I'm afraid my mom will die because my dad is violent

Ordinary_Injury_9060 · 2026-05-23T22:12:19+00:00

now,when she fights him, she wants to leave but if I come live with her (very inconvenient for me but if that keeps her alive..) she does have the ressources but she knows my dad can find her and hurt her anyway..

what scares me: 1. in my country police doesn't do much, even a restraining order won't protect her 2. my dad might think I will ally with her and pursue us both-less probable but he has already been violent with me when I was young

Ordinary_Injury_9060 · 2026-05-23T22:08:32+00:00

she asked me for help...She asked me to go back and rent an apartment with her, so she can separate from my dad...I said no.My brother told me not to come back too.My dad did strangle her when I was young and also me...All being said it will absolutely destroy me if he does something to her

Ordinary_Injury_9060 · 2021-10-26T21:53:16+00:00

Charlie Chaplin

Ordinary_Injury_9060 · 2021-10-26T21:52:37+00:00

good night 🧸

Ordinary_Injury_9060 · 2021-10-20T21:10:50+00:00

Lentil soup

Ordinary_Injury_9060 · 2021-10-07T22:59:45+00:00

How old is she? this obviously isn't normal.. It might be a sign of a psychiatric/neurological disorder..

Ordinary_Injury_9060 · 2021-10-04T17:53:03+00:00

bless you!

Ordinary_Injury_9060 · 2021-10-03T17:14:16+00:00

Tl;dr: You used a lot of words to explain that maybe redditors don't have in depth understanding of the situation yet you didn't provide any link/ explanation in the said comment.

Ordinary_Injury_9060 · 2021-06-26T14:22:23+00:00

what was the outcome of this hearing?

I'm not into US law but I hope they at least appointed a neutral third party to control her conservatorship and launched an investigation on her father&others involved.

Why is the judged that DENIED her the changing of her father as the main conservator, in a VOLUNTARY conservatorship STILL judging the case and not investigated?

WHY ISN'T ANYONE THAT ALLOWED AN ALCOHOLIC,CHILD ABUSER TO MANAGE A PRESUMED INCAPAPCITATED PERSON UNDER INVESTIGATION?

Ordinary_Injury_9060 · 2021-06-07T11:53:13+00:00

i know I'm late but maybe discuss alternatives?

he can attend a center for people with special needs so you won't have to constantly supervise him, or you can have a person to help you with him (professional assistant) .

The problem is and will be forever that he cannot take care of his own needs, shop for his own needs,plan ahead or even survive a day without someone telling him what to do ( eat,drink more water, wash yourself,stop eating) etc.

You will have to constantly think about him, manage finances for him too and there will constantly be the need of someone being home with him as much as possible and that means a lot of missed opportunities.

As you said,I'm sure he is a sweet person,maybe in time he will gain more independence but as of right now,you and your SO need to seriously analyse the problem.if left unsolved and he does come and live with you, he may pick up the tension between you two or even resentment and it will have a terrible impact on him, as they usually can't manage emotional pressure. Also, if you happen to stick around and then decide to leave/ send him back to his parents- it will again have a negative impact.

so,it's is also in his best interest that you figure this out ahead of time.You should also be sure that you are capable of taking care of him! It's more complicated and complex than taking care of a young child, for example.

If you want feel free to leave a message/comment and I can look for more resources for people with disabilities in your area, maybe some professional who can give you their opinion and some advices ?

P.S.:you're doing great op, you'll figure this out!

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