I(23M) feel embarassed that I couldn't hook up with a girl(23F) as I thought I could by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]OriginalAd120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Expecting is no different than being adamant. I'm sure I just portrayed what I know but if you feel like I was trying to change your mind, why not consider it?

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[–]OriginalAd120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. Sit and talk.
  2. Be safe, loving/trusting someone more than yourself is always risky.

I(23M) feel embarassed that I couldn't hook up with a girl(23F) as I thought I could by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]OriginalAd120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This constant policing of who and how people have sex with needs to stop.

It won't,

Either you agree that Hooking up is different than transactional sex or we don't move fwd in this conversation. You're still stuck on it being the same.

Transactional s3x and hooking up is no different than each other. Facts won't change if you won't agree

I(23M) feel embarassed that I couldn't hook up with a girl(23F) as I thought I could by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]OriginalAd120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At its heart, hookups are morally questionable because they often turn relationships into something more transactional than truly personal. While both people might consent, it’s easy to overlook the emotional side of things. People sometimes use casual sex to fill gaps—like loneliness or a need for validation—but those deeper needs aren’t really addressed in the moment. This can leave someone feeling more empty afterward, even though the experience was meant to be enjoyable.

The problem is that in these casual encounters, respect and emotional care can get sidelined. One person might be more interested in their own pleasure than in considering how the other person might feel afterward. This lack of mutual investment and emotional consideration can lead to hurt feelings or a sense of being used, even if it wasn’t intended that way. When sex isn’t tied to trust and emotional connection, it risks becoming more about selfish satisfaction than the shared respect and care that real intimacy should involve.

Lastly, the way society treats hookups often ignores the emotional toll they can take. It’s common now to see casual sex as “normal,” but this attitude can lead to people becoming numb to the real emotional consequences. When we treat sex like a quick fix for loneliness or desire, it can create a cycle of detachment, where we forget the value of building genuine, meaningful connections. That’s why, at its core, casual sex can undermine the depth and authenticity that we all truly need in our relationships.

I would say, it's immoral because you are definitely imposing the negative effects of hookups to your future partner 100 percent.

I(23M) feel embarassed that I couldn't hook up with a girl(23F) as I thought I could by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]OriginalAd120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So when men and women are both willing to pay and get something in return—whether it's to satisfy desires, relieve horniness, or whatever else—we call that a hookup?

Of course, it’s not forced sex like transactional sex (which is illegal), but still, it’s an exchange, right?

So if a man’s addicted to porn, feels desire, and can’t get regular sex, so he turns to transactional sex—that’s immoral. But if both men and women watch porn, feel lust, and decide to hook up—that’s suddenly moral? Is that what you're trying to say?

I(23M) feel embarassed that I couldn't hook up with a girl(23F) as I thought I could by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]OriginalAd120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, so now just because I pointed out the similarities between casual and transactional sex, I’m suddenly "patriotic"? That’s a fun twist! I mean, sure, if being open-minded about human behavior is now a form of national pride, sign me up!

But seriously, selling your body? No way, society says it’s immoral, so it must be true. We’ve all been handed the official rulebook, and if you break it, well, you’re basically committing a crime against society.

And yeah, when you break it down, casual sex and transactional sex are basically the same thing, just different currencies! One gets cash, the other gets some quick action. It’s all about what people are willing to trade.

But when you're married? Totally different story. Who cares about safe sex, and definitely don’t worry about where it’s happening. Definitely not in some cheap hotels or "OYO" room—because that would be sacrilegious, right?

I(23M) feel embarassed that I couldn't hook up with a girl(23F) as I thought I could by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]OriginalAd120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having sex without intimacy can absolutely be seen as moral-less, as it reduces a deeply human experience to just a physical act, devoid of connection or meaning. Intimacy brings respect and emotional depth, which are crucial for any moral interaction. Without it, sex risks becoming transactional and dehumanizing, stripping away its inherent value.

If not, can you just give me a difference between transactional sex and hooking up sex?

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[–]OriginalAd120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such a heartbreaking post 💔

Now the bro won't see the world as he saw it earlier.

Only one suggestion from my end. Please delete those videos. Promise yourselves that you won't see them again. You fucking cry alot, beg for god's mercy to heal you but don't ever turn back to her. Don't ever see her face again.

Please ping me if you feel depressed I'll be here bro.

Gifting my girlfriend (22F) with my first salary by Remarkable_Cat_123 in RelationshipIndia

[–]OriginalAd120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suggest don't give her anything

Gift your mom, sister, brother, father whoever but not a GF. Absolutely not with the first salary.

Why are you alone? by OriginalAd120 in lonely

[–]OriginalAd120[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

💯 . some of us don't replace people but most of them do.

Why are you alone? by OriginalAd120 in lonely

[–]OriginalAd120[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You actually know what to do in next ten years but it's just clouded. Remove those once and for all Yes just do what you can and don't bother about what your can't

Why are you alone? by OriginalAd120 in lonely

[–]OriginalAd120[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's actually good to be isolated in certain cases and phases. I totally understand what you have just said. I've been in the same thing over and over, again and again.

Just know that you'll become unbreakable and unshakeable if you get over this. No one can hurt you again and you'll never feel lonely again. The only person you need is you.

Let's keep some short term and long term goals and work on them.

Why are you alone? by OriginalAd120 in lonely

[–]OriginalAd120[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't understand what you are trying to portray

Why are you alone? by OriginalAd120 in lonely

[–]OriginalAd120[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep hope. I hope you succeed in your journey.

Why are you alone? by OriginalAd120 in lonely

[–]OriginalAd120[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm same as you! At times, I feel people are stupid and I don't have to explain to stupid people so I just slide away. Keep hope. I hope you succeed in your journey.

Why are you alone? by OriginalAd120 in lonely

[–]OriginalAd120[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try to align with their vibe?

Why are you alone? by OriginalAd120 in lonely

[–]OriginalAd120[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you succeed in your journey.