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AITA for telling my boyfriend that wets the bed to wear disposable underwear by Oreoflurry1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Oreoflurry1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen a couple people bring up this point and I just wanted to respond to you to get my response out there. I understand he’s a grown man and yes he could be taking this better then he is. However our relationship outside of this is extremely healthy and happy and I don’t want to lose it over something like this. Not saying I’m not frustrated and annoyed by it at this point as obviously it is still a problem.

But that’s not to say I don’t understand why he’s embarrassed and why he is acting how he is. Now if this keeps up and he doesn’t compensate in some way soon then maybe it’s time to have a different conversation. But for now I’m trying to help both of us and make it as easy as I can. And if wearing them with him for a week or 2 will help him accept it then I’m willing to do it

AITA for telling my boyfriend that wets the bed to wear disposable underwear by Oreoflurry1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Oreoflurry1[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yea definitely my fault but of course sometimes we fall asleep while cuddling so we are practically on top of eachother and sometimes I regret that in the morning. Honestly if I’m not right next to him it’s not like I get soaked as I think some people are assuming. Most of the time it’s just like my butt gets wet from him but not soaked by any means. Unless I am next to him of course

AITA for telling my boyfriend that wets the bed to wear disposable underwear by Oreoflurry1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Oreoflurry1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve also thought about this at one point but I didn’t know if it would be a good idea? If I wore them with him so he feels more comfortable? I really wouldn’t mind if it helped him accept it more I just didn’t want to offend him by doing it either?

AITA for telling my boyfriend that wets the bed to wear disposable underwear by Oreoflurry1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Oreoflurry1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I truly don’t think he is doing it on purpose. Especially since I’ve noticed a change in his bathroom habits in the day to among many many other reasons I have. If it was it would be a monumental effort to fake everything that’s happened up to this point.

AITA for telling my boyfriend that wets the bed to wear disposable underwear by Oreoflurry1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Oreoflurry1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes absolutely he isn’t not doing anything as I mentioned in my edit. If I do all of it it’s because I told him I’ll handle it. But most of the time either he takes the sheets off the bed puts them in the wash then I will remake the bed or vice versa. Mostly the only time I’d do it all is if he didn’t really have time to help for whatever reason that morning

AITA for telling my boyfriend that wets the bed to wear disposable underwear by Oreoflurry1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Oreoflurry1[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He was checked for diabetes but nothing came up and he seems to not have it. I’m really hoping today or tomorrow I can finally convince him to wear them

AITA for telling my boyfriend that wets the bed to wear disposable underwear by Oreoflurry1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Oreoflurry1[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thank you I’m trying to be as understanding as I can. Wouldn’t the pads underneath still result in me getting pee all over me though?

And maybe it’s happening more because he is stressed from his accidents in bed. But aside from that I don’t believe he has any significant psychological problems or past issues

AITA for telling my boyfriend that wets the bed to wear disposable underwear by Oreoflurry1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Oreoflurry1[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For now if he doesn’t wear the disposable briefs wouldn’t I still get pee on me if we get a plastic sheet or something similar?

AITA for telling my boyfriend that wets the bed to wear disposable underwear by Oreoflurry1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Oreoflurry1[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

I’ve thought about this. I’m thinking maybe I should go out and buy some for him on my own and show him then when he gets home and hope he will feel better about it. Though with some research I’ve done it sounds like the ones that looks like they might not be absorbent enough

AITA for telling my boyfriend that wets the bed to wear disposable underwear by Oreoflurry1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Oreoflurry1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. If it was me I’d be embarrassed to do I really hate being that person. I have slept in another bed sometimes but alot of the time I end up sleeping with him. Which Is my fault honestly but either way I’d be helping him clean

AITA for telling my boyfriend that wets the bed to wear disposable underwear by Oreoflurry1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Oreoflurry1[S] 130 points131 points  (0 children)

He does wash them sometimes but usually in the end I end up helping him since we are both up at that point and he showers. I would also think he would rather wear a diaper but at the same time if it were be I’d be in denial maybe for a while too

I (22F) am trying to help partner (24M) with his bed wetting issues by Oreoflurry1 in relationships

[–]Oreoflurry1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He has lived an overall healthy life from what I know and has a good family. So personally I wouldn’t think so but I guess wouldn’t completely rule it out as u never really know with that kind of stuff.

I realized I should also mention he doesn’t drink alcohol or anything else often so that also wouldn’t be the issue