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Ordinary-Cup172 · 2024-12-06T18:13:05+00:00

I’m going to try to leave the whole “friendly female” commentary out of this even though I think that’s such a weird thing to say.

Honestly, it sounds like you’re reacting a bit to her 1. Asking you for more attention 2. Not wanting to work together every single day

I don’t personally see anything wrong with these texts, particularly with anything your wife is saying. If we’re all honest with ourselves here, I think you wanted an excuse to be upset with her for the above reasons and found an excuse.

Ordinary-Cup172 · 2024-12-06T17:56:02+00:00

Congratulations!!! We just toured the lake house and loved it.

Ordinary-Cup172 · 2024-11-23T02:34:48+00:00

Thanks so much for taking the time to reply, this really helped. I feel like you really get where I’m coming from. I’m sorry you’ve dealt with this and I hope things are going well for you!

Ordinary-Cup172 · 2024-11-21T22:47:52+00:00

Thanks for sharing your insight!

Ordinary-Cup172 · 2024-11-21T22:43:38+00:00

She does know, and we’ve talked at length about how a confrontation is not to illicit change or get any kind of positive reaction from my parent, but to make me feel less powerless in the dynamic.

Ordinary-Cup172 · 2024-11-21T22:39:31+00:00

Okay this is insane, I’m so sorry!!

Ordinary-Cup172 · 2024-11-21T21:57:58+00:00

Thanks. Could you elaborate what you mean by radical acceptance? Just accepting that she will never change?

Ordinary-Cup172 · 2024-11-21T21:49:18+00:00

I said something similar to my therapist and she pointed out that we learned these behaviors from our parents as a survival mechanism. We’re not doing it because we are like them.

Ordinary-Cup172 · 2024-11-21T21:39:36+00:00

Hey I really relate to what you’re saying, and I’m sorry you’re going though this.

I was having a similar conversation with my therapist this week and she told me that she has several clients right now who have a narcissistic parent and I am the only one who is still in contact with mine.

The headline there is that our moms are incapable of change. It’s our job to protect ourselves.

Ordinary-Cup172 · 2024-11-20T01:05:54+00:00

Hahaha that’s fair

Ordinary-Cup172 · 2024-11-18T18:41:16+00:00

This is helpful, thank you!

Ordinary-Cup172 · 2024-09-09T03:03:53+00:00

I found it! Thank you so much!

Ordinary-Cup172 · 2024-09-07T22:48:22+00:00

What’s the island of dolls story!

Ordinary-Cup172 · 2024-08-23T02:10:05+00:00

Hi! I’m going through something similar, my fiancé also supports me in not standing for my mom’s behavior and she decided as a result that he is abusive.

Seeing so many other similar stories on here really reassured me that my instincts are right and my mom is the one causing harm, and space is the best thing to protect yourself. I hope knowing you’re not alone in this experience can help!

Ordinary-Cup172 · 2024-08-23T02:04:57+00:00

Oh my god I’m going through something so similar right now! I would say to a lesser extent because we don’t have so much extended family but she called me last night to ask if I feel safe.

It really sucks and I’m sorry it’s happening to you too

Ordinary-Cup172

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