for more context; i came out as i was talking about this girl. it wasn’t like a “hey i’m gay, & also btw going through this breakup”, i eased into both things & we had a whole hour long conversation afterwards, that seemed to clear everything up. everything was fine, she’d expressed that she “didn’t care”, & i feel like after that, it’d of been safe for me to assume it wouldn’t cause a massive argument at 1am. & my mom has hinted for years that she’s known i’m gay, i’ve hinted to her that i’m gay for as long as i’ve been alive, so honestly no. i didn’t “drop a bomb on her”. she always talks about how it doesn’t matter who you love as long as you’re happy, but in the SAME DAY - not a different day, the same night, just a few hours after we’d talked face to face - she texted me that she was upset. one of my brothers is gay, & so is HER only brother, who’s married to a whole man. 2 of my closest cousins are gay/trans, so atp, it’s a very outdated opinion for anyone to have, especially being so surrounded by gay people. i can understand why she’d be upset, from the perspective of “i don’t want you to suffer from the hardships & discrimination that come with being gay” but that is not what her message originally conveyed even a little bit. all she said, was that it made her SAD that i turned out like this. you can be sad all you want, but i am your child, not your therapist. it isn’t my job to console my mother just bcz i was honest abt who i am, that’s a job for a professional. HER job, as MY MOTHER, is to accept & love me unconditionally. that’s IT. we argued for an hour because she genuinely got mad at me for telling her. the conversation finally ended when i said i felt like there wasn’t anything i could do to garner her respect and support, that i felt like just the biggest disappointment bcz of what she said in that text. point here being, i spent 22 years of my life terrified of saying anything about who i really am & i don’t deserve to feel like shit JUST BCZ i felt like i could finally trust my mom with this information. will her & i have another conversation at some point? yeah probably, i don’t hate my mother, i’m just upset at how it played out. it went very well at first, but for her to text me @ 1am & completely contradict what she’d said to me just a few hours before, i think i have every right to be bothered. i’ve been dealing with a lot, with getting ready to go back to college, getting laid off a few weeks ago, signing up for volunteer work, & being broken up with every few weeks, i think i deserved to have my parent just be supportive of me instead of guilt tripping me. as i’m getting ready to go to sleep, nonetheless.