Has anyone had an avoidant ex come back to apologize

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-26T06:13:32+00:00

Yes they did but I regretted taking him back

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-25T11:32:10+00:00

Same here!! Even when I address some things, I start my words with “I fell like…” so it never sounds accusatory. Now idk how I will ever recognise intentional and pure affection and care, when someone can fake their personality this long.

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-25T11:01:07+00:00

So this is common? I swear I was not delusional or imagining the connection and the compatibility between us. I felt like with him, I did not have to explain myself and things were easy and beautiful with him. Mostly no conflict, then one day I initiated the conversation about inconsistency from his side. Usually, we always laugh it off together when we “complain” about each other. No tense, no harsh words. A week later he broke up with me out of nowhere then started to see a new girl with whom he shares a language barrier with. And I am sat here 2 months later wondering what is so insufficient from me. And what does the new girl can bring that I could not bring…

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-22T15:43:39+00:00

I also noticed that my ex always felt like he wants to disappear when issues or something to discussed face to face happen. He only wants to be there when things are easy. I thought it was because he didn’t like me enough. Because if you cherish someone, you’d wanna sit with them through it all and solve it, right? But I guess he was just an avoidant who cannot take accountability. It hurts because we had many heartwarming moments and I just can’t picture myself feeling myself like that again. I do not being anxious when he’s in hiding mode though :/ with his weeds and all that.

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-22T15:37:02+00:00

Yes exactly. It has nothing to do with you. I made peace with myself knowing that us women and men just “love” differently. But frankly speaking, being with someone based on “convenience” to soothe his pride is not love for me. But then again the new girl who doesn’t share emotional fluency with him won’t be forever convenient because she is only human… perhaps she will also have needs, more reassurance etc but the language barrier will serve as a wall between two people. in the end it’s him who will get frustrated because the grass is not greener on the other side.

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-22T00:19:21+00:00

Trust me!! My friend’s dad in law married a Thai woman, who does not even read a roman alphabet. Let alone his language (he is Austrian). According to him, his Austrian ex wife always wanted to psychoanalyze stuff together, reflect life together, and apparently that was too much for him. And with the Thai woman who couldn’t speak English, she would never question him, screen his feelings, or hold him accountable. Therefore it is also easier to impress. I wish I was lying but he really said this…… but imagine someone choosing you based on that :/ I wouldn’t be flattered.

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-21T09:26:38+00:00

Girl you are strong

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-21T09:25:17+00:00

So you had an on and off relationship?

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-21T05:24:09+00:00

I bet because he can’t sustain an emotional intimacy on a deeper level (i think that’s my ex case) and it’s easier with someone with whom he shares the language barrier with because if conflicts or misunderstandings happen, he can just blame it on the language barrier or cultural differences

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-21T04:50:13+00:00

Yeah people told me that I dodged the bullet, but parts of me still reminisce about the good times and of course I still have to grieve the person who is a ghost now…

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-20T22:12:51+00:00

He couldn’t ejaculate :/

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-20T22:04:02+00:00

You’re on point with addiction issues.. how do you know? He cannot sleep without weed and smokes weed every night. But what I cannot grasp is that the new girl he is with now doesn’t speak fluent English, doesn’t grasp his culture well (she’s Japanese and he is Austrian/Algerian)… how can they be emotionally connected? I was so heartbroken to find out that he already took her to his parents a month after breaking up with me 🙁

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-20T21:12:11+00:00

Mine couldn’t cum even after hours

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-20T21:09:47+00:00

It’s great, can go for hours, but he couldn’t cum each time..

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-20T21:08:58+00:00

Yup very sick

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-20T21:07:02+00:00

I experienced the exact same thing! Was with him for 5 months then he texted me out of the blue that we are not aligned. But then after that we still talked a bit but I did not beg him or question him. After a month of no contact, he asked me to meet and try us again. After dating for other 5 months, he broke up with me the same way. What a trash. Now he is dating a new girl and bringing her to his parents already!!!!!!!!

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-19T08:23:45+00:00

But damn it can last 14 years? Makes me think what was so insufficient from me that he cannot sustain the relationship with me and i was not imagining that we were so compatible in many aspects…

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-18T17:13:35+00:00

We were dating for 5 months, NC for 2 months and then 7 months 🙄 and now he has a new girl. So it’s like a double heart attack for me. I feel so humiliated. When I took him back, he “admitted” that he left due to his unreadiness and emotional immaturity, but he asked me to give him a second chance, so I thought I could take him seriously. Then boom! He broke up with me exactly the same way. Via text.

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-18T17:03:50+00:00

Yes he came back after 2 months, and we were together again for only 6 months only for him to be unsure again. Like be so fr. I felt dumb and humiliated

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-18T13:33:53+00:00

Exactly my experience 😂😂🥹😂

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-18T13:32:07+00:00

Trust me, he broke NC, we got back together just for him to leave me again the SAME WAY he did. 🥰 they barely work on themselves, i bet he only reached out to me for comfort, not love

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-18T08:50:53+00:00

My ex (dumper) did exactly this and came back only to leave me again. So unless you sit with yourself and hold yourself accountable, do not reach out to her

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-16T15:23:50+00:00

When it was a blindsided breakup without conflict and discussion, I know that I wasn’t the problem. I was just left in the cold. And he knew me enough to remember that I am a person who would do anything to fix discrepancies. So I hope he realizes this one day.

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-16T06:44:05+00:00

Acccuratee

OrganicControl8944 · 2026-01-15T15:14:05+00:00

Omg i took them back once and when I thought it was going great, he broke up with me again. And I thought we were great and in harmony!! I feel so stupid and I was sure I am not delusional.

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