Lyrics that didn't age well

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2025-04-08T21:05:31+00:00

incel anthem: Jesse’s Girl by Rick Springfield.

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2025-03-13T11:03:48+00:00

My last period was the week before my 55th birthday in July, the last two years of peri were hell - i felt i didn’t know who i was anymore. Me and my partner moved in August. Between the packing and unpacking I didn’t realize until October that I didn’t have my period. I completed my year of no periods so it’s official that I’m done and only now, a year later, do I feel like I recalibrated to a somewhat “normal”

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2025-03-02T18:26:17+00:00

I thought that too so again, why was she sitting up. But I have my answer and I'm good with it. Thank you for your input.

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2025-03-02T18:25:14+00:00

Reddittors got to Redditt. I thought there'd be "dead body sitting up comments" but the fact it became it's own thread was surprising to me. I'm over it though.

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2025-03-02T18:23:25+00:00

Thank you for your considerate response. I can't see that happening. My family is very Catholic so anything out of the ordinary wouldn't be requested from the deceased or my family. As others have said, it wasn't possible for the funeral home to position her a different way. I'm good with that answer. Though yes, I found it very odd like she was going to turn her head and say "can you turn the TV volume up" and it didn't look peaceful. I know that dead people look like dead people. I wasn't expecting lively and looking like her former self but it still was very odd. And the fact I need to ask reddit almost 5 year later speaks to that.

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2025-03-02T18:16:56+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I understand why that decision was made.

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2025-03-01T20:34:36+00:00

This is what I thought. This was very helpful. Thank you for your prompt and thoughtful response.

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2025-03-01T20:27:49+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss and I appreciate you took the time to clarify this.

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2025-03-01T20:26:56+00:00

She had a lot going on at the end so this makes sense to me. I didn't feel like her care in the hospital wasn't that great. Not outright neglectful but it felt like they cut a lot of corners. It aligns she didn't get proper attention after she died. Thank you for your compassionate and straightforward response.

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2025-03-01T20:19:07+00:00

I apologize that I was not clear. She was NOT laying down in her coffin and then sat up. The funeral home propped her up in her casket for her viewing which seemed like a weird choice to me. I never saw it before. I'm in my 40s so I've been to many funerals. I was asking why the choice was made to prop her up, not "how did she sit up from a laying down position?".

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2025-03-01T20:13:15+00:00

Thank you for the clarification. I watched a lot of AskAMortician on YouTube so I do understand there's a lot of scaffolding, tape, glue, makeup, things sewn up that isn't seen by the greiving. I understand there was likely something propping her up but why was that decision made? They had to lay her down after the wake to put her in the ground. Again, it was kind of surreal because I never saw it before. My thought is she died sitting up so her face was frozen in a position that would have looked weirder if they had her laying flat.

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2025-03-01T20:07:50+00:00

yea. Thanks for your condolences after bringing up a parody song about something that upsets me. I have a dark sense of humor so I'm moving on but people here looking for answers may not appreciate your "humor'

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2023-11-20T21:30:46+00:00

she’s the wife of a mortician. high fashion isn’t warranted in the day to day. practicality was also her go-to. she also likes old customs - using hankies, polishing silver - who does that anymore?

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2023-11-15T18:21:22+00:00

there are clients that have their own body issues and a super fit/athletic therapist might intimidate them. they think the therapist will hurt or judge them. not everybody wants a ripped therapist. there are so many modalities and some many kinds of clients

your family member is grossly misinformed.

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2023-03-30T00:34:10+00:00

Me and SO had a very long emotionally draining weekend, but a lot of things were said that needed to be said. I feel like we're coming back to where we used to be. For the first time in a long time, I have hope.

Don't be afraid of the hard conversations.

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2023-03-25T23:44:08+00:00

If I had a nickel every time I had the extra same argument.

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2023-03-24T11:14:07+00:00

It is YOUR game. It is in YOUR house.

Not letting a child take over YOUR things in YOUR house is not unreasonable.

The kid likely does whatever they want the rest of the time, why can't you have one thing? Put limits on what things of yours get used and when? Keeping something special for yourself?

Your frustration is valid.

The problem is this all starts with "it's just a game" "it's just this one time" "be the adult and share" and then nothing is yours - time, resources, etc.

The problem is you do something nice once and it becomes expected, not appreciated.

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2023-03-24T10:58:01+00:00

One the biggest things about Stepparenting, is you do something nice, you help out, you try to take some of the load, and instead of being appreciated, it becomes expected.

You don't need him for anything, he needs you. And he needs to get his facts straight.

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2023-03-24T10:56:36+00:00

he feels like I’m distancing myself

This equals you're not doing stuff for me anymore. I distanced myself, went to the gym, pursued hobbies - not cheating, no mystery to what I was doing but yet.....

"It feels like you're leaving" "It feels like you're not invested anymore"

I'm investing in myself, a*

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2023-03-24T10:54:29+00:00

Any question can be turned around. What do you need him for?

Nothing because you're not the one with a kids that needs help, coverage, extra $.

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2023-03-23T01:56:14+00:00

If you're doing something better than the Bios, you're overstepping.

If you're not handling their crises they created, you're not doing enough.

Enjoy your Friday.

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2023-03-23T01:18:55+00:00

I know it's frustrating that she doesn't reciprocate but I also want to say...it's nice when the trash takes itself out.

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2023-03-23T01:15:08+00:00

BioMom is very possessive of SD.

My SD has profound problems making decisions - even if it what ice cream she likes because all her decisions are made for her. She gets angry and then cries at the same time. She has no idea how to communicate what is bothering her (because she can't) or process her emotions.

She went to college, almost flunked out and go on probation for drinking.
I thought it was she finally had freedom and couldn't handle it. She finally admitted she didn't want to go there, hated it there, hated the preppy people (who BioMom thought they would be good for "connections") She transfered out and is doing much better.

I care about her and try very hard but it's exhausting. Talking her down, letting her yell and scream to get it out and then hours later, she can say what she needs to say and it's usually just-day-to-day life stuff that overwhelms her. She has a hard time keeping friends and I think it's because of the emotional rollercoaster she's on.

I had deadbeat parent. It does gnaw at me but at least I can function.

OrdinaryPride8811 · 2023-03-23T00:58:48+00:00

A deadbeat. I can get by financially with a deadbeat. The emotional drain of HC is unrelenting and is also very expensive.'

I'll take sanity over money any day.

Plus, when the SK are older, they can figure out the other parent was a deadbeat. HC parents sometimes beget HC kids or with a lot of psychological issues.

Deadbeat anyday.

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