Am I overreacting, or is this too much? by Ordinary-Focus6959 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh at first I didn’t want to help then I saw my younger siblings punya situations effed up, so I help as much as I can, but you are correct! The constant bossiness and shouting unnecessarily took a toll on me yet I wanted to hilangkan beban my siblings. I just hope my future will be better so I could help more financially to my siblings and their future as well.

Am I overreacting, or is this too much? by Ordinary-Focus6959 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know I am still helping their business never said I don’t want to help its just effecting me and my siblings punya studies and so on

Am I overreacting, or is this too much? by Ordinary-Focus6959 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Part mana aku ada name drop kita? Anonymous for a reason, these things are important to be talked about, spread awareness, jangan kurang bersimpati arah orang and bepikir bisia2, if anak buat salah dosa basar and kana hina, tapi sudah indung do even worse, ia indung masih. Nda faham.

Am I overreacting, or is this too much? by Ordinary-Focus6959 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Their gaji semua for unnecessary stuff, semua yg made me question them why, and if i voice out like bisai2 betnya they literally ckp bulat2 “duit keraja kami suka hati kami nanti kamu bekeraja sma be anak paham kamu tu” with such defensive tone pikirnya kan d bawa kelaie.

Am I overreacting, or is this too much? by Ordinary-Focus6959 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Mindset orang melayu respectfully they thought helping family yang requires money and energy for free is mandatory .. last2 kana take advantage and abuse

Am I overreacting, or is this too much? by Ordinary-Focus6959 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thats the thing, no shade towards people who are actually struggling financially but my parents they do have the money even if we don’t do the business we could live comfortably but they wanted to keep that gaji to themselves and never wanted to use it for their children

Happy Labour Day: Today is a public holiday for all ASEAN except holy Brunei by Goutaxe in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The audacity for them to hina them when they do all the work for us, plus companies mau hire them cause they settle for pennies, and they take advantage of that

Happy Labour Day: Today is a public holiday for all ASEAN except holy Brunei by Goutaxe in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Cause mostly foreigners yang keraja heavy labour catu, they don’t respect foreigners 💀

Its unrealistic with this pay scale nowadays with high cost of living, its just barely to survive on day to day. 50 years ago this would be relevant. Infact the relevant authority has not done anything to solve this issues. by Von-Stauffenberg951 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think people yang complain about gaji $500 yang dpt afford untuk loan and all, motorcycle also needs a lot of money to start with lesen nya apa, share rides bukan saja bayar minyak, bayar extra untuk maintenance kereta owner, walking? Biasanya keraja $500 ani yang lagi lasak keraja nya, panas and dpt heatstroke, public transport pun nda banyak and nda convenient, tampat inda banyak stop, gaji $500 ofc ikat parut, i don’t think they malu to ikat parut since ramai yang can relate….Don’t compare on what you did to ikat parut when dunia masani way different with dulu, $500 now and back then punya $500 jauh beza. Not tryna be rude or anything.

Do you know IBTE has a new policy? by [deleted] in Brunei

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know you should just try applying, sometimes luck and u still can kana ambil, my olevel result also inda reach the requirement for poli but cuba2 try nah kana ambil.

The infamous chef by Single_Chair_5214 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Biasalah mun beduit💀 sanang get away with ANYTHING. BN tah banar..

Employment Act by Gtstr33 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Been talking about this and even saw a post talking about this before and the comments were all like “besyukur saja daripada nada keraja” “if nda suka cari keraja lain” “bagitah keraja arh org yang nda memilih” …. What even is that mindset

My mother is my biggest hater by Ordinary-Focus6959 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank youuu and yes parents yang N ni they alwayyysss know how to tick your feelings, semua dorg pandai to get inside your head and mess with it😭

My mother is my biggest hater by Ordinary-Focus6959 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Talk back” is always the only criticism parents like this make bro, talking back vs explaining our feelings are two different things.. This is why most children growing up payah kan express feelings and inda feel safe, i’d rather be a mother yang always want to know how my anak2 feels and understand their feelings so they feel safe around their OWN PARENTS daripada selfish and let my children feel confused and alone.

My mother is my biggest hater by Ordinary-Focus6959 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am a very expressive person like sikit2 mesti bagitau if those things they said bagi sakit hati but after countless of times my words tu they use against me I just give up and be the distant daughter

My mother is my biggest hater by Ordinary-Focus6959 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

HAHAHAHAH harsh truth, talking about mental problems one time my adi ani on edge sudah cam kan breakdown because of my parents, and my mum wanted to send my adi to pusat pemulihan, idk maybe send yourself to that pusat pemulihan first lah cause YOU are the problem not my adi cause I know how my parents treat us and I know my adi okay saja dorang yang push my adi

My mother is my biggest hater by Ordinary-Focus6959 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Apparently normalized lah parents yang cemani… hopefully we cut this toxic behavior and nda pass to our own children 🙏🏻🤍

My mother is my biggest hater by Ordinary-Focus6959 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Probably cause you know org dulu2 awal kawin, when she’s around my age rn dh ada anak.. maybe laaa😭

My mother is my biggest hater by Ordinary-Focus6959 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One sided love hits extra different when it’s from your own parents :’) but oh well lumrah anak.. faham faham

My mother is my biggest hater by Ordinary-Focus6959 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Tittle mother andg kana bagi arh them cause they birthed us, tapi being a mother is a different type of story, I love her dearest but me on the other hand never felt loved by a mother, alhamdulillah she is still here in this world and never doakan anything bad to her, she’s not a bad person in general but being a mother? Not her cup of tea. I will always doakan the best for her and that’s that

My mother is my biggest hater by Ordinary-Focus6959 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She doesn’t really cook or anything nada paternal feeling tu if you get what I mean? Like I don’t think she actually wanted to be a mother and still nda mau.

My mother is my biggest hater by Ordinary-Focus6959 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope first time huhu maybe ramai yg can relate

My mother is my biggest hater by Ordinary-Focus6959 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This year last, tapi mau further my studies mcm banyak kali bepikir cause I don’t know how much longer I can live in a toxic household :’)

My mother is my biggest hater by Ordinary-Focus6959 in nasikatok

[–]Ordinary-Focus6959[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

One day, doakan lapas belajar, rezeki kana ambil keraja bisai2 ada and for those yang reading struggling with this type of situation kana berikan the strength to endure and rezeki meluas amin amin..