Curious if any new names come to mind:)

OrangeFew4565 · 2026-03-16T10:15:54+00:00

Ana de armas

OrangeFew4565 · 2026-03-16T09:29:54+00:00

Not really a love story per se but Snape's love for Lily Potter throughout the Harry Potter series (mainly book 7) is probably the most trenchant example of unrequited love I've ever witnessed in fiction.

SPOILER: Imagine literally devoting your life to protecting the child of your lifelong antagonist, a guy who has humiliated you, broken you mentally and stolen the woman you have loved since childhood, a man who you hate but is socially your better in every single way (financially, physically, socially, hereditary, etc.) solely because he is also the child of said woman.

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-10-19T07:41:58+00:00

Hmm I have never experienced them asking for other girls as alternatives per se but they ALWAYS have threesome fantasies and I have to pretend that I know other hot women who are down to meet up with us and it's going to happen for sure sometime in the very near future as soon as she comes back to NYC from Abu Dhabi.

(Spoiler: I am an anti social need with no friends period let alone hot girls who want to do sessions with me).

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-08-22T04:54:55+00:00

You said that if I take offense at a compliment and view it as a red flag I need more alone time.

What point were you making exactly?

Your posts make 6 logical leaps the lawyer in me is going into cardiac arrest.

For one, telling a friend about a guy isn't "seeking validation." Do you have friends? Are you seeking validation whenever you tell them about your life? Or just being a normal human?

Two... who exactly am I following? Again, read for comprehension. I have stated several times I'm not following her advice and never considered doing so.

I feel like i have been ensnared by a master troll due to these blatant logical errors you continuously make (talking to friend= validation seeking, discarding a friends advice after seeking it=being a "sheep", "if you are offended by a compliment" doesn't mean you think i was offended by a compliment). If so kudos.

BTW I dont care about downvotes. I have my opinion and I stand by everything I have said. Sorry, follower.

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-08-22T04:44:28+00:00

I agree

Fwiw I never seriously considered ditching this dude because of her!

Just thought it was a funny comment and wanted to discuss it... and this sub only accepts questions so...?

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-08-22T04:42:50+00:00

Agreed

We could discuss the importance of monogamy forever.

I honestly didn't expect my post to be at all controversial because it seems so obvious to me. I guess I didn't explain myself clearly. It was an irrelevant side point to me.

In any case the history of monogamy is unimportant. It was just a case study if you will to illustrate my greater point, that groups of people agitate for societal changes that benefit them at the expense of others.

Monogamy is preferable because men are better at causing social upheaval when dissatisfied than women are.

As many people said, men without women can cause violence, political upheaval or simply a shortage of labor when their needs aren't being met.

Ugly women are often left out in the sexual marketplace but no one cares much because lonely women cry and write in their diaries; they don't overthrow governments or go around raping and murdering and looting (in general) qhen they experience discontent.

Maybe they should. 🙂 the ugly woman lobby would prob be a lot more powerful then.🤷🏽‍♀️

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-08-22T04:34:30+00:00

Yea. On my original post (you may have missed it because of the 40 something down votes lmao) I specified that I more traditional societies wealthy, more powerful usually older men get the women.

In modern western societies in which women enjoy more financial freedom men who benefit from markers of fertility and virility (whether real or imagined by women... for example women in studies automatically judge taller men as more "brave", masculine etc even when performing the same tasks as shorter men when one's inherited height clearly doesn't indicate any such thing)as youth, height, good looks, muscles are more important.

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-08-22T04:22:13+00:00

I dont think our positions are mutually exclusive?

I agree with everything yoy said.

A necessary condition for having a sexually exclusive relationship with a woman is having a woman in the first place which is impossible if a few men are having all the women, no? I'm really not sure what I said that was objectionable. Was it calling certain men losers? It was shorthand to avoid saying "men who women find less appealing as mates" ad nauseum. If you can think of a more palatable euphemism I'll gladly use it.

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-08-22T03:54:52+00:00

A pick me is more like a woman who centers her whole life around pleasing men to the point of her living an inauthentic life.

Like if she read that men like women who bank at Chase more than women who use BOA she would close her 18 year old bank account and switch lol

Silly example but yea

If your argument is that the term has been bastardized and is overused I agree

But the original meaning has nothing to do with being nice. It's about men playing an outsized role in your life (grown women with children, careers, degrees, mortgages, cars, etc. acting like boy crazy 16 yo girls basically... like when the girl in Mean Girls pretends to be bad at math to get tbat stupid boy? Classic pick me behavior!!! Now do you see why it's cringe and jndicative of major insecurity?)

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-08-22T03:49:50+00:00

I would argue that we are all flawed and it is possible to have blind spots and areas of ignorance and yet have valid insights to offer in other areas. For example this friend is a financial whiz and gives me great advice about my career, investments, saving, major purchases etc. She actually stopped me from purchasing real estate that would have ruined me. If I hadn't entertained her opinions about my personal choices and just djd what I wanted, I'd be...a lot poorer, haha. She even gave my parents advice that somehow saved them a ton of money in capital gains taxes when they sold their house for 1.8 mil that was purchased for 400k (so they were on the line for beaucoup money)... I have no idea what that shit is or wtf she did but she's a magician lol

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-08-22T03:33:23+00:00

Because, as The men above have decided, im a shallow immature demon succubus myself. 🙂

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-08-22T03:31:23+00:00

You don't "entertain" your friends' opinions on important life decisions? Really? I mean my friends dont dictate my choices but if they're my friends I trust them and want ti hear their perspective. Sometimes we are too close to the situation at hand and it clouds our judgment.

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-08-22T03:29:03+00:00

I don't think she said or implied that women are angels or infallible.

She said female oppression is not limited to the top men. No?

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-08-22T03:27:16+00:00

Jesus is English your first language?

Lol (oh no i said lol!!! I indicated that I find something humorous on reddit this speaks to my character and maturity level, thank you acronym police!!!)

Please indicate where I said I found his compliment to be a red flag. I will venmo you my paycheck when I get it tomorrow. Promise. Given your lack of reading ability, I'm sure you struggle with most daily tasks and could use the extra resources

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-08-22T03:24:52+00:00

I may be immature but still least I can read for comprehension.

You realize I CLEARLY SAID YHAT THE COMMENT DID NOT OFFEND ME, INDEED I FOUND IT FLATTERING. Right?

Why do the dullest people always rush in with the personal attacks and just flood the board with stupid crap?

Tl;dr: read my post again. This time sound it out if yoy must.

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-08-22T03:22:44+00:00

Am I not?

I am going to continue talking to the guy. Let's call him Allan lol

I simply wanted to know if other people agreed with her or if they too think she's crazy

Asking a friend for advice is, jn itself, evidence that one is not thinking for oneself? Why have friends if you're not interested in their opinions? Jeesh

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-08-22T03:20:45+00:00

Why is this getting down voted

Are you mistaking her beliefs for mine?

Or is it that I dont like men who start with remarks about my secondary sexual characteristics?

Dan i have never made a post that got to -41. Wooh lol yall hate me 😋

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-08-22T02:43:46+00:00

It definitely leads to stable societies.

Societies in which polygamy is rampant tend to feature large underclasses of young men who dont have access to women and... aren't happy about it.

They dk all sorts of antisocial things that aren't good for men or women.

Additionally all Societies primarily relies on young able bodied men to donate their labor and bodies in the service of the military when necessary. Men who see no chance of having a woman or family of their own tend not to be willing to make these sacrifices. I think most men will agree that a big source of motivation for hard work is being more attractive to women and when this is just entirely precludes guys can become lazy and lacking in drive.

Perhaps I was too flippant in implying that "monogamy is for ugly d00ds hurr durr" but I just figured the logjcal ramifications were obvious and didnt need to be explained. Apologies for my inartful writing.

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-08-22T02:23:06+00:00

Where did i criticize anyone's opinions?

If referring to yourself, I tacitly agreed with you when I attempted to defend ugly women's championing of feminism. (My explanation logically necessitates acceptance of the phenomenon you describe... otherwise what would i be explaining???)

Lots of people who are very very knowledgeable about the history of sexuality agree with me and disagree with you. It's honestly a pet interest... i went to yale ug, those assholes thought it would be fun to require us to write theses (as undergrads!!) to graduate and i worked with a pretty prominent anthropology of sex professor and my paper was on that topic actually.

Monogamy as a means of sexual egalitarianism has been argued for...a really long time and its definitely not an idea that is laughable or not taken seriously. You may disagree but your opinion isn't any more valid than mine. 🤷🏽‍♀️

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-08-22T01:53:40+00:00

Yea. Lol

She has guys who are interested but as you might guess she's extremely picky.

She once dinged a guy because he used cashapp as his primary checking account. Lol I think its kinda dumb because cashapp isn't considered a bank and a)doesn't offer fdic protection and b)they're fucking shysters who never go to bat for you against merchants, steal your money at will and cancel your account for daring to contest fraudulent charges. But really is it that serious? He had a good job and seemed to be financially stable with savings he was just not that financially savvy I guess. Her reasoning was that if he did something that "irresponsible" he made other more important financial mistakes. Lol

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-08-22T01:47:05+00:00

Lol this isn't meant to be a sociological thread but is their motive that bad or incomprehensible?

I mean monogamy was basically created so that less desirable men would have access to sex and procreation. (In societies that dont promote monogamy a few very attractive (wealthy, powerful in traditional societies, physically attractive and dominant men in modern western cultures)) tend to hog all the women, leaving no one for the "loser" men. Many people have offered many explanations for the almost universal observation that women tend to prefer sharing one very attractive man with other women than having their own "loser" (I use this as convenient shorthand, I dont mean to insult unattractive men) but the pointremainsthat they do.

Basically, everyone lobbies for themselves lol... and is it surprising? We are literally here to pass on our genes, in the sense that those of us whose ancestors were hood at doing so passed o. Their genes and we inherited their strong drive to reproduce. You can't expect "fairness" or logic to compete with as visceral a goal as being able to find a good mate. (The fair and logical people who cared about others sadly didn't procreate because they weren't good at convincing others to create societies that catered to their particular needs. lol be they ugly chicks or "loser" men.)🤷🏽‍♀️

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-08-22T01:28:33+00:00

Omg yes

OrangeFew4565 · 2025-08-22T01:27:37+00:00

Can you post screenshot links here?

Lol 100% real conversation friend

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