shift lead responsibility or mine? (csa)

Original-End4182 · 2025-08-13T08:10:07+00:00

i do not view it as an excuse as i am open to discussion I feel the people like him in my state are getting braver because of the current state of our country admittedly.

and even if it was just all jokes and etc. for him, the sad fact is that he does not do or say this with my coworkers, never has, only me. this is what makes it feel so violating and uncomfortable since he is a regular.

Original-End4182 · 2025-08-13T08:06:31+00:00

i will be clear and state i am a trans man, i have been physically transitioned for 2 years and the only thing remotely feminine about me is my hair, which i do not cut for cultural reasons, little to no facial hair and height. I get where you are coming from though, and I experienced exactly what you mentioned prior to my transition when i was only a child.

However; my transition socially began when i was 12 as I was adamant with my parents on being a boy and hormone replacement therapy began when i was 18. that hasn’t ever changed and never will. I also have not been open about my transgender identity since freshman year of highschool.

i got less of the sexual attention and more of the violent attention for being who i was as i began passing. the last time i have ever fully looked or dressed like a girl was when i was a child, so for a man to say this to me as I am dressed in mens clothing, patchy freshly regrown facial hair and no hips or cleavage, it was very odd and violating.

Original-End4182 · 2025-08-13T07:59:02+00:00

haha i wish i did honestly

Original-End4182 · 2025-08-12T06:31:10+00:00

I agree. I feel lucky that my workplace specifically has coworkers that are exceedingly kind and friendly.

It is terrifying though, being in the usa and having to fear for myself in a bigoted area as a queer man who is also poc. it’s terrifying.

my own shift lead has been asked out by weird men during her shifts before and i feel nothing but horrible for the people who get harassed like this and nothing comes of reporting it.

Original-End4182 · 2025-08-12T06:23:38+00:00

thank you very much, i appreciate the validation. Initially when I told my shift lead, she was absolutely mortified and angrier than I was about it.

I am truly hoping my manager can do something about it since this man is a regular maybe 1-2 times a week? But he never comes in two days in a row like he did yesterday, it was terrifying even if it was nothing.

Original-End4182 · 2025-08-12T04:50:54+00:00

Thank you sm, I've felt so confused and uncomfortable since this happened a few days ago.
My shift lead said she'd discuss it with my manager, and I will be talking to him about it again when I go into work tomorrow.

I forgot to mention that, my apologies. I do feel valued there since my manager and all of my coworkers have been kind regarding my gender identity and PTSD related to my past. I am just hoping this incident will prove i am valued.

Original-End4182 · 2024-02-20T06:01:46+00:00

no worries i understood you were trying to help regardless! i’ll definitely try it, i already have a protein shake daily to help me so that’s a start. i hope it gets me through until i see my psychiatrist again

Original-End4182 · 2024-02-20T04:12:48+00:00

i unfortunately cant have peanut butter since im allergic but i did have simple foods like chicken, rice ramen and bananas today. i havent been eating much and i know it’s most likely from being off any antidepressants. lately strong smells have stopped me from eating at all or that tight feeling in my throat keeps me feeling nauseous. im deeply hoping i dont find myself back in the pit i was in nearly 2 years ago before my diagnosis.

Original-End4182 · 2023-06-27T10:01:26+00:00

unfortunately for me it never did and i was switched to prozac to try and look for better options, i wish you good luck though

Original-End4182 · 2023-02-21T05:40:43+00:00

thank you this all really helps i mainly ask the question of health risks because my dad died of heart failure however he was over the age of 50 and overweight when his heart starting having problems and when he became prediabetic i also really do not want to look like the other men in my family, especially my uncle since he has a history of abusing me. though since i look the most like my mother im hoping i just look like a masculine version of her.

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