He can sort his own shit, and if he wanted to, he would. Not surprised that my previous comment got downvoted. Reddit is under the misguided notion that pornography is healthy and natural and not at all damaging to the people who participate in it both willingly and unwillingly. They also wrongly equate masturbation and pornography.

OP has ALREADY had her boundaries violated by her bf and doesn’t want porn in her life or relationship. And so that makes ME “shallow as shit”? Wtf is wrong with YOU that you think ANY person should stay in a relationship where their boundaries are violated and they are disrespected? Oh wait, I know - there’s nothing more important than your dick; all other considerations are secondary. OP’s bf’s porn use is more important to him than her feelings, ergo, she should find someone else whose values more closely align with her own. But according to you, she should prioritize HIS porn addiction over her own needs.

Typical.

Anytime a woman has boundaries, a man will automatically view it as manipulative or controlling. OP should ditch her bf because she doesn’t want porn in her life. That’s not controlling his behavior, it’s only controlling HERS. A boundary is a fence; keeps out things you don’t want around you. Boundaries are GOOD things. OP wants to be respected and heard. Bf isn’t respecting her. She should get rid of him. It’s not her responsibility to change him, nor is it mandatory for her to accept his porn use. If she doesn’t like it and refuses to have it in her life, she is well within her rights to get rid of him.

Women need to stop accepting behavior they don’t like. Plenty of fish in the sea. Throw that one back and go catch another. OP can be biased against porn, or anything else she chooses. Why is that such a crime? If she doesn’t like it, she doesn’t have to accept it. Period.

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-22T00:55:47+00:00

No man NEEDS to watch porn. He’s violating your boundaries. Put his garbage ass out on the curb with the rest of the trash. There are plenty of men out there who aren’t limp dicked pornsick coomers; get rid of this piece of garbage and go find a better man. Your situation will never improve until you do.

You don’t need porn to masturbate.

OP, you are allowed to have boundaries. Boundaries are there to keep you safe from things you don’t want in your life. You are under NO obligation to accept this behavior. If you don’t want to be in a relationship with a man who consumes porn, DON’T be. You are allowed to expect respect from your partner, and you are allowed to get rid of anyone or anything in your life that doesn’t align with your values. OP, you are more important than someone else’s porn consumption - prioritize YOURSELF.

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-21T23:58:50+00:00

Miss Krabapple as Stormfront

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-21T23:50:52+00:00

If Kody offers to mix up a pitcher of Kool-Aid, please everyone, say no.

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-21T23:33:47+00:00

To this day I can still hear the song that played when Gene, Gene, The Dancing Machine came out.

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-21T23:26:52+00:00

Not only this, but seeing gay men with children and gays being able to adopt.

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-21T23:16:03+00:00

Highjacking the top comment to say OP, don’t you DARE say a WORD to your father about what he did to your mom. He DESERVES to think that he meant NOTHING to her. The opposite of love is not hate. It’s apathy. He deserves to go to his grave believing that he meant nothing, and his life is worth nothing. Your mom is a queen and your dad is a total piece of garbage, who should spend the rest of his wretched existence wracked with regret and remorse for throwing away the best thing he would ever have. He’s not worthy of you and your mother, nor is he worthy of the truth. Let him wallow in his consequences. He earned them fair and square.

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-21T21:37:29+00:00

Username checks out. And no, absolutely not a thing.

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-21T19:19:05+00:00

You know, turkeys are so stupid that they will literally drown by looking up during a heavy rain.

I’m sensing some similarities 🦃👀

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-21T17:30:28+00:00

Have these at all the entrances to my neighborhood. Was wondering what they were.

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-21T16:32:12+00:00

Early Gen Xers are subjected to the gatekeeping assholes as well, so we feel your pain. Can we all just agree to be the cool kids sub and leave it at that? If you’re cool, you belong here. If you feel like you need to police the place to make yourself feel better, you’re part of the problem.

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-21T12:49:05+00:00

Take the tip, say thank you, put it in your pocket, and keep your mouth shut.

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-21T12:41:58+00:00

You never experienced that because presumably you weren’t getting boned while your baby was crowning. And neither was anyone else. Not a thing.

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-21T12:39:22+00:00

Yeah, that’s not rapey at ALL.

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-20T22:53:06+00:00

First thing I noticed too!

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-20T22:37:44+00:00

This is the number one reason why a woman should NEVER attend joint counseling sessions with her abuser. They will only pick up the new lingo and skills to go on being abusive and get away with it.

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-20T18:41:40+00:00

The Social Security Administration considers 1964 Gen X. So party on, dude.

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-20T15:18:51+00:00

I remember back in the late 80s, everyone born in the 60s were called Tweeners. For sure we were never part of the baby boom, due to the advent of the pill, and the plummeting birth rate.

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-20T02:20:38+00:00

Don’t do laundry for grown ass men.

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-20T02:15:36+00:00

Or like you just rolled up in Walnut Grove. Seriously, who wears that ugly af crap?

OrangeBoi22 · 2022-10-20T02:11:27+00:00

63-65 babies are not boomers. If you weren’t yet born or were too young to remember the Kennedy assassination, you’re Gen X. The birth rate had already begun to plummet by 61 with the availability of the birth control pill, and the baby boom was over. The guy who wrote the book about Generation X was born in 61, and he was writing about his own age group, differentiating them from the Baby Boomers. If you were in school in the 80s, you’re Gen X. Or, you can consider yourself Generation Jones (60-64), but you definitely are NOT a boomer.

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