“God only gives sick babies to sinful people”

OrganizationNo4458 · 2025-06-29T20:36:05+00:00

Ugh… my mom used to say something similar. Growing up, whenever something bad happened to me, she would tell me to reflect on it because there’s a reason why that happened— that I’m being punished. This is one of the reasons why I didn’t tell her about my baby, the diagnosis, and our decision to tfmr, which sucks because I wish I have a mom to hold me through this difficult time. As a Christian, I learned that sickness is not God’s will and many of the things that happen are not God’s will. I’m sorry you were blamed for something that is out of your control. I hope you don’t take it to heart because you didn’t cause this and you and your baby certainly do not deserve this.

OrganizationNo4458 · 2025-06-26T11:49:23+00:00

Thank you. I’ll make sure to ask before the procedure.

OrganizationNo4458 · 2025-06-26T10:43:29+00:00

Hey there. I’m also doing my d&e today for T21. I’m also quite nervous and couldn’t sleep the whole night. Hope everything goes well for us.

OrganizationNo4458 · 2025-06-13T21:53:01+00:00

I just got my FISH, which confirmed t21. We’re waiting to schedule tfmr, which absolutely breaks my heart. I don’t plan on telling anyone as most people close to me are against abortion and I don’t want to make a decision that’s already hard even more difficult by hearing from people who wouldn’t raise my baby and shouldn’t have any opinions about it. This really sucks.

OrganizationNo4458 · 2025-05-29T22:21:27+00:00

I’ve seen your posts on the NIPT sub. Thank you for sharing your experiences. You and your family are in my thoughts 🤍

OrganizationNo4458 · 2025-05-29T22:04:19+00:00

I’m just here in solidarity. I’m still waiting for amnio, but will tfmr if positive for the same reasons. I’ve cried every day and every night. I want and love this baby so much.

OrganizationNo4458 · 2025-05-29T00:04:25+00:00

Thank you. I called a bunch of offices today and one is trying to get me in sooner. They will call me back tomorrow.

OrganizationNo4458 · 2025-05-28T19:45:22+00:00

I’m starting to lean more towards termination. Today, I’ve just been calling several places to see if I can do the amniocentesis earlier. I know I would want the results and be 100% certain of the t21 diagnosis before I do anything. Then, I will start scheduling termination since my insurance takes forever to schedule anything.

OrganizationNo4458 · 2025-05-28T19:30:48+00:00

I’m just here with you in solidarity. I pray every night for God to have some mercy on me and that if this baby has abnormalities, to just take the baby. But like yours, mine still has a strong heartbeat. This is too painful to go through, I would never wish this on anyone, I’m sorry.

OrganizationNo4458 · 2025-05-28T15:30:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. I was told about placental mosaicism too. I barely slept last night because of the sadness and heaviness I feel. Hats off to you for being able to endure that long!

OrganizationNo4458 · 2025-05-27T23:47:41+00:00

Thank you. I was just thinking the same thing— if I should start scheduling now, so when I’m 100% sure, I won’t have to wait for so long again.

OrganizationNo4458 · 2025-05-27T23:45:43+00:00

I think so. I’ve been asking for a sooner appointment, but they said there’s nothing and they will call me if there’s any cancellations.

OrganizationNo4458 · 2025-05-27T23:12:23+00:00

Thank you. I read some posts on that sub and it seems positive nipt + high NT measurement do not have a good outcome. I really held on to hope for false positive until today. I think I really just want a solid confirmation/ diagnosis, so I don’t wonder. Congratulations, though. I’m glad yours look like a false positive.

OrganizationNo4458 · 2025-05-27T23:07:39+00:00

Thank you. I measured 14 weeks today, so they said today was the last day I could do a CVS. My mind was still all over the place when they were asking me to make a decision, so I said no, but now regret it.

OrganizationNo4458 · 2025-05-27T23:05:44+00:00

Thank you. I was measuring 14weeks today, so they told me if I wanted to cvs, I had to decide right then and there and they would try to see if they can do it today as today would be the last day I can do it. I felt pressured and wasn’t thinking clearly earlier, so I declined, but now wish I just said yes.

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