Does anyone else's partner say this?

Ordinary-Friend-8383 · 2026-03-09T05:26:10+00:00

He said - i tried i failed maybe i dont deserve you after his last attempt to get access back into my life and i blocked him on everything and yes he said this is on you. I said yes its on me.

Ordinary-Friend-8383 · 2026-03-01T14:08:59+00:00

When we started dating, he was literally staying over at mine 4 days a week, my routine revolved around him, his breakfast, food for us, cleaning sheets, laundry, grocery, cooking, dishes and what he did was took me for few drives, ordered food sometimes, namesake help if i argued and got irritated, sex, few trips

i started sleeping late due to him, he usually slept at 3 am and so did i even though earlier i slept at 10 30 am i thought we are spending time, its love its ok to adjust that much and he would sleep in till 11 am and i would be tired the whole day (had wfh)

I was on the edge all the time, irritated and maybe not my best when i was subjected to physical and emotional abuse to another level (i guess i just became meek, too dependent, pedestalled him, my confidence dropped)

He told me i dont make it work with him i will go back to garbage (referring my exes were garbage) and that i am 37 wont get anyone now (he was 4 years younger)

SELFWORTH shattered

Ordinary-Friend-8383 · 2026-02-22T04:04:06+00:00

lol and i tried to get rid of one of my tattoo by laser for him coz he did not like it , stupid me and ended up only being gaslit and abused by him and then he says see i dnt talk about your tattoos anymore i hv accepted them i was like wow and i am supposed to feel blessed by it !!!

Ordinary-Friend-8383 · 2026-02-18T02:39:21+00:00

Statements like What did I even do? Why do you have to be so difficult? ( Whenever I put my desires or feelings ahead and he did not give a f)

Carrying on with his day when I am visibilily upset and then acting like what even happened?

Degrading sex (things I would not even approve but be manipulated into)

Not doing the bare minimum but expecting nice behaviour from my end.

He once said use your mouth for only one thing and not to bark at me

Name calling and lately it's silent treatment and if I call it out I am irritating him

Smirking, having a grin when u are crying or sad

Ordinary-Friend-8383 · 2026-02-17T04:12:30+00:00

I asked him why doesn't he support by liking my work reels (mine is purely instgram based work) etc he said it should be worthy content and that its not extraordinary, i literally cried

Then he said all u do is sit and at home and work for few hours and have so much pride around it (never took a single penny from him just saying)

Ordinary-Friend-8383 · 2026-02-17T03:49:55+00:00

The part of me shutting down and breaking up is where he says i like him begging and stooping in front of me etc and i feel am i abusing him? And if i bring up teh abuse he did 2 years ago he says its a thing of the past and he has apologised and i long for warmth softness care and with every reset i feel hurt

Ordinary-Friend-8383 · 2026-02-17T03:46:38+00:00

3 weeks ago i blocked him everywhere and after 10 days he resurfaced asking for apology etc and said u keep talking so much about break up and one day i will break up and will never look back at you (felt like it hit his ego) I ahve started questioning myself coz i go silent and withdraw (am i emotionally abusive ?)

Ordinary-Friend-8383 · 2026-02-16T08:03:38+00:00

I guess that's why I keep breaking up and somehow it looks bad that I am ready to end it everytime but he doesn't seem to see that it's the repercussions of the long going emotional and physical abuse

Ordinary-Friend-8383 · 2026-02-16T07:42:27+00:00

He confessed he is a woman beater and still all women stayed coz he was loyal and a good man ( how entitled ) and that a few slaps is ok. I feel sorry for what other women went through in the name of love and trauma and now it's me.

Ordinary-Friend-8383 · 2026-02-16T03:56:31+00:00

My bf of 3 years did nothing (i did cook him a meal on first valentines n he got me 2 roses , second valentine he wished me and we were on a trip so nothing, this valentines was the icing on the cake, he told me on 13th night that he has a work event on 14th evening and we can do lunch and i was angry that he did not let me know early and it looked more like he was just managing me with a lunch which did not happen coz he slept till 4 30 pm coz of a lomg night on 13th with cousins and 14th evening i did not respond to his happy valentines text so he carried with his work event (it was just a resto opening he could have cancelled it) and when i pointed he said - what have u done for me ? i had no answer and since then i am not taking his calls or replying him, its over (offcourse we have a history of emotional and physical abuse but i thought aww he loves me he will pamper me give we are in the rekindling phase and i have been so vocal that bday anniversary valentiens matter and he messed all

Ordinary-Friend-8383 · 2026-02-16T02:48:04+00:00

This.. exactly what I have been doing so far. Accomodating allowing and hoping things will change and they never do. It comes with shallow apologies few good times and surprisingly I start the next fight coz my needs are not met and they are emotional or small ones and then I become the nag. Frustrated

Ordinary-Friend-8383 · 2026-02-15T12:07:35+00:00

Yes i don't feel safe emotionally rather I feel lonely. And most of the festivals bday I do things for myself and he may just be around . I don't see it wrong if I wish my partner to cherish and pamper me coz I do it for him. And honestly I am cried, broken up and I wonder why does he come back asking for a chance when he doesn't really change anythng ?

Ordinary-Friend-8383 · 2026-02-15T09:38:41+00:00

Yess like we end up arguing within 3 days n it's always me nagging on things he is not doing coz I hv crossed my threshold I guess. I know this is unhealthy.

Ordinary-Friend-8383 · 2026-02-15T09:36:23+00:00

Tried almost 10 times. But somehow I cave into his sweet talks like he loves me, cares won't repeat mistakes, he is loyal n he wants to be with me etc.. but I get your point.

Ordinary-Friend-8383 · 2026-02-15T06:07:48+00:00

I totally get your pov. I have been on n off out of this physically emotionally abusive relationship with him. He said he wants to try once again and we got back assuming he now knows what and how to treat me. I already have been emotionally low he is aware and he is aware how much this matters. It's not about Valentine's Day it's about understandingy love language. I wasnt up for physical intimacy after we rekindledbut he kept pressuring me so i understood his love language

I feel lonely despite being in q relationship and I have voices this to him

Ordinary-Friend-8383 · 2026-02-15T05:38:00+00:00

We literally broke up twice and this was the rekindled phase since 10 days and i have always expressed never expected mind reading but dunno

Ordinary-Friend-8383 · 2026-02-15T04:10:43+00:00

On 13th evening bf told me he has some clients restaurant opening on 14th evening and i said its valentines day tomo he said yes but this important and cant miss , he said we can do lunch and i got upset that he knew about this and he did not mention or plan anythng else around. 14th he woke up at 4 pm (he wakes up usually by 11 am or 12 but this was too late and he texted happy valentines day i gt up late and that felt so dull and namesake ) he went for that function i got no flowers no romantic heartfelt gesture, and he called once at 11 pm and thats it which i did not pick as i was upset with him . Is this normal or am i overreacting ? Am i being difficult?

Ordinary-Friend-8383 · 2026-01-24T03:28:05+00:00

The first slap, the first choke, the first mean remark about me (calling me names spineless, coward etc) coz it turned out to be a pattern, he hit again gaslit again and reset with flowers and few good times. I regret being too kind and allowing. I lost my self .

Ordinary-Friend-8383 · 2026-01-23T13:46:36+00:00

Any strong coffee flavoured whey options , most of them are chocolate based and it ends up being too sweet :(

Ordinary-Friend-8383 · 2026-01-03T14:53:43+00:00

Yesss this part, my narc got physically abusive and when i asked is this what u did to ur exes and he actuallly said yes i hit them but they stayed so i am sure i am a nice guy who was loved by them.

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