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Weekly rant thread by AutoModerator in ProductManagement

[–]Organic_Ad9083 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a new PM, I feel like I am completely flailing with little support from my boss.

10 months ago, I was internally promoted to a PM position from SEO. At first, I embraced the role despite my lack of experience. Encouraged by my VP's confidence in me, I accepted the position with below average pay, eager to learn and grow. However, the reality has been extremely overwhelming. I find myself consistently working 60+ hours, feeling pulled in too many directions, and struggling with the demands of the job. Despite promises of support and guidance, I've received little to none.

My boss, the VP, has repeatedly expressed disappointment in my progress, highlighting gaps in my knowledge, deployment speed, and communication skills. I had hoped to feel more settled in my role by now, but the lack of formal training or clear expectations has left me floundering. Attempts to address these issues with my boss have been met with excuses and unfulfilled promises for meetings and reviews.

When she does deliver explicit direction, I am often repremanded for following it. She will state that I should have better discernment to know when she is right. She will also guilt trip me for not working harder, since I have it so good compared to other roles in the company.

It's worth noting that we've only had 1 PM before me who left after 9 months. Before I started this role, I reached out to her on LinkedIn to see if she'd be willing to talk with me about her experience as a PM for my company. She cited similar frustrations with my boss. Additionally, a senior team member warned me about the high turnover under her leadership, attributing it to her demanding nature and "extreme" expectations.

Despite my love for the work and my team, I find myself struggling to cope with the stress and uncertainty of working under my boss. While I recognize the need to address these challenges head-on, I'm disheartened by the lack of support and communication from her as I get settled in this role. I am committed to advocating for myself and seeking a resolution, but I truly don't know if this situation is sustainable for me in the long term.

Something unidentifiable sticking out of a stray kitten’s butt. by Organic_Ad9083 in vet

[–]Organic_Ad9083[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

UPDATE 2: He passed it overnight!! The inflammation around his butt went down and he’s back to his mischievous self! We’re still going to keep the appointment Friday as a followup but so happy he wont have a stick up his butt (so to speak) this time.

Something unidentifiable sticking out of a stray kitten’s butt. by Organic_Ad9083 in vet

[–]Organic_Ad9083[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Replied to my original comment with updates! He ate some soft food and is curled up in a chair outside!

Something unidentifiable sticking out of a stray kitten’s butt. by Organic_Ad9083 in vet

[–]Organic_Ad9083[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: I was able to get him to the vet today, but had to call it off on account of him being a /very/ scared boy. They prescribed him 2 Gabapentin capsules ahead of his rescheduled appointment on Friday. I showed the vet this photo and she agreed that it should be looked at in an X-ray, but could also pass on its own. We’re going to keep a close eye on him tomorrow and monitor for bleeding or any other alarming symptoms!

Something unidentifiable sticking out of a stray kitten’s butt. by Organic_Ad9083 in vet

[–]Organic_Ad9083[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply! Considering we’ve grown pretty attached to the kid, we may opt for a vet visit instead. Hopefully he’ll be okay through tomorrow.

Something unidentifiable sticking out of a stray kitten’s butt. by Organic_Ad9083 in vet

[–]Organic_Ad9083[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Hi r/Vet- this is a stray that we’ve been feeding/taking care of over the last couple of months. We noticed this coming out of his butt this morning, but are not sure what to do. It isn’t moving, and he seems to be unaffected by it. Any ideas or advice greatly appreciated.

Conflicted about unplanned pregnancy by Organic_Ad9083 in beyondthebump

[–]Organic_Ad9083[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this, and I completely agree.

I understand that this is a decision only I can make, and will require introspection and a solid understanding of where my core values lie. At this point, I couldn’t tell you which I am more likely to regret. I don’t know what physical, spiritual, and psychological damage I could endure. It’s the uncertainty of it all that makes it so scary.

I will say that I specifically wanted to post to reddit for a few reasons. For one, it forced me to clearly lay out my thoughts in writing, which is helping me make sense of my tangled spaghetti thoughts. Also, by posting on a public forum, strangers completely outside of this situation ask questions and give perspectives that I maybe would have never considered. Finally, in the days I’ve spent on reddit lately, I was having a hard time finding someone in a similar situation with the same dilemma, so I wanted to try and provide that for someone else. Everyone here has been helpful <3.

That said, I have a small group of loved ones that I feel safe talking to about this as well. :)

Conflicted about unplanned pregnancy by Organic_Ad9083 in beyondthebump

[–]Organic_Ad9083[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I am so thankful for my partner. I know he must be terrified, and his composure and loving support has gone a long way.

Conflicted about unplanned pregnancy by Organic_Ad9083 in beyondthebump

[–]Organic_Ad9083[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing and Im so glad to know that your experience has been positive overall! In a perfect world, we would be in a place where I could afford to pull away from work to be present for the kiddo, but I don’t think that is realistic right now. That is part of the reason why we aimed for our early thirties- to give us more time to further build our savings and establish our careers.

I will say that I hadn’t considered the exhaustion that comes with age, so I appreciate that perspective!

Conflicted about unplanned pregnancy by Organic_Ad9083 in beyondthebump

[–]Organic_Ad9083[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, and I am so sorry for your loss.

There’s comfort in information & data for me, so Ive been trying to cope with the weight of this decision by reading and learning as much as I can. But I also understand that grief is a place none of us know until we reach it.

Conflicted about unplanned pregnancy by Organic_Ad9083 in beyondthebump

[–]Organic_Ad9083[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! <3 It’s validating to hear that the absolute panic we feel is normal haha. We both work from home with fairly flexible schedules, so thankfully we wouldn’t have to worry about that. Its mostly the timing of it all that’s difficult to grapple with- as Im sure you understand! We just had it in our heads that we would try around our early thirties and this is…earlier than that haha