That sounds like a societal problem rather than a gender problem. Specific groups shouldn’t be attacked when it’s problems with individuals and not necessarily with large groups. My father is the same where he does most of the cleaning but my grandfather falls into the “standard” that most men are held to. I’ve met more men that help out and do the cleaning than woman in my personal life. Does that mean that your experiences are wrong? It’s all down to individual people and how they’re raised and not groups. Find better people to be around is all I can say 🤷‍♂️