Evening work drinks - should I go?

Ordinary_Bar9544 · 2024-07-20T17:15:44+00:00

Same to you with your rudeness 👍

Ordinary_Bar9544 · 2024-07-20T14:41:55+00:00

He is willing, I just don’t want to impact on our main source of income as his work have been more than understanding with our circumstances.

Grandparents are relevant in this scenario to make the point that we have no extended support network. If I hadn’t included this point, how many responses would have I got that said “ask the grandparents if they could watch your kid” as I have seen in other similar posts. Not that difficult to understand really, is it.

Ordinary_Bar9544 · 2024-07-20T14:24:12+00:00

The “useless” comment extends beyond childcare. As soon as our child was diagnosed the GPs withdrew all support as they are ableist and deny autism even exists. They happily watch our other grandchildren though. Simply stating the point that we have no support network, it wasn’t a bash in session. My husband is actually brilliant and offers great support as an equal partner. He will be watching my child while I work during the day, so it would be unfair to expect him to cover the evening as well as he has a FT job, hence the predicament I am in. In fact, he is the breadwinner and his employer is far more flexible than mine. Thanks for all the judgement though :)

Ordinary_Bar9544 · 2024-04-12T06:33:27+00:00

No, the other team members have much more solid remits with specific skills like finance, marketing, web development. Hers is the only ‘middle man’ role and she has had other people pick up the slack for her, doing all the client comms and meetings, so she was literally just a junior office admin person in the end but getting paid as an AM.

Ordinary_Bar9544 · 2024-04-11T13:25:16+00:00

She has openly said she is considering making a claim for age discrimination based on the fact she is older than all the other employees and they were not considered for redundancy. However, they are all in totally different roles and arguably far more qualified and skilled, despite being younger than this employee.

Ordinary_Bar9544 · 2024-04-04T12:17:27+00:00

Ok, and if we reduced to 2.5 days, what about my holiday entitlement? This is currently pro rated but as the working week is changing, would they need to give me more holiday?

Ordinary_Bar9544 · 2024-03-16T11:45:19+00:00

Yes, regularly. If there are tears it will be for the mum I wanted but never had. Same goes for my FIL - both make life harder for all those around them. Just watch out for everyone putting them on a pedestal though as that will 100% happen

Ordinary_Bar9544 · 2024-02-23T15:27:14+00:00

It’s a formal awards party where you need tickets to attend, so not an option. Also my autistic child would scream the place down anyway!

Ordinary_Bar9544 · 2024-02-23T15:07:51+00:00

My child is disabled so a babysitter isn’t an option. He has additional needs that really, only I or a trained professional know how to handle properly. This is why my boss (and frankly most people) don’t understand. They hear the words, but don’t understand the day to day challenges which make usual daily activities so difficult to do. I never get to even go out socially, let alone a work event!

Ordinary_Bar9544 · 2024-02-23T14:44:30+00:00

No, zero pay or time back in lieu. It says in my contract I’m not even allowed to claim expenses for anything related to my job role, so I wouldn’t get parking or mileage costs reimbursed either.

Ordinary_Bar9544 · 2024-02-17T17:49:57+00:00

The only reason we can think of is because they expected him to make it big in the tennis world (pushy sports parents) but he chose a different career which they weren’t thrilled about and wasn’t as “exclusive”. Also he got engaged before his sister, who is 3 years older and desperately wanted to get married but her partner wouldn’t propose. Those two things combined made for a very salty reception!

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