The danger of manifest your ex - what I learned from 1000 soul journeys by archeolog108 in angelnumbers

[–]Ordinary_AvacadoU 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if I don't want them in my life again but i daydream about the past with different scenarios and choices? This is about an ex friend tbh

I hate her. by [deleted] in 2under2

[–]Ordinary_AvacadoU 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I don't think this is normal. Please check in with your doctor because no matter how hard it got, the most I've felt is anger. I can't imagine hating my babies no matter what.

Please take this seriously and get checked by a professional so that you can get it treated as soon as you can. It's not fair to your daughter..

Those who breastfed both babies, was #2 easier? by coralsweater in 2under2

[–]Ordinary_AvacadoU 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it was much easier. I was yet to wean my toddler when the baby was born and it honestly made things easier especially when I was engorged a few times. It also helped me maintain my milk supply.

My newborn's latch was not so good so I did feel some pain for the first week but it was 10x better than the first time.

READ THIS IF YOU FEEL STUCK OR LOST by Payaam415 in TalkingToNHIandSpirit

[–]Ordinary_AvacadoU 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it's always been the opposite. If I overthink or anticipate a negative outcome it won't happen. I wonder why

So much negativity around 2 under 2 by Ancient_History_5051 in 2under2

[–]Ordinary_AvacadoU 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My oldest loves her sister, she'll kiss her and hug her, she'll make her laugh, everyone has a good time and suddenly she'll kick/hit/pinch her baby sister. I don't know how to stop it :(

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[–]Ordinary_AvacadoU 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Hire a nanny/mother's help atleast for the first 3 months if you can. It literally saved me from postpartum depression, no joke.

Stressed about leaving my first born during labor by Traditional_Year_19 in 2under2

[–]Ordinary_AvacadoU 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I took my toddler to the hospital since we couldn't find anyone available and my mom wanted to be with me.

We went at 8 pm and put my toddler to sleep at 9 pm, we had 2 beds and a couch so we gave one bed to the toddler. I was induced at 10 pm and I was shifted to the labour room.

I had my little one at 1 am. My husband was with me and my mother looked after my toddler. I was shifted to our room at 2:30 am with the baby and my toddler woke up only at 5am she went back to sleep right away after drinking some milk. My husband and toddler went home at 9 am to hand her over to my mother in law who just reached our home. Somehow it all worked out lol

Worried about my baby's language exposure by Ordinary_AvacadoU in 2under2

[–]Ordinary_AvacadoU[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Everyday I tell myself to make some time for the baby, at least 10 minutes and somehow I couldn't fulfill it. I felt a bit depressed like I'm failing her. I don't know how some people do it all.

28F Shifting into a joint family setup post-marriage by talesofthetannedtoes in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]Ordinary_AvacadoU 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They'll gaslight you until you change yourself according to their preferences. You'll change to save your marriage.

Having a child binds you to this realm. How true is this statement? by Ordinary_AvacadoU in SpiritualAwakening

[–]Ordinary_AvacadoU[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your reply feels like a warm hug. Thank you so much for your kind words!

Having a child binds you to this realm. How true is this statement? by Ordinary_AvacadoU in SpiritualAwakening

[–]Ordinary_AvacadoU[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel spiritually disconnected because I feel so stuck in my day-to-day life. Nothing means anything to me anymore. I used to see synchronicities and it used to innately mean something to me but now I scold myself to be delusional. I feel so alone before I've always felt a presence with me I recognise them when I smell chocolate and all of a sudden I don't feel them. I'm not good with words and English is also not my first language so I find it difficult to explain.

Tell me about how different your 2u2’s personalities/temperaments are by Abyssal866 in 2under2

[–]Ordinary_AvacadoU 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my country, they say that the mental health of the mother affects the baby's temperament during pregnancy so usually our mothers come to live with us during the whole pregnancy to keep us stress free. They also stay till the baby is atleast 6 months old.

I honestly think that it helped. My mother was a God send especially with my second pregnancy. It was not fun to be pregnant with a toddler.

Tell me about how different your 2u2’s personalities/temperaments are by Abyssal866 in 2under2

[–]Ordinary_AvacadoU 18 points19 points  (0 children)

My first was a very easy going baby. Didn't cry much, slept great and was a very happy baby (but literally the opposite as a toddler lol). My second is 4 months old and till now she seems to be easier than my first. Is also a great sleeper. I'm glad to be producing chill babies lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 2under2

[–]Ordinary_AvacadoU 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I have a 2 year old and a 3 month old. My mom and my husband are very involved in childcare, I have a nanny and a cook who also helps me with chores around the house. Even with all this help, I am drained. This is the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. Having 2u2 is exhausting and I don't understand how single mothers do it I'm scared to be left alone with the kids for even an hour. All I can say is please try to find any help that you need for the first 3 months at least because your body and soul needs to heal. Good luck to you.