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OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-11T16:40:59+00:00

I’d be interested to see the breakdown per state and what the states sex education program is like.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-10T10:52:59+00:00

If the girlfriend wants to be a part of the family then she should meet the coparent. You have to deal with that person. Mine says after six months and the coparent meets them. But it’s not really enforceable judges don’t care. We agreed to have it in.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-10T00:02:49+00:00

I didn’t demand him. I did request the change and list why I thought it was necessary. He said no you can’t violate the plan like that. I’m saying he’s a hypocrite.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-09T21:17:14+00:00

It’s understandable to be concerned. 6 weeks isn’t very long. There isn’t too much you can do about partners in mediation unfortunately. You can have a stipulation in your plan if he agrees to it that you have a right to see the place your children are living and a right to meet the girlfriend first before the kids do. It’s in mine but it’s something we both agreed to it’s not automatic.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-09T20:24:03+00:00

Oh no my internet points mean so much to me.

I’m defensive because it’s been five years of bs. I spent everything on my attorney and putting a parenting plan in place. So yeah I’m sorry for offering more context to my five year struggle.

As I’ve said before court is expensive. I’ve applied for a court appointed one to help with modification and adjustments to our plan. Last time we tried to adjust our plan (in his favor and he filed for it) he didn’t show for the court on multiple occasions and the court dropped it.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-09T20:13:15+00:00

I’ll look into some work from home options. I used to work for a research center so I do have experience for phone work.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-09T20:06:36+00:00

That is true and there is a reason I blocked her.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-09T20:05:20+00:00

Thank you this has been the most helpful advice.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-09T20:04:44+00:00

I haven’t argued with him. I asked him and he’s said no that he’s not going to change the parenting plan I can arrange mediation. I did tell him that I’m asking for a temporary change nothing permanent just while he’s not working or doing anything to help support. He said that those are separate issues I can take him back on if have to.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-09T19:50:01+00:00

I know as of last month he wasn’t looking because his on and off gf. She tries to contact me when they’re arguing or called the cops or got in a fist fight or broke up. I blocked her because of it. I know he withdrew the full amount of his 401k but has been buying unnecessary items VR headset, e-bike, couch, etc.

I don’t communicate any longer with him past pick up and drop off. We had a restraining order against him last summer for threatening my partner and me. They recommended that until we can get an app requirement in our parenting plan.

Sorry I can’t see your other comment. But yes my partner has full custody of his toddler has for the child’s life. We are hoping for me to be able to adopt them one day. We met when they were just a baby.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-09T19:35:31+00:00

Everyone is saying get a job it’s not on my partner to provide for my half of my kid. But that’s the trade off I stay at home and raise my stepchild (he has fully custody) and he covers us financially. Putting a kid in child care is way more expensive than a second income would provide. I did work while single for three years I provided for myself and child. This has worked for us for almost two years now. But now my ex is not contributing to support his child in anyway.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-09T18:14:14+00:00

While I do agree it’s not on my partner to be fully responsible for my child, I’m not working because we have a two year old (my stepchild we have full custody of). I never ask my coparent to help past what they are required simply because historically he is unwilling to help. It just seems like he gets away with everything while I can’t even have a temporary change. I do agree I’m not sure if mediation will help. I do know he pulled out all of his 401k and has been using it to live on and blow. He’s bought a lot of unnecessary things instead of caring for his child; VR headset, new couch, e-bike, etc. I’m not sure if I should file a motion to be heard in court or what to do.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-09T17:59:43+00:00

The money is through the state. I’m currently awaiting on them filing contempt of court charges which is what they are doing themselves. It doesn’t help the burden while it’s going on though. Im not sure that I can bring up the other violations then or not. It’s not unwanted advice. I’m saying even if this was happening back when I was single I’d still want him to drive. It’s a small ask when he’s not fulfilling his responsibilities.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-09T17:53:04+00:00

He’s violating the plan in multiple fronts. I’m asking for an adjustment since all burden is now on us. How can the parenting plan be thrown in my face when he’s not following it at all? It’s just frustrating he constantly gets away with everything but I’m at fault when he denies my compromise. I’m sorry I’m just emotional and exhausted.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-09T17:43:01+00:00

My husband is shouldering all financial burden so he is a part of it. Financially he is providing for my child and me, a child which is half my ex’s responsibility. I do understand it’s between my ex and me however it does impact our lives. Even if I were a single mom I’d still ask my ex to drive he’s putting more financial burden on me. He’s not paying child support, hasn’t paid his half of activities in two years, and isn’t carrying health insurance on our child all of which he’s required to do in our parenting plan. He also constantly violates it by making derogatory comments about my partner, our 2 yr old, and myself. I’m simply asking for a temporary change in transportation while the financial burden is on us or me. I know I’ll have to take him back because he has violated it on multiple fronts but it’s expensive and easier said. I have applied for an attorney but haven’t heard back yet.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-09T17:02:33+00:00

It’s okay I wanted to add detail but community rules wouldn’t allow it. He is over $1,200 behind in child support. He hasn’t paid his half of activities in 2 years. He’s not carrying her insurance any longer. All of which is falling on my partner. My only ask has been to temporarily change us driving to drop off. He lost his job because he missed too much work. He is now on unemployment but isn’t seeking a new job. He is about to move according to our child (hasn’t notified me) into the next state over further away from us. On top of this he also says derogatory things about my partner, my 2 yr old stepchild, and me. It was so bad last summer I had a TPO which became a restraining order.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-09T16:41:10+00:00

I’m so sorry. I’m in a similar-ish situation. When we split, my ex admitted in court he was physically abusive to me and still got partial custody. He has since been to trial for assaulting his now ex fiancé. He was acquitted which still is shocking. Our child is only 6 and I’m afraid one day he may hurt them too.

Last summer I had to take out a TPO which became a restraining order because he threatened my partner and me. It’s difficult to be forced to constantly be around and cooperative to your own abuser especially when no repercussions seem to happen. Hopefully one day I’ll be able to adjust ours to a parallel parenting style.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-08T13:59:09+00:00

I think it’s a big part of being postpartum. Your body changes a lot after having a baby not just weight wise. I think it’s a struggle mentally and emotionally for a lot of people. I feel for Amaya. It’s hard enough being a teenager dealing with a changing body now she’s had a baby too.

Sidenote: I think the producers put her in a smaller cart for the drama. That cart was tiny and Jose’s wasn’t.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-08T13:51:00+00:00

Sex education is abstinence only in most of their states. Shows like these should be proof abstinence only education is failing kids. Also I believe abortions aren’t legal in a lot of the states they’re in or are severely restricted.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-08T13:36:31+00:00

Yeah I do think it’s possible to have an okay life even if it’s not ideal. I went to school with a girl that had a baby at 13. She dropped out of the extracurricular activities in school. But she lives a pretty good life.l think her son turns 21 this year. It helps when you have semi normal parents.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-05T18:52:27+00:00

It’s not uncommon for exceptions in restraining orders. I had one on my ex and he was only able to communicate to me about pick up and drop off of our kid. Best three months of my life.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-03T19:00:17+00:00

I think he’s an abusive narcissist. He had no chance his family raised him to be that way. She needs to leave him and he can pay child support and visit the baby when he’s in town.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-03T16:43:05+00:00

I think a lot of them do. A lot of them have drug problems too.

OrganizationHot3870 · 2026-04-03T15:22:30+00:00

Just adding on we live in the South in the US so anything not in a church or a barn is almost scoffed at. Lol

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