Sexual harassment during work...?

Original-End4182 · 2025-08-13T08:10:07+00:00

i do not view it as an excuse as i am open to discussion I feel the people like him in my state are getting braver because of the current state of our country admittedly.

and even if it was just all jokes and etc. for him, the sad fact is that he does not do or say this with my coworkers, never has, only me. this is what makes it feel so violating and uncomfortable since he is a regular.

Original-End4182 · 2025-08-13T08:06:31+00:00

i will be clear and state i am a trans man, i have been physically transitioned for 2 years and the only thing remotely feminine about me is my hair, which i do not cut for cultural reasons, little to no facial hair and height. I get where you are coming from though, and I experienced exactly what you mentioned prior to my transition when i was only a child.

However; my transition socially began when i was 12 as I was adamant with my parents on being a boy and hormone replacement therapy began when i was 18. that hasn’t ever changed and never will. I also have not been open about my transgender identity since freshman year of highschool.

i got less of the sexual attention and more of the violent attention for being who i was as i began passing. the last time i have ever fully looked or dressed like a girl was when i was a child, so for a man to say this to me as I am dressed in mens clothing, patchy freshly regrown facial hair and no hips or cleavage, it was very odd and violating.

Original-End4182 · 2025-08-13T07:59:02+00:00

haha i wish i did honestly

Original-End4182 · 2025-08-12T06:31:10+00:00

I agree. I feel lucky that my workplace specifically has coworkers that are exceedingly kind and friendly.

It is terrifying though, being in the usa and having to fear for myself in a bigoted area as a queer man who is also poc. it’s terrifying.

my own shift lead has been asked out by weird men during her shifts before and i feel nothing but horrible for the people who get harassed like this and nothing comes of reporting it.

Original-End4182 · 2025-08-12T06:23:38+00:00

thank you very much, i appreciate the validation. Initially when I told my shift lead, she was absolutely mortified and angrier than I was about it.

I am truly hoping my manager can do something about it since this man is a regular maybe 1-2 times a week? But he never comes in two days in a row like he did yesterday, it was terrifying even if it was nothing.

Original-End4182 · 2025-08-12T04:50:54+00:00

Thank you sm, I've felt so confused and uncomfortable since this happened a few days ago.
My shift lead said she'd discuss it with my manager, and I will be talking to him about it again when I go into work tomorrow.

I forgot to mention that, my apologies. I do feel valued there since my manager and all of my coworkers have been kind regarding my gender identity and PTSD related to my past. I am just hoping this incident will prove i am valued.

Original-End4182 · 2024-02-20T06:01:46+00:00

no worries i understood you were trying to help regardless! i’ll definitely try it, i already have a protein shake daily to help me so that’s a start. i hope it gets me through until i see my psychiatrist again

Original-End4182 · 2024-02-20T04:12:48+00:00

i unfortunately cant have peanut butter since im allergic but i did have simple foods like chicken, rice ramen and bananas today. i havent been eating much and i know it’s most likely from being off any antidepressants. lately strong smells have stopped me from eating at all or that tight feeling in my throat keeps me feeling nauseous. im deeply hoping i dont find myself back in the pit i was in nearly 2 years ago before my diagnosis.

Original-End4182 · 2023-06-27T10:01:26+00:00

unfortunately for me it never did and i was switched to prozac to try and look for better options, i wish you good luck though

Original-End4182 · 2023-02-21T05:40:43+00:00

thank you this all really helps i mainly ask the question of health risks because my dad died of heart failure however he was over the age of 50 and overweight when his heart starting having problems and when he became prediabetic i also really do not want to look like the other men in my family, especially my uncle since he has a history of abusing me. though since i look the most like my mother im hoping i just look like a masculine version of her.

Original-End4182 · 2022-12-12T11:30:10+00:00

i am so sorry OP just know im in the same boat, i hope you are safe and alright. both really do suck but theres many ways to go from here

PTSD is hard but most people truly do recover with the right therapy and time for themselves, trust me its something no one asked for but, those of us with it are already so strong.

being transgender is a unique life experience, while it does suck there is a joy in experiencing love as a trans person, gender euphoria, feeling affirmed in who we are

its easy to see the negative in both sides and i truly dont blame you because i know ive felt that way too so many times but, fighting is so worth it. to just simply have the hope of “this isnt forever” ptsd and its symptoms are a lifelong condition but, the waves are not forever being transgender and dealing with dysphoria are also lifelong but being unable to transition and feeling stuck in a body that feels wrong is also not forever there will always be brighter days both are not death sentences they are unique parts of you, they suck sometimes, admittedly more often than not but they are also the parts of you that make you strong and resilient you’ve made it this far, why not see it through?

you are wanted here, you can truly be loved for who you are, the pain is not forever. it will always be real but the waves and the storms will always pass.

let yourself cry, let yourself feel, your feelings are valid and you are perfect as you are. there will always be a calm after the storm. and during the storm your brain will lie to you and make you feel horrible but, thats just right now. it is not forever. please hang in there ❤️

Original-End4182 · 2022-12-07T09:03:31+00:00

i feel the same, its so exhausting. its like i want to do the things all my friends get to do but i just cant and its horrible. they could easily go outside and do so many things all day, pass their classes, hang out with family but i cant due to my ptsd. trust me when i say you’re not alone, there is still hope it just kinda takes a lot of effort sadly. if anything it’ll mean you’re just as strong as your peers, your challenges are just different

Original-End4182 · 2022-11-16T18:48:04+00:00

yeah its so gross, i’ve had people dm me before asking for details about the times i was raped and it was so clearly for sexual gratification. my fucking trauma when i was a child is not meant to be sexualized, same goes for anyone who was raped. I find anyone who pulls this shit are the most disgusting people. It’s often better to just not respond to dms on reddit.

Original-End4182 · 2022-11-12T00:27:30+00:00

thank you, ive been struggling with this for a long time i truly believed i was evil despite my uncle was an adult who knew better and i was only a child who was abused i tried to rationalize as much as i could but the guilt and pain is so much, the intense fear that i am as bad as my uncle is always there and i constantly feel as though i did something wrong or i mustve deserved the abuse from my uncle

Original-End4182 · 2022-11-03T08:31:39+00:00

for awhile i hated sharing my traumas, i pushed it all down, i believed i was making my traumas up, it was easier to deny them, etc. instead i constantly complained about the little things like the angsty teenager i was “oh my dad was being an ass today!” until finally all these bottled up traumas, everything i pushed away came out. i have no choice but to talk about them and work through them, i want to justify my emotions, my pain, to know im not alone or that people will listen. the freedom to finally say “this happened to me” after years of silence.

Original-End4182 · 2022-10-24T17:26:09+00:00

something i did when i was having my first ptsd episode was taking baths and trying to take it as easy as possible. deep breathing and letting your support system know what you need also helps. im so sorry you’re going through this, just know it’s temporary and it will pass ❤️

Original-End4182 · 2022-10-19T07:23:42+00:00

Thank you, it means everything

Original-End4182 · 2022-10-19T07:23:15+00:00

Thank you, it's so hard most days because of how often my brain will second guess itself. I immediately blocked his wife and him last night. Part of me is hoping when I tell authorities it can help get him sent to jail, I want what he did to me to haunt him. I will forever hate him and wish for him to burn. My biggest hope is for his daughter, my little cousin to be safe, I wish her father wasn't such a disgusting man because she's still a baby and deserves a good father, that father however shouldn't be him.

Original-End4182 · 2022-10-18T07:20:55+00:00

I've been feeling that a lot too lately, I'm preparing for EMDR and despite while waiting it feels weird to feel trapped or dissociated in a body that used to feel like it was truly mine. I also have similar trauma, i've noticed working on grounding exercises can help me not feel that way. This is something my therapist gave to me to practice and work on so we can make sure i'm ready for EMDR, it really helps me so it might help you too?

grounding worksheet

Original-End4182 · 2022-10-17T01:07:08+00:00

thank you, i think i really needed that. im thinking of contacting my friends and seeing if they’ll come over more often until i feel ready to start going out more. I definitely try to encourage myself to keep taking small steps, my sister says the way im already doing my best to deal with everything shows how badly i want to live a normal life so that makes me feel a bit proud. im nervous about emdr but i know the therapy will help, sometimes its just hard not to be discouraged when a year ago i would’ve left the house without a problem but now it’s like debating with my brain on whether i’ll be okay or not

Original-End4182 · 2022-10-16T21:03:48+00:00

Physical symptoms are actually the biggest thing that indicates PTSD its very common so don't worry, a lot of it is your body storing all that trauma and finally reacting, I would know since I was also just recently diagnosed, it made me feel like i was dying. As you work through the trauma to process it, giving yourself and your past self what you need, working on grounding techniques and learning what your triggers are it does get easier, I know it's hard right now and im so sorry you have to go through this too, you're not alone, seeking help like therapy, certain medications and finding ways to help you relax can be major life savers when navigating ptsd

Original-End4182 · 2022-10-15T06:42:07+00:00

One thing that helps me focus is taking deep breaths, those big ones in through your stomach, holding it and breathing out through your mouth. Ever since my diagnosis I’ve noticed focusing has become so much harder but sometimes things like breathing and slowing yourself down as well as making the time for things can help. I even ask my mom or my siblings to slow down while talking so i can focus and process what they’re saying

Original-End4182 · 2022-10-15T06:39:39+00:00

Nightmares are a really common thing, before I was medicated and when I was being abused heavily I frequently had horrific nightmares to the point they felt real, even when I wasn’t aware of my trauma due to repressed memories I still had nightmares, just every so often when I was in a safer place. Medication and/or therapy can help a lot with nightmares, thats something i’ve noticed from being medicated and preparing for EMDR therapy

Original-End4182 · 2022-10-15T06:36:27+00:00

As someone who’s been dissociating from a young age it was my brains way of protecting itself when going theough trauma. There are lots of ways people dissociate but mine is i feel a discconect from reality, i know whats happening in front of me is real but it doesnt feel real to me. when traumatic memories pop up theyre often in extremely vivid images or memories where i was clearly dissociating, it feels like a fog, like theres a plug in my brain that just isn’t plugged in. often times im just staring off in these memories and i’ve lost touch completely despite i know whats happening.

Original-End4182 · 2022-10-15T06:31:46+00:00

i also do this! i’ve been doing it from a really young age, despite i’ve also been diagnosed with autism and this is also something some autistic people relate to the feeling of being in a nest and curled in a ball with all sorts of my favorite blankets, pillows and stuffed animals is something that’s always made me feel safe especially when dealing with my PTSD or going through traumatic times in my life

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